I am pleased that you are pleased

#41 · September 10, 2022, 11:39 am

Thanks for the precision. I was writing a whole feed-back on him being an equal. When I realised, he's not an equal, to me he's more like a superior (he tasks you, you don't task him). Therefore your communication was perfect (in the sense I would add nor remove nothing) in the way you reported to him.

If this was an equal (like another lawyer), it would have been like you're reporting to him, so I would have had another opinion on this.

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#42 · September 21, 2022, 1:29 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on June 28, 2022, 10:23 am

Personally, I find it too gimmicky.

And yes, it feels a bit like a (not so bad, yellow-level) attempt at switching the power tables and becoming "the judge".

I'd simply say:

Thank you so much, I'm happy to read that.

And potentially add:

More of that coming 😉

Curious to read what others think.

Coming back to this again, as I realize after reading this thread I started using

It’s a pleasure

and

I’m really glad

When receiving thanks or emotional openings.

I think it’s having a bad effect, as Lucio says above, of subcommunicating I want to be the “judge”, and this explains some responses I started getting.

So another thing to probably scratch out of my behavior.

Best to just say “thank you” and “I’m happy” as Lucio suggests.

And, if I used the “it’s a pleasure” phrase badly with anyone here, it was unintended.

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#43 · January 31, 2023, 8:35 pm

Today I saw a Linkedin post by one of the most famous and renowned attorneys in my country, writing

I thank so much the Government and the Ministry of ... for appointing me in [international court].

This to me was final confirmation that the principle behind this thread here is one of the most powerful social-connection principles of all.

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