Principles of socializing
Quote from John Freeman on June 28, 2022, 12:02 pmHello guys,
Taking some distance, I realize that there are a few principles (not rules) but some principles that help for socializing in a friends' group:
- Bringing Fun
- Providing Leadership
- Listening
- Inspiration/Uplift others
- Defend against power moves/negative framing
- Eagle-like behaviour
- Be a good conversationalist (see Lucio's post on group conversation)
- Don't talk about your problems: if people ask stay vague, hint at some challenges and move on or talk about the positive (AKA your life is great: everyone is playing this game, it's socially expected)
- Basically it's all about bringing value and the most is bringing fun. When talking about your problems, you're basically taking value.
I would say that a good part of the game is have eagle-like behavior when being attacked so you can go higher. If you're being fun, listen and organize stuff, it's quite a good basis for good social interactions/circle.
Avoiding taking value is huge. It's very tempting. However, if you cave to the temptation, it's more difficult to climb back from there.
Hello guys,
Taking some distance, I realize that there are a few principles (not rules) but some principles that help for socializing in a friends' group:
- Bringing Fun
- Providing Leadership
- Listening
- Inspiration/Uplift others
- Defend against power moves/negative framing
- Eagle-like behaviour
- Be a good conversationalist (see Lucio's post on group conversation)
- Don't talk about your problems: if people ask stay vague, hint at some challenges and move on or talk about the positive (AKA your life is great: everyone is playing this game, it's socially expected)
- Basically it's all about bringing value and the most is bringing fun. When talking about your problems, you're basically taking value.
I would say that a good part of the game is have eagle-like behavior when being attacked so you can go higher. If you're being fun, listen and organize stuff, it's quite a good basis for good social interactions/circle.
Avoiding taking value is huge. It's very tempting. However, if you cave to the temptation, it's more difficult to climb back from there.
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on June 29, 2022, 5:06 amAwesome post, John.
I'm thinking this could potentially turn into a larger one-stop repository of "higher-level, foundational principles".
Awesome post, John.
I'm thinking this could potentially turn into a larger one-stop repository of "higher-level, foundational principles".
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Quote from John Freeman on June 29, 2022, 9:27 pmSure! I see several people liked this post too, that's cool.
Sure! I see several people liked this post too, that's cool.