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Voice power and rank
Roger Love talks about when there is a LEADER in the room to have a higher pitch, lower-volume, and faster paced voice than them. In the book, Power Cues, the author states that the voice is the strongest power cue, so it makes sense to follow Roger's advice and avoid "outshining the master" in more structured environments with higher ups.
In the work module, it says that bosses like to feel like the ONLY rooster in the team. It'd be better to avoid them seeing you as a threat by NOT sounding more "alpha" than them— this is also stated in a TPM post.
I personally do it more when they can provide value, even on 1-1 conversations. Sometimes I don't know if they would respect me more otherwise or just feel threatened. The rule applies more to structured environments, or maybe if you're new to a social circle and want to go the warmth then power route then outshining the leader with a roaring voice might not be the best strategy, which goes against the "masculine advice" of deeper/resonant voice is always better.
Here's a short 15 second example of a dominant/high-power voice that could work well to earn respect and status among peers BUT could potentially backfire among higher ups in a work environment, and come across as overly-dominant. Also, on 1-1 interactions it has the potential to break rapport.
https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxW6LXDB99wLCHn5kgg_qn9dKVWDl7xnTC?si=DwaTOSIVaTq7Co3E
Yep, agree.
It's one element of power-protecting, not making the higher-ups feel threatened, and generally showing that you "get" and respect the hierarchy -which is also important for the good functioning of any team-.
As usual, optimum balance.
Don't go too far on the opposite side that you undermine yourself -but you and people reading here know that-.
P.S.:
There's a thread in the "start here" section on how to embed pictures/videos, you can read there and even do various tests there if you wish to learn that.
Interesting that power protecting also applies to the voice. Thanks for the input on that and embedding pictures/videos.
