Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on February 26, 2022, 3:38 pm

Quote from Bel on February 19, 2022, 7:13 pm

at https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/how-to-succeed-in-your-career/topic/strategic-self-promotion-for-career-advancement/:

1. under 1: “You: The IT department was backed up, but I’m happy to report that I convinced the them to repair your laptop ahead of several other requests.”

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Super useful, thank you so much, Bel!

Fixed them now.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on February 26, 2022, 3:57 pm

Thank you so much, Bel!

Super useful, and fixed it all.

Quote from Bel on February 25, 2022, 2:15 pm

BTW, this chapter on work is awesome and instructive, I made practically every single mistake under the sun here in the past.

Thank you and glad it was helpful.

And BTW, that's one of the reasons why I think it's a good idea to go through those lessons even though some people might not work in a structured organization. Succeeding there is still in large part about understanding people, and many principles and approaches also apply to any other relationship.

Quote from B on March 2, 2022, 7:55 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/how-to-succeed-in-your-career/topic/bonus-meetings-strategies/:

• under #1: “If persuade others of your idea on the spot,” [“If you persuade”]
• “Speak to the key stakeholder before the meeting, and get their opinions” [“stakeholders”]
• “And if you decide to just walk in and do your thing with yout big pitch, be strategic about it.”
• “Avoid making it sound like you are criticizing, avoid framing your idea, pitch or solution as necessary against a terrible status quo -that indirectly say that they’re stupid for living under that status quo and that you only know better-.” [“says”]
• “#2. Adapt Like A Chamaleon” [“Chameleon”]
• under #3: “ut in inter-team meetings arguing with your colleagues can be perceived as “friendly fire”. It frames you like you are not being a team player. When you criticize your colleagues in intra-team meetings, it can be perceived like you’re not sufficiently feeling a “team belonging”. You’re not a team player, and they won’t want to support you.When you criticize your colleagues in intra-team meetings, it can be perceived like you’re not sufficiently feeling a “team belonging” [“But”, “inter”, and last sentence seems a typo/repetition from before]
• “Because intra-team’s dynamics in the male culture have a tinge of “us/them”.” [“inter”]
• under 3.2: “This is not the time for philosophizing, or he will feel like you’re trying to play the “superior” guys and framing him as petty”. [“guy”]
• under #4: “It still wroked great though,” [“worked”] and “But they at least consider” [“considered”]

Quote from B on March 5, 2022, 1:37 pm

at https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/political-awareness-skills/topic/the-11-types-of-political-players-how-to-deal-with-them/:

1. “And even people who are not in any category at all will, depending on times and situations, will behave accordingly to a certain stereotype”.
2. under #1: “You: Yooo, listen to this guy, come here, do this, do that, who you talking to man?”.”
3. under #2: “As a matter of fact, if they refuse your cooperation after you’ve already made friends, they disemower your even more. Those types of grumpy players are the individual with which the famous Machiavellian line “being feared is better than being respect” applies.” [“disempower”, “individuals” and “respected”] and “Use your lunches to expand your network and for higher-value individual).” [“individuals”]
4. under #3: “They can use the rule of law either defensive or aggressively.” [“defensively”] and “If he had been a friendlier, team-playing folk, he would said the same with a much different approach.” [“would have said”] and “Stickler can become an issue when you need something from them” [“sticklers”]
5. under #4: “But better than despising them, it’s learning how to deal with them.” [“is”] and “That’s true, and they propose approach” [“propose the following approach”] and “When the time comes for my performance review, I want to make sure I get the same recognition that Jack” [“Tracy”] and “Some credit takes are good at pampering their bosses.” [“takers”]
6. under #6: “You: You damn right! Thank you for remindng me!”
7. under #7, “Can’t Task Me players” are mentioned, but I can’t find them elsewhere;
8. under #7: “After you have your chat, you need to make sure than from then on you give them ask in a way that…” and “You: Ahaha thanks my man. Look I’m having some troubles with the financials of Appodeal. (you take the blame for not undestanding) I was thinking maybe you can help me understand your anlaysis (you phrase your request in a way that doesn’t triggert their resistance)”
9. under #12: “It’s common for authors who seek to help “nice people” actually push them too far into becoming assholes-.” [“to actually push” and “-“ at end of sentence]
10. “#13. The Shirker” [“Shirkers”]
11. under #13: “They shirkers use a passive-aggressive attitude” [“The”] and “He might pretend not to see your emails” [“They”]

So I see my female colleague that "intentionally forgot" to send me documents was basically a shirker, and as you suggest, good teams don't include them.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 5, 2022, 6:36 pm

Quote from Bel on March 2, 2022, 7:55 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/how-to-succeed-in-your-career/topic/bonus-meetings-strategies/:

