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Principles of socializing
Hello guys,
Taking some distance, I realize that there are a few principles (not rules) but some principles that help for socializing in a friends' group:
- Bringing Fun
- Providing Leadership
- Listening
- Inspiration/Uplift others
- Defend against power moves/negative framing
- Eagle-like behaviour
- Be a good conversationalist (see Lucio's post on group conversation)
- Don't talk about your problems: if people ask stay vague, hint at some challenges and move on or talk about the positive (AKA your life is great: everyone is playing this game, it's socially expected)
- Basically it's all about bringing value and the most is bringing fun. When talking about your problems, you're basically taking value.
I would say that a good part of the game is have eagle-like behavior when being attacked so you can go higher. If you're being fun, listen and organize stuff, it's quite a good basis for good social interactions/circle.
Avoiding taking value is huge. It's very tempting. However, if you cave to the temptation, it's more difficult to climb back from there.
Hello guys,
Taking some distance, I realize that there are a few principles (not rules) but some principles that help for socializing in a friends' group:
- Bringing Fun
- Providing Leadership
- Listening
- Inspiration/Uplift others
- Defend against power moves/negative framing
- Eagle-like behaviour
- Be a good conversationalist (see Lucio's post on group conversation)
- Don't talk about your problems: if people ask stay vague, hint at some challenges and move on or talk about the positive (AKA your life is great: everyone is playing this game, it's socially expected)
- Basically it's all about bringing value and the most is bringing fun. When talking about your problems, you're basically taking value.
I would say that a good part of the game is have eagle-like behavior when being attacked so you can go higher. If you're being fun, listen and organize stuff, it's quite a good basis for good social interactions/circle.
Avoiding taking value is huge. It's very tempting. However, if you cave to the temptation, it's more difficult to climb back from there.
Lucio Buffalmano, Ali Scarlett and 5 other users have reacted to this post.
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Awesome post, John.
I'm thinking this could potentially turn into a larger one-stop repository of "higher-level, foundational principles".
Awesome post, John.
I'm thinking this could potentially turn into a larger one-stop repository of "higher-level, foundational principles".
John Freeman has reacted to this post.
Sure! I see several people liked this post too, that's cool.
Sure! I see several people liked this post too, that's cool.
