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Your praise is only as good as your personal value
From a book I'm reviewing now:
In love, everyone seeks an ego boost—and not a small one.
BUT:
To pull this off, though, the lover must be a winner, which explains why the praises of toadies and errand girls never work as their mothers promised. Only the applause of valued people carries any value.
Simple yet deep -and true-.
The value / power of the compliment-giver is the true limit of the effectiveness of your praise.
This also applies to the judge role: your personal value -or how the others assess your personal value- is the limit of your judge power.
And it's also true for leadership, where we called it the "law of the leadership lid".
I agree 100%. I used to follow some (wrong) dating advices to demonstrate my weakness and vulnerability. However, every time I did this, I lost some judge power and leadership power. I hope could read your vulnerability article earlier. By the way, I wonder if I can add a comment to your article, as discussing here is kind of off topic.
Vulnerability Is NOT Power: Don't Believe The Hype | The Power Moves
Same things happen when I get reactive and emotional -- low value signs. When I demonstrate low value signs, I lost some leadership.
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Seems like this book: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art by Elizabeth Prioleau
Yeah, there is already a topic that goes quite in-depth in the private section of the forum on vulnerability.
In brief, vulnerability is not to be 100% embraced at all times, and not be 100% avoided either, it's a balancing act that requires some social and power intelligence to do right.
Quote from selffriend on April 10, 2021, 8:02 pmSeems like this book: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art by Elizabeth Prioleau
Yep, that's it.
Did you Google the quote?