• under #1: “If persuade others of your idea on the spot,” [“If you persuade”]
• “Speak to the key stakeholder before the meeting, and get their opinions” [“stakeholders”]
• “And if you decide to just walk in and do your thing with yout big pitch, be strategic about it.”
• “Avoid making it sound like you are criticizing, avoid framing your idea, pitch or solution as necessary against a terrible status quo -that indirectly say that they’re stupid for living under that status quo and that you only know better-.” [“says”]
• “#2. Adapt Like A Chamaleon” [“Chameleon”]
• under #3: “ut in inter-team meetings arguing with your colleagues can be perceived as “friendly fire”. It frames you like you are not being a team player. When you criticize your colleagues in intra-team meetings, it can be perceived like you’re not sufficiently feeling a “team belonging”. You’re not a team player, and they won’t want to support you.When you criticize your colleagues in intra-team meetings, it can be perceived like you’re not sufficiently feeling a “team belonging” [“But”, “inter”, and last sentence seems a typo/repetition from before]
• “Because intra-team’s dynamics in the male culture have a tinge of “us/them”.” [“inter”]
• under 3.2: “This is not the time for philosophizing, or he will feel like you’re trying to play the “superior” guys and framing him as petty”. [“guy”]
• under #4: “It still wroked great though,” [“worked”] and “But they at least consider” [“considered”]

Boom!
Thank you so much, Bel!
Fixed it.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 5, 2022, 7:22 pm

Quote from Bel on March 5, 2022, 1:37 pm

at https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/political-awareness-skills/topic/the-11-types-of-political-players-how-to-deal-with-them/:

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So I see my female colleague that "intentionally forgot" to send me documents was basically a shirker, and as you suggest, good teams don't include them.

Awesome, thank you so much, Bel!

Fixed now.

And yes, it might have been a shirker looking to buy time -albeit if I remember correctly, she seemed more high power and driven, while stereotypical shirkers are often losers at the bottom of the food chain-.
Edit: but it's certainly possible that in the specific case she used that game as a way of buying time and avoiding tasks.

Quote from B on March 5, 2022, 7:52 pm

I agree, I now realize she was playing a much nastier game of trying to put me under control, making sure my work was as difficult as possible due to her inconveniencing me with her moves, while shirking my requests for help on my cases in which she had no interest.

I find that shirking requests for help is also one of the signs of frenemies, though they usually do it by faking providing some useless superficial sabotaging “help”. Many specific past cases of this now come to my mind, including many “colleagues” and my former “boss”.

I think shirking is one the warning signs of all takers/manipulators. Asking for help can now even be a test, as you taught me.

Quote from B on March 30, 2022, 3:06 am

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/political-awareness-skills/topic/workplace-power-moves-what-they-are-how-to-handle-them/:

1. under #1: “Notice: “this is important for you to know so I’ll repeat” is a great way to…” [the “t” in “repeat” is not in italics] and “Him: ((says nothing…” [opening parenthesis repeated]
2. under #3: “It looks like all you care is the truth and you let them shine a bit while you still come out of like the most powerful individual in the room.” [“come out of it”]
3. under #4: “You: the team needs by tomorrow and the boss told you to take care of it because I am taking care of customers outreach” [“needs its by tomorrow”] and “The worst that can happen at this point is if they escalate to the boss, and the boss say it’s true that you should do it.” [“says”] and “Without looking at your colleague or without asking “sorry” to your colleague” [“saying”]
4. under #5: “Empty tasking is tasking for something that you either were going to do anyway, that is among your main responsibility to take care of…” [would remove “among”] and “In brief, it’s tasking you of something that you didn’t need to be told to do and that makes no sense.” [“to do something”] and “You: I will send it to you for review” [“them”]
5. under “Beating Empty Tasks”: “You: Why do you that?” [“do you do that”] and “You: Reminding is good, but it’s annoying reminding people of things they will do anyway.” [“to remind”]
6. under “Frame Trapping”: I was part of a batch of graduates on one of those “talent rotational programme” [“programs”] and “When they will correct you, they will sound even vainer.” [“they correct you”]
7. under “Name The Game”: “Power Mover: It’s just a small feature change, it will take you 5 minustes” [“minutes”] and “Power Mover: You know man, I have done a lots of stuff for you and I am always willing to help. Can you just do this one little thing” [“a lot”] and “Game: minimization + potential false promise + slipper slope technique” [“slippery”]
8. under “Scapegoating”: “It can be a difficult situation    If you accuse others, you look like you a betrayer who can’t her his” [missing “.” at end of first sentence; “can’t shoulder his”] and “In these situations, a socially intelligent way of dealing with it is to refuse taking the blame while also avoid pointing fingers.” [“avoiding”] and “Now Matt knows it’s not your fault but Chris fault.” [“Chris’s”] and “You might also this if Chris is present,” [“also say this”]
9. under “Boss Scapegoating”: “You can either keep your mouth shut, or you can polittely and indirectly suggest that it was his mistake.” and “I’m prety sure I forwarded you the e-mail the same day I received the information.”

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 30, 2022, 6:53 am

Boom, thank you so much Bel!

Super useful and all fixed now.