Extreme Ownership delivers you the most powerful, combat tested Navy SEAL weapons.
And they are all mindsets, of course.
Read on to arm yourself and win at life.
- Exec Summary
- Full Summary
- Part I: Winning the War Within
- Chapter 1: Extreme Ownership
- Chapter 2: Not bad teams, bad leaders
- Chapter 3: Believe
- Chapter 4: Check the Ego
- Part II: The Laws of Combat
- Chapter 5: Cover and Move
- Chapter 6: Simple
- Chapter 7: Prioritize and Execute
- Chapter 8: Decentralized Command
- Part III: Sustaining Victory
- Chapter 9: Plan
- Chapter 10: Leading Up and Down
- Chapter 11: Decisiveness and Uncertainty
- Chapter 12: The Dichotomy of Leadership
- Real Life Applications
- Leaders embrace Extreme Ownership: you are responsible for everything
- Leaders believe in the mission and make sure their team fully understand it
- Leaders are humble, take the blame for mistakes and give full credit to the team for the victory
Willink and Babin make their philosophy clear right from the start: the only meaningful measure for a leader is whether the team succeeds or fails, they say. Effective leaders lead their teams to accomplish their mission, ineffective leaders do not. Simple
The best leaders are not driven by ego or personal agendas. As a matte of fact, humility is paramount. As for leaders, the humility to admit and own mistakes is essential to success.
Getting rid of ego and personal agenda will allow leaders to zero in on the mission.
And while the leaders is responsible for failures, he gives the credit and honor of the win upon his subordinates.
Part I: Winning the War Within
Chapter 1: Extreme Ownership
Extreme Ownership means the leader must accept that he is truly and ultimately responsible for everything.
The leader must own everything in his world and all responsibility for success and failure rests with him. There is no one else to blame.
Total responsibility for failure is difficult to accept, and Extreme Ownership when things go wrong demands humility and courage. Being able to accept Extreme Ownership when things go wrong is an absolute necessity to learning and growing as a leader.
Even when subordinates aren’t following up on the plan, or making an expected blunder, leaders exercising Extreme Ownership cannot blame them. Because the leader was responsible to make sure they understood the plan fully and were fully trained for carrying on their tasks flawlessly.
The leader must take care that everyone in the team can get the job done. If there are underperformers, it’s your responsibility to bring them up to par. And if the underperformer cannot meet standards, it’s your team, so it’s up to you to get on board someone who can do the job. Because at the end of the day, the leader must be loyal to the team and the mission, not to any single individual.
The leaders must look at an organization’s problems with the objective in mind and without any emotional attachments.
Chapter 2: Not bad teams, bad leaders
The precept that there no bad teams, only bad leaders, is a big recurring theme in Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink.
And when it comes to demanding a high standard of performance, it’s not about what you preach, but what you tolerate.
Another key to excellent performance is embedding Extreme Ownership at every level into the team. Everyone must feel Extreme Ownership of their tasks and duties, no matter if people around you fail to deliver their part.
Chapter 3: Believe
A leader must truly fully believe in the mission to convince and inspire his team.
If he doesn’t fully believe that, a leader must work within himself to align with the thoughts and vision of the mission.
Aggressive and proactive
Jocko explains that, as a leader, your default setting should be aggressive – proactive rather than reactive. This is critical to the success of any team. Instead of letting the situation dictate our decisions, we must dictate the situation.
Chapter 4: Check the Ego
Ego is a big threat do top performance. And the most challenging ego to deal with, is your own. Be confident, not cocky.
Part II: The Laws of Combat
Chapter 5: Cover and Move
Cover and Move is the most fundamental tactic. And cover and Move means teamwork. All elements within the greater team are fundamental and must mutually support each other and work together to achieve the final goal.
Leaders have the responsibility to link between the tactical and strategic perspective it’s up to leaders to remind and explain how the team how the fit in the greater strategical mission and what’s their part in it to achieve that mission.
Chapter 6: Simple
Simplicity is key to success. Always simplify as much as possible. People will not understand complicated plans and orders and complexity compounds issue when things go wrong -and they will-.
Communicate plans and order simply, clearly and concisely.
