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Crossing arms in lengthy conversation: is it OK?
Hello folks,
I had a lengthy conversation today whilst standing up, and on multiple occasions crossed my arms for periods of time.
Since closing up goes against the teachings of an open body language, maybe there are some instances where we can assume the most comfortable position? I was in no way defensive or bored in the conversation but crossing my arms after a while simply felt natural. When I was the one talking I opened up with my body and assumed a more open and gesticulative demeanor.
Maybe putting my hands into my pockets would have been better? Are there any other positions to assume and not look like you fell asleep whilst standing up? Maybe suggest to sit down and continue the conversation whilst seated?
I'm sorry if I missuse the forum by opening so many threads that are essentially questions to you. Please let me know if I should go about it in another way.
Hey Zeph,
take a look for general forum rules:
Two points that apply here:
- The private area of the forum is for questions strictly regarding Power University or topics that you truly need to keep private
- When you have a question, first try to come up with a solution yourself. It's better for both (you learn more, I can be more efficient with my time)
Now, to answer your question.
I trained myself to never cross my arm. I virtually never cross my arm when in conversation.
One hand in pocket is OK, but two is too much.
Otherwise, an akimbo or "half akimbo" positions are also good:
In your case, just avoid the other hand pointing towards your crotch, but keep on the side, on the pocket, on top of a tabletop ("locking in"), or on your chin if you want to give the impression of "taking it all in".
And make sure you don't come across as too overpowering with your overall demenaour, as the akimbo position can come across as aggressive.
It's also an option to keep your hands locked in behind your back. Very professor-like.
