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So I applied to another place for work, but didn't hear anything back from them yet.
I suddenly remembered an old College acquaintaince works there, so i wanted to ask her about the update on the recruitment process.
I had the "Social exchange theory in mind" although I wasn't really sure how to apply it here. But instead of just waiting and wondering, I decided to send her a message.
ME:
Hey X! How are you?
Just had a quick query, whenever you're free
(First I just send Hey X!. they i quickly followed up with the quick query line to show that i wont take long and I am considerate of her time)
Her:Â With the normal response. and then asked me what the query was
ME:Â I asked her about the stage of recruitment for the position
She:Â She said she would get back to me after finding out
ME: "Thank you! hope you get back with something positive fingers crossed lol"
Since I didn't really know how to add value now, I just tried to give some positive emotions with the last sentence.
If she gets back with a positive response, I will say "Thanks you for your help! when we are collegaues, first lunch on me!"
Could i have done anything better in this situation? Any feedback will be appreciated
Hey AR
Keep swinging. The old saying the harder I work the luckier I get
sorry I haven't read your whole Journal can you give a bit of context what industry you're looking for work and at what level what country you're in anything you think might be relevant. just a few bullets.
I missed contributing to this community.
I don't know why, but I wasn't being able to access this site through my browser, no matter what I tried. I try to access this site every other day but to no avail.
But Yay! I'm finally here!
Time to contribute some long overdue value to the community.
Welcome back, AR!
It happened to me more than once that some Internet Service Providers had this website blocked.
I think what some ISPs do is to load some lists of "websites with sensitive content", or "bad websites" to be blocked, and somehow someone thought well (did he?) to add this website on some of those lists.
Happy it's accessible now. I am in a constant state of anxiety that next tim I try to access, it might become unavailable
Hi community it's unfortunate that I can't access this place regular, due to some technical issues at My end.
But I wanted to take this opportunity to share one of my most beloved technique I picked up from here.
So when ever someone does the guiding behaviour, depending on the person, I don't engage in the awkward battle of leading them first.
Neither do I directly submit by saying okay or yes.
I simply do this:
Say "Thank you big man" , pat them on the back,and take my time to follow through with their apparent order"
I make it a point to not look at their gestures.
This doesn't come naturally to me yet. But yea conscious competence
it feels good to reopen this journal after 2 years.
After the passing of my father, my focus shifted away from self development to financial independence.
late, but an obvious realization that, without self development first, there is a cap to the financial independence.
I have restarted the Power University from the first module again. And This time my approach is to only go through 1 subtopic at a time, then reflect on it, and only then move on to the next sub topic. In this way, I wont have information overload. In the past I have tried to consume it all at once, and that is where I lost it after a few days of Motivation.
This time I don't plan to consume entire Power University by 1 week.
This time, I am Learning through the lense I learnt from Lucio. Ãœse social power to get things done, not dominate the other person
Hello AR, good to see you again.
First of all, condolences on the passing of your father.
And this new approach, both in the mindset and in the learning approach, sound great to me.
I also agree with you that there is a cap on financial independence based on one's level of personal development.
A few months back, I partnered up with a family member for a start up (more like he offered me a partnership for his tech project, to head the business side)
To provide some back ground on the partner, he is a tech genius. He is the kind of person who is really kind in general. But let's people have it on the slightest of errors (according to him). When his mood shifts from kind to asshole, he loses focus on anything outside the error. Forgets any previous favours etc and takes immediate impulsive actions.
Now coming back to the scenario, because of my existing job commitments and personal issues, I could not do a few things on time. on the back of this, his attitude towards me was less like a partner and more like an ass hole boss. he didn't even try to understand my issues, disregarded the contributions i made the past few months and warned me that he'd look for someone else if I didn't step up. After the warning, I Quit the start up and started working on an income opportunity of my own.
Fast Forward a few weeks, he messaged me and apologized. that he didn't like how the things ended. he wasn't in the right headspace when he did what he did. And told me that he missed working with me.
I replied to him neutrally, didn't make it seem like a big issue. just made sure he was doing okay and that none of it was personal. in my reply I didn't address the "working together" issue. TBH, I don't feel like working with him any more, cause I am developing another Income skill of my own.
However, he is an important family member and I don't want to severe ties with him.
i will meet him today, and I know that he will offer me to join as his partner again.
I want to decline his offer but in a way that will not hurt our relationship.
Until Yesterday the response that I decided was to
make it clear to him that I won't be able to give any solid time or cash commitments.
After going through the Foundational Steps of Empowerment Module, I am thinking of also calling out "the communication gap we had" and how the same situation might raise again given his habit. Everyone else in the family has accepted his rude impulsive episodes. And even they don't want me to accept it.
Quote from Astronomically Revolutionised on June 7, 2023, 10:37 am(...) his attitude towards me was less like a partner and more like an ass hole boss. he didn't even try to understand my issues, disregarded the contributions i made the past few months and warned me that he'd look for someone else if I didn't step up. After the warning, I Quit the start up and started working on an income opportunity of my own.
A few red flags there, including the "threat to end the relationship".
On the other hand, if he's a "tech genius", chances are this guy may super demanding because he's super driven and really good at what he does.
Frankly, he may -may! I don't know him- go places and be a good person to partner up with.
However, you'd have to make sure you approach him far higher power and gain his full respect, never allowing for that type of shitty behavior.
If not, he won't respect you at all and may try to cut you out of everything in the future.
A good relationship would be: you're the CEO, he's the CTO.
He doesn't come in your office and yells.
