Principles of socializing

#1 · June 28, 2022, 12:02 pm

Hello guys,

Taking some distance, I realize that there are a few principles (not rules) but some principles that help for socializing in a friends' group:

Bringing Fun
Providing Leadership
Listening
Inspiration/Uplift others
Defend against power moves/negative framing
Eagle-like behaviour
Be a good conversationalist (see Lucio's post on group conversation)
Don't talk about your problems: if people ask stay vague, hint at some challenges and move on or talk about the positive (AKA your life is great: everyone is playing this game, it's socially expected)
Basically it's all about bringing value and the most is bringing fun. When talking about your problems, you're basically taking value.

I would say that a good part of the game is have eagle-like behavior when being attacked so you can go higher. If you're being fun, listen and organize stuff, it's quite a good basis for good social interactions/circle.

Avoiding taking value is huge. It's very tempting. However, if you cave to the temptation, it's more difficult to climb back from there.

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#2 · June 29, 2022, 5:06 am

Awesome post, John.

I'm thinking this could potentially turn into a larger one-stop repository of "higher-level, foundational principles".

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#3 · June 29, 2022, 9:27 pm

Sure! I see several people liked this post too, that's cool.