TPM values feedback: what do you think?
A couple of ideas:
The best way to stop abuse is power dynamics and self-empowerment
You don’t want to be a lamb hoping there are no wolves. Beacause there might be.
And, you don't want to be a lamb hoping there's a shepherd nearby who will save you. Because there might not be.
Remember the mantra: there can be no good without mastering evil.
I believe that another core aspect of personal empowerment is not only avoiding a victim mindset in the spirit of believing you might be near wolves, but also in the spirit of believing you might only be able to rely on yourself.
And, in those cases, you want to be relying on yourself as someone who can make do without the generous aid of a samaritan shepherd.
You’re only as free as your personal and mental power allows you to be
"Let us understand what our own selfish genes are up to, because we may then at least have the chance to upset their designs."
-Richard Dawkins, The Selfish Gene--
"What’s good for the selfish neurological pathways is seldom good for you—or for those around you. You cannot be free unless you first learn how your unconscious processes are pushing you around."
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"Let us understand what our own selfish neurological pathways are up to, because we may then at least have the chance to upset their designs."
*Click the blockquote above to expand it.
Quotes inspired by Lucio's quotes and the work of Gregory Caremans (see How To Rewire Your Brain).
The selfish neural pathways can be just as dangerous as the selfish genes if left unchecked.
If it's true that you’re only as free as your personal and mental power allow you to be, then understanding your neurological programming is equally as important as understanding your genetic programming.
Thank you Ali!
Those might the most important, yet under-developed parts of TPM.
I'm coming back to it soon when I can sit on it with more time.
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Hey Ali,
I agree and like the first one, albeit I wonder if it won't make it too long to justify that addition.
The added value is there, but I'm not convinced it's big enough to justify adding another line.
As for the second one, it seems pretty much the same thing but expressed in different ways.
And technically speaking, the gene comes before the neurological pathways, so it's probably best to go straight to the very source.
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OK, cool.
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on February 1, 2022, 6:47 pm(...)
I agree and like the first one, albeit I wonder if it won't make it too long to justify that addition.
The added value is there, but I'm not convinced it's big enough to justify adding another line.(...)
By the way, when I was thinking of that second line, I wasn't only thinking:
"And, you don't want to be a lamb hoping there's a shepherd nearby who will save you from wolves. Because there might not be."
I was really thinking:
"And, you don't want to be a lamb hoping there's a shepherd nearby who will save you in life. Because there might not be."
Which is a broader, more valuable way of looking at it, in my opinion, because it covers much more ground.
Wolves can cause damage to one's life, of course. But, even when there are no wolves around, one can still suffer immense, unnecessary misfortune simply because they believe they're entitled to help from others that they aren't. Or, they lose out in life because they believe they're too weak and helpless to acquire the value they want on their own.
In those cases, acknowledging that one must put in the work to lift themselves up even when they're not guaranteed help from others is an important lesson to underline because even when no wolves are present, one's belief that they need the aid of others to move forward can still hinder their success.
In other words, you don't want to avoid being a lamb simply because there might be wolves. You also want to avoid being a lamb because lambs don't go far in life in anyway.
For a site that encourages personal empowerment, I think that value is important. But, whether that value deserves to be made an addition to the TPM values list is entirely up to you.
That's a GREAT point, Ali.
You're right.
Still this shepherd right after the wolf feels like the shepherd was there to protect from the wolf.
So maybe something like:
You don't want to be a lamb hoping to be in a lamb-friendly world.
Because it's not.
Plus, there are wolves out there who specifically target the lambs.
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I like that a lot.
I'd only make a small change to the wording so it reflects Machiavelli's quote a bit more:
"Any man who tries to be good all the time is bound to come to ruin among the great number who are not good." — Niccolò Machiavelli
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You don't want to be a lamb hoping to be in a lamb-friendly world.
Because it's not.
Plus, there are a great many wolves who target naive lambs.Remember the mantra: there can be no good without mastering evil.
*You can click the blockquote above to expand it.
Boom, amended it now.
And man, I gotta say, you really have a great eye for capturing these higher-level values and their representations and ramifications.
It's last least the second time you did it and it made me think "damn right".
The first time was about "TPM for nice guys" from a user that disappeared for privacy concerns (looked for it 2 minutes but couldn't find it).
Thank you Ali!
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Only doing my best, man :).
BTW, here's that "TPM for nice guys" post if you need it.