Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on August 11, 2021, 6:51 am

Growfast,

How would you handle this?

Also, take a look at this post.

Quote from Growfast on August 11, 2021, 10:24 am

I am happy to share.

I will thank and appreciate in advance anyone who shares their thoughts on how they would have handled the situation.

These are my thoughts :-

Fake generosity

Person A - If you need money contact me.

Reply - I will also consider lending you money. It's nice that we are looking after each other.

Person A - I would have got you X if you only had asked for my help.

Reply - appreciate your friendliness. If you need my help anytime you can ask.

Person A- I was happy to help you reach these heights.

Reply - We helped each other reach where we are.

Person A - If you need any advice on anything contact me.

Reply - If you need any advice I will be happy to help

 

False accusations and painting your activities in a negative manner :-

Person A- you are only doing good because of person B.

Reply - You are only jealous. Maybe in the future you will know the experience of mutual growth where you help each other out.

Person A - X action you did was (framed in a negative light)

Reply - I don't know what you are talking about.X action was did for (framed in a positive light)

Person A - You did X only to (someway that harms them, though that wasn't the intention).

Reply - X was did to (someway that helps others). Don't be hard on yourself that everyone is out to get you.

False boasting :-

Person A - If I was there I would have (something great and amazing)

Reply - Easy to talk about the game when you are in the stands.

 

Let us all share our own ideas and decide on the best way so that we can handle these situations with ease if we ever run into it.

 

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on August 11, 2021, 8:12 pm

Hey Growfast,

Fake / imaginary generosity is different than false accusations, so I'll stick to the main topic only.

Example N.3 is not imaginary generosity, but something else.

And for the actual imaginary generosity, your answers are good / very good.

Simple technique: just say the same back to them, it negates the frame of them being higher value, and it preserve rapport -also helpful just in case they really meant it, you never know-.

Another answer I like to use is "thanks man", but it's all in the delivery.
It's delivered with a very flat tonality, and quickly. As if you're dismissing their move and closing that thread as quickly as possible because you ain't got time and patience for cheap power moves.

Quote from Growfast on August 12, 2021, 9:08 am

The post might have got confusing.

I would like to clarify that it was posted for discussing about imagined generosity, false accusations and false boasting.

Now since we cleared it up I would thank and appreciate anyone who shares their thoughts.