Everything Is Fucked is a social and philosophical analysis of human societies and the meaning of life.
Mark Manson says that hope must rest on nihilism and our appreciation that our lives have no inherent meaning.
Everything Is Fucked Summary
“Everything is Fucked” presents lots of mental elucubration and in this summary, I will focus on the ones which I found to be the most insightful.
There Is No Meaning In Life
Because we care about things we believe they are important. But just because you care it doesn’t mean they are.
As a matter of fact, they’re not.
We elevate the value and importance of events because we need that sense of importance but, in the grander scheme of things, they’re meaningless and insignificant.
We are meaningless.
And that’s OK.
Hope Is Built On Nihilism
Hope, real hope, can’t be built on lies.
And telling yourself you are important is a lie.
Real hope must start by acknowledging and appreciating our insignificance.
From there, we can build a good case for hope and meaningful life.
The World Is Not Good
Mark Manson mentions the typical “feel good” data that positivists like Peter Diamandis or Daniel Pink peddle to tell us that today it’s better than it’s ever been before.
But that’s a lie, he says.
Sure, we’re richer, but we’re also more anxious and depressed than we’ve ever been, feelings of loneliness and isolation are at a record high and social trust is at the lowest and keeps going down.
And that’s without even mentioning extremisms and the environment.
The 3 Pillars of Hope
To develop and keep hope we need three things:
- Sense of control (feeling like we’re in control of our lives)
- Belief in the value of something (something worth striving for)
- Community (being part of a community valuing what we also value)
Don’t Try to Change Yourself
Mark Manson is very critical of the self-help industry of which, he says, he is “unluckily” part of.
He says that when we try and force to change ourselves under the mantra that “yes, you can change and yes, you must”, we often feel worse off.
The self-help industry fills people with inflated hopes and expectations, and when people fail to meet those unrealistic promises, they feel worse off.
Don’t Try to Get Rid of Pain
Pain is part of the human existence, it’s useless trying to get rid of it.
The human natures lead us to seek the negative in any case.
So if you remove the biggest stones from someone’s path, we will still be focusing on the pebbles.
And it’s unhealthy to believe that you can -or should- be always happy. As a matter of fact, Manson says that pain can give significance to our lives.
The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our character, and teh quality of our character is determined by the our relationship to our pain
Change Your Values To Become Better, Not Richer
Mark Manson says you can change your values in two ways:
- Re-interpret your past events
- Imagine future you the way you want to be (visualization)
He says that unluckily poor self-help use the narratives of future visualization for material stuff, like “imagine how rich you are”.
He says that type of visualization does not improve yourself. If anything, you should visualize “how not to have a yacht would feel like and how you’re OK with it”.
Here are a few great insights from “Everything is Fucked”:
- The more insecure you are, the more you swing from “I’m the best” to “I’m garbage”
- To start a new religion, sell hope to the hopeless (which is also what snake oil salesmen and Tai Lopez-like guys do)
- Sports are a form of religion that the gullible individual follow
- Manipulators use in-group / outgroup dynamics to gain followers (I agree, also read corporate manipulations)
Everything Is Fucked Criticism
This is what I didn’t particularly enjoy of “Everything Is Fucked”:
Lacks Coherent Message and Thread
The author jumps from Nietzsche’s biography to the risks of AI to self-development topics.
I don’t see a connecting thread and there is no coherent message. Maybe the author didn’t want to have a message, which is OK.
But still, any book without well-defined messages are, almost by definition, forgettable.
Somewhat Lacking in Social Analysis
I found the analysis on religions and ingroup-outgroup interesting and at times even insightful.
But also imprecise, at times, as Manson tried to analyze our whole society and human nature in light of the ingroup-outgroup dynamics.
The spin he gave on “how to start a religion” was quite hilarious though.
Manson’s Bro-Philosophy Gets Old
Mark Manson found huge success with his previous book with the catchy title “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck“.
And probably he felt like he had to deliver something similar. At least when it comes to language.
I didn’t particularly enjoy the “bro philosophy” in “The Subtle Art”, and I enjoyed even less here, where it felt forced, unnatural and it also removed authority from the author.
This is basically what good therapy is. Self-acceptance, emotional intelligence and all that
That was unneeded and makes Manson come across not as cool and information but as uninformed.
Thank you Francis Bacon, thank you Isaac Newton, you fucking titans
“You fucking titans”?
Totally unneeded bro-attitude.
And since he was talking about the founders of the scientific method, then Galileo and Copernicus might be more likely recipients of Manson’s cussings than Bacon.
There is much I liked about “Everything Is Fucked” because there is much I agree with Mark Manson.
This goes from high-level stuff like his criticism of self-help industry (also check “self-help myths“) to how his (low) opinion of sports and fandom to his thoughts on pyramid scheme companies (read my review of “Go Pro“).
Everything Is Fucked – Review
I enjoyed “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck”, the book that brought Mark Manson to notoriety.
And I even appreciated his first book “Model” when he was still a pick-up artist.
Overall, I can say that I very much like -and agree- with Manson’s approach to self-development, which partially rejects many of the empty self-development mantras.
However, “Everything Is Fucked” kinda fell flat on me.
A disjointed book of interesting tidbits mixed with not-so insightful one and some not so great social analysis.