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Women: stop tasking men, it makes them run away

#1 · October 10, 2020, 1:14 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on October 10, 2020, 1:14 pm
Yesterday I went to my neighbor's place.
We were discussing some information and strategies for the condominium meeting, and she was brimming at her usual high-power frequencies.
She had a stack of "power of attorneys papers" because she's voting for like 10 other people or so (edit: it was 13 in the end), and you should have seen her excel file.
She had names of owners with relative square meters, so just by plugging the votes in, she was able to predict the results, and strategize as a consequence.
Many of her neighbors ask her what they should do, and that gives her huge power in decision-making -and swaying decisions-.
She is a high-powered lady in general, not just in the condominium.
A hard-charging businesswoman in a multinational corporation, a life go-getter, and lives in a beautiful rooftop flat.
The only thing she's not too good at getting -or keeping-, you might have guessed... Is men and relationships.
Avoid Tasking: the importance of switching from business, to relationships
When I deal with her, there is often some of some of this peppered in the conversation:
Please do this
Sign this for me
Send this back ASAP
Just as an example, in a single screen of texts she sent:
Ehehe looking at this again actually made me laugh :D.
In person she is not that bad, but you still get the feel of a high-powered person who wants to control the frame.
That is obviously effective in getting things done at work, and leading a successful life.
But for women, this is highly harmful in dating.
How do you think it makes me feel to be on the receiving end of all of those?
I, as any other man who wants to maintain power and self-respect, don't like being ordered around. And I don't like people who try to win the frame, instead of welcoming my ideas and inputs.
So my reaction is to push back, and/or cut contact.
If a man was physically attracted to a woman behaving this way, he might still want to bang her, but, granted, not stick around.
I'll write more about this in Seduction University, and with more examples.
There is quite some crappy dating advice for women around.

Yesterday I went to my neighbor's place.

We were discussing some information and strategies for the condominium meeting, and she was brimming at her usual high-power frequencies.

She had a stack of "power of attorneys papers" because she's voting for like 10 other people or so (edit: it was 13 in the end), and you should have seen her excel file.
She had names of owners with relative square meters, so just by plugging the votes in, she was able to predict the results, and strategize as a consequence.

Many of her neighbors ask her what they should do, and that gives her huge power in decision-making -and swaying decisions-.

She is a high-powered lady in general, not just in the condominium.
A hard-charging businesswoman in a multinational corporation, a life go-getter, and lives in a beautiful rooftop flat.

The only thing she's not too good at getting -or keeping-, you might have guessed... Is men and relationships.

Avoid Tasking: the importance of switching from business, to relationships

When I deal with her, there is often some of some of this peppered in the conversation:

Please do this
Sign this for me
Send this back ASAP

Just as an example, in a single screen of texts she sent:

Ehehe looking at this again actually made me laugh :D.

In person she is not that bad, but you still get the feel of a high-powered person who wants to control the frame.

That is obviously effective in getting things done at work, and leading a successful life.
But for women, this is highly harmful in dating.

How do you think it makes me feel to be on the receiving end of all of those?

I, as any other man who wants to maintain power and self-respect, don't like being ordered around. And I don't like people who try to win the frame, instead of welcoming my ideas and inputs.
So my reaction is to push back, and/or cut contact.

If a man was physically attracted to a woman behaving this way, he might still want to bang her, but, granted, not stick around.

I'll write more about this in Seduction University, and with more examples.
There is quite some crappy dating advice for women around.

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#2 · October 10, 2020, 5:29 pm

That is obviously effective in getting things done at work, and leading a successful life.
But for women, this is not harmful in dating.

small typo there

thanks for the post, bossy women can make a man feel emasculated.

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#3 · October 10, 2020, 6:10 pm

Quote from Stef on October 10, 2020, 5:29 pm
thanks for the post, bossy women can make a man feel emasculated.

Exactly.
Most men would not admit it, but that's 60% of the issue -the other 40% is the simple fact that bossiness is annoying from anyone, independently of the relationship-.

What's the next step, you tell me to "bend over please" while you go get your strap on? :)

It might not matter nearly as much for more docile and submissive men, but the percentage of high-quality men in that subgroup is much smaller.

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