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A friend says "I could beat you physically"
Good note Bel!
Yeah, you're basically pushing a lady in the group down.
A feminine lady may not matter or even enjoy the frame that she "needs protection".
But in this day and age of feminist and high-power women, you're as likely to make yourself an enemy with that :).
Also, this:
Oh no I need a bodyguard now.
Is a form of the good old "agree and amplify".
We talked about this in frame control, and we said that it's not the worst and that sometimes can work well.
But, even if you take it to ridiculous extremes, you're still expanding on a negative frame for you.
For that, I wouldn't make it my go-to approach.
Also, keep in mind: the power mover didn't say anything about "fighting".
He may refer to running, lifting weights, or even stretching (that's why the re-frame on masturbation works great).
When you make it about fighting, it comes across as defensive.
Edit:
A smart covert aggressor may even use that against you:
Bro, I was joking, why did you have to make it about fighting
And then may even lead towards a better outcome:
I'm all about friendly competition, not aggressive one. There, have a sip, cheers (raises his glass for a toast)
And now you'd be trapped.
Yea agree I didn't think that one through..
