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Being challenged by a subordinate as a new leader
I changed my mind: I will not go (covert) aggressive on her or too dominant. I felt a bit frustrated when I wrote that.
I could have gone assertive in a calm voice: « It’s not about me. It’s about following the orders your attending gives you »
My boss told me that the residents have to do what I tell them by law. I knew it but hearing it solidified it in my mind.
Quote from John Freeman on August 5, 2023, 6:38 amI learned from my supervisor though: a subordinate not doing the tasks assigned to him/her is simply not respecting his/her boss’ authority in the “new leader” scenario.
Ype, absoltey agree with your supervisor.
It's always more challenging to be new leader, which is great: fantastic learning opportunity.
But no matter how "new" you are, you are the new leader now and she has to fall in line.
Quote from John Freeman on August 7, 2023, 11:23 amI could have gone assertive in a calm voice: « It’s not about me. It’s about following the orders your attending gives you »
My boss told me that the residents have to do what I tell them by law. I knew it but hearing it solidified it in my mind.
I wouldn't even mention "me" and touch that frame.
If you wanna say something like that, I'd say "that's not the point, it's about... ".
Or also possible, trash that frame:
Nono, what are you talking about, it's very simple here, if I tell you X, there is a reason why, and I expect you to do X. Is that clear?
Brilliant, just brilliant. Thanks a lot Lucio. This helps me to take my frame rejection to the next level. In my notes.