And if your team doesn’t get it, again, it’s your fault. You must be clear enough to ensure everyone in the team understands.
Chapter 7: Prioritize and Execute
In the fog of war, dealing with too many tasks at a time is impossible and will make you fail. Take a breath, step back for a second, prioritize and execute. Then deal with the next item on the list.
Prioritize and execute is your guiding principle at any time the situation is getting overwhelming and out of hand.
Contingency planning can be of great help here to stay a step ahead of real-time problems. This is because a good contingency plan will force you to look into likely challenges and instead of being caught in the heat of the moment, you will execute a few already thought-through effective responses.
Chapter 8: Decentralized Command
Humans generally cannot manage more than six to ten people, and that’s all the more true when things start going wrong. Hence there must a leader for each team of 4 to 5 people.
Expect and empower those leaders both below and around you to make decisions and make a good job (this is the same principle of the Autonomy Intrinsic Motivation from Daniel Pink).
Explaining to each tactical operator the overarching tactical goals, the why you’re doing something, is key: the people who were the least engaged, biggest complainers and often lowest performers were the ones who didn’t take any part in drafting the plan of actions.
US VS THEM
That “us versus them” mentality was common to just about every level of every chain of command, whether military unit or civilian corporation. But breaking that mentality was the key to properly lead up the chain of command and radically improve the team’s performance.
Part III: Sustaining Victory
Chapter 9: Plan
A leader must first understand himself the overall mission, and then prepare a simple enough brief the whole team will understand. The mission must be clear and specific, with a well defined end result.
Chapter 10: Leading Up and Down
A leader takes responsibility for leading not just for his subordinates, but also his superiors.
It means you push up situational awareness to your superior and take care of obtaining all the support you need to enable your team to accomplish the mission.
Two parts I loved are:
If someone isn’t doing what you want them to do, look at yourself first and see what you are not doing best.
You should know your job so well that you don’t ask your leader what you should do but you tell them what you are going to do.
Chapter 11: Decisiveness and Uncertainty
Intelligence and research are important, but you ought be realistic about it. Waiting to be 100% sure often leads to indecision and inability to execute. Leaders must be prepared to make an educated guess based on previous experience and the intelligence available right now (interesting example in the book of a last minute intelligence information which proved to be wrong, so intelligence is not always correct either).
Chapter 12: The Dichotomy of Leadership
The characteristics of a good leader are:
- Confident but not arrogant;
- Brave but not daredevil;
- Strive to win but gracious in loss
- Detail oriented but not obsessive;
- A leader but also a follower when needed;
- Quiet but not always silent;
- Logical but not without emotions;
- Close with the soldiers, but nobody is more important than another or of the team as a whole;
- Not so chummy they forget who’s the leader;
- Takes Extreme Ownership, and exercises Decentralized Command;
- Has nothing to prove and everything to prove at the same time
Real Life Applications
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Own Up Mistakes
Not many people are able to owning up to mistakes to themselves and people around. Once you will start doing so you will immediately become a higher quality person and get much more respect for it. Both from others and from yourself.
Let’s start with what I didn’t agree with:
Success only measure of success?
I disagree the only measure of success is the final, binary result of victory or failure (John Maxwell and Ryan Holiday agree).
It’s a combative mindset that won’t do you well outside of battle (read more in Daring Greatly). The final final result should not be your (sole) yardstick because it’s not always in your full control. And you allow anything outside your control to determine your self esteem and confidence, you’re by definition weak. Read here instead how to build an antifragile ego.
The concepts of Extreme Ownership and responsibility for up and down the chain of command took a new light for me thanks to Jocko Willink & Leif Babin .
Take Blame and Give Credit
“Take blame and give credit” really hit me hard as I read Extreme Ownership while I was at a company doing the exact opposite. Taking blame and giving credit is what all round high quality men do.
Believe in the mission or change mindset
The concept that you should change your mindset to align to your mission is an extremely powerful one. It was only briefly touched in the book, but this is huge for you: you can align your mindset to fit your goals!
Overall, fantastic book, combining an entertaining read with terrific concepts to make you an even more amazing human being.