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Extreme passive aggressive behavior/covert moves from frenemy (case study)
I did not frame you as a "judge person"; I am clearly against some kind of "judging sentences". I take the two persons in your example as equal objects of research, and all of my comments were purely on the English sentences, not on any person. Do you feel personal attacked by my comments?
Since you asked for "evidence of judging", I provide some possible evidences. Note that my purpose has been focused on "judging sentence", and my purpose is not to conclude any personal traits on you.
For some general context, I already thought this person as not very high-value because:
- Extreme/out of proportion emotions (generally low power according to PU);
- Drill sergeant attitude in group activities (could be good but he puts himself as judge a lot regardless if he is in position);
- Weird/eccentric taste towards women (whereas no one else thinks the girls he was so attracted to were really that attractive);
- Dissatisfaction with dating in general with many dating experiences where he was sucking up to the date, and then got rejected/dumped;
- Career trajectory where he downgraded his financial earnings by more than 50%, albeit he said he has been happier.
Of course, you are free to clarify if these are "judging sentences" or not. I think "judge" a neutral word by itself. Judges can be super positive if both sides agree on the judging role. I don't personally judge in equal social situations (unless been asked for comments) because of Lucio's detailed explanation in this link https://thepowermoves.com/forum/topic/what-exactly-makes-a-positive-judge/.
