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#1 · October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm
Hello my friends, It's a privilege to be a member of this community. It's rejuvenating to be around like-minded souls bettering themselves, putting there feet in the mud, and gathering together whilst documenting our first hand experiences. This is a powerful place of people choosing their destiny.

Background

My past is not what shapes my future, I shape my future. The past can do a thousand different things to a thousand different people, all with the exact same things that happened to them, and a thousand different responses from that individual to that event.

I was always the outlier growing up. I was invested and passionate in subjects that people had no relation to. I had different perspectives and inclinations than the vast majority, and I was not afraid to voice those perspectives and inclinations I had, even if the cost was disapproval from the group (which everyone loves so, so much and tries their hardest to fit into). Individuality came at it's price, but that price was good to me and I even idolized being the exception, like I was proud enough to be who I actually was and own my different personality. I didn't have strength at that time. I wasn't a strong exception in most ways, just a highly transparent, authentic and vulnerable exception.

I travelled the world, packed my bags, and left my hometown at the age of eighteen, returned around twenty as I went to compete and follow my dreams in sports overseas. I got indoctrinated along the way and seriously taken advantage of by people claiming to role models who I completely idolized, then I took up Christianity as a counter-fit to my indoctrination, thinking it's the solution, and got seriously indoctrinated there. Detrimental and grievous effects occurred at that time, but I survived through resilience and "faith". Alot of things that I thought were empowering, were actually disempowering. Many things we think are the truth, even with spiritual experiences, are not the truth. And I'll leave the religious talk there. The focus here is on the mental development and effects (good and bad).

So my life was full of a lot of fucking bullshit until that point, and for the cherry on the top, I had ZERO awareness of power dynamics, and then ended up being on the receiving end of an endless plethora of value-taking from other people, power moves and pretty much alot of disempowerment.

Machiavelli was right when he said that the good are ruined among the many who are not good. That motherfucker was not lying 😁

Bounce Back & Success

I bounced back hard. Self improvement was the answer, and I worked ruthlessly to make myself into a higher power and value person. My revenge to how I let myself get treated in the past was to improve myself so vastly and fiercely that others would look at me and think "Woah", and I made it happen. Now I don't care about those people anymore.

I hit the gym, lost 28kg's in a year and got pretty jacked, got a better job and improved my mindset (the gym does that massively, like a gateway drug to self improvement for men). I leveraged the power of dark emotions for radical transformation. I'm pretty much a completely different person. By no means am I where I want to be right now, but I am happy with the progress and looking out to the future that looks bright and promising.

Journal

I'm at a great place in my life. And it will be this way forever. Improvement and my mental skillset is the reason I'm at a great place. Not the circumstances individually in of themselves. My mental skillset is going to continue getting better as I learn more and more (this forum and power university is already doing that). Thankyou Lucio for this website and for Ultimate Power, it's a great book on mental power that is healthy, and I'm internalising and learning and becoming, slowly. The book is a great resource and learning material. I'm also on the verge of launching my own business and becoming my own boss, not an employee to anyone (although I may keep a different contract on this job as its line with some values I have and I respect it).

I have area's that I really need to work on. These areas are having an active social life, more healthy mindset (antifragile ego), and embracing the other aspects of a growth mindset (I have many but not the healthier aspects). The quality of my life will increase ten times when I improve my social life as people make up life and life experiences, and it's down to me to get more sociable and meet other who can add quality, fun and good times to my life and I will likewise add value, quality and good times to theirs. I will work on having a more healthy mindset that is less outcome-dependent and more antifragile and accepting of myself. Because whilst outcome dependence and unhealthy mental power can be powerful, I see antifragile can be even more powerful and healthy at the same time. It's like having a breath of fresh air when I read the Ultimate Power guide.

I look forward to interacting with members of this community and welcome any feedback, advice, knowledge, questions and criticisms. Here's to adding value and happiness to eachothers lives. 🍾

Hello my friends, It's a privilege to be a member of this community. It's rejuvenating to be around like-minded souls bettering themselves, putting there feet in the mud, and gathering together whilst documenting our first hand experiences. This is a powerful place of people choosing their destiny.

Background

My past is not what shapes my future, I shape my future. The past can do a thousand different things to a thousand different people, all with the exact same things that happened to them, and a thousand different responses from that individual to that event.

I was always the outlier growing up. I was invested and passionate in subjects that people had no relation to. I had different perspectives and inclinations than the vast majority, and I was not afraid to voice those perspectives and inclinations I had, even if the cost was disapproval from the group (which everyone loves so, so much and tries their hardest to fit into). Individuality came at it's price, but that price was good to me and I even idolized being the exception, like I was proud enough to be who I actually was and own my different personality. I didn't have strength at that time. I wasn't a strong exception in most ways, just a highly transparent, authentic and vulnerable exception.

I travelled the world, packed my bags, and left my hometown at the age of eighteen, returned around twenty as I went to compete and follow my dreams in sports overseas. I got indoctrinated along the way and seriously taken advantage of by people claiming to role models who I completely idolized, then I took up Christianity as a counter-fit to my indoctrination, thinking it's the solution, and got seriously indoctrinated there. Detrimental and grievous effects occurred at that time, but I survived through resilience and "faith". Alot of things that I thought were empowering, were actually disempowering. Many things we think are the truth, even with spiritual experiences, are not the truth. And I'll leave the religious talk there. The focus here is on the mental development and effects (good and bad).

So my life was full of a lot of fucking bullshit until that point, and for the cherry on the top, I had ZERO awareness of power dynamics, and then ended up being on the receiving end of an endless plethora of value-taking from other people, power moves and pretty much alot of disempowerment.

Machiavelli was right when he said that the good are ruined among the many who are not good. That motherfucker was not lying 😁

Bounce Back & Success

I bounced back hard. Self improvement was the answer, and I worked ruthlessly to make myself into a higher power and value person. My revenge to how I let myself get treated in the past was to improve myself so vastly and fiercely that others would look at me and think "Woah", and I made it happen. Now I don't care about those people anymore.

I hit the gym, lost 28kg's in a year and got pretty jacked, got a better job and improved my mindset (the gym does that massively, like a gateway drug to self improvement for men). I leveraged the power of dark emotions for radical transformation. I'm pretty much a completely different person. By no means am I where I want to be right now, but I am happy with the progress and looking out to the future that looks bright and promising.

Journal

I'm at a great place in my life. And it will be this way forever. Improvement and my mental skillset is the reason I'm at a great place. Not the circumstances individually in of themselves. My mental skillset is going to continue getting better as I learn more and more (this forum and power university is already doing that). Thankyou Lucio for this website and for Ultimate Power, it's a great book on mental power that is healthy, and I'm internalising and learning and becoming, slowly. The book is a great resource and learning material. I'm also on the verge of launching my own business and becoming my own boss, not an employee to anyone (although I may keep a different contract on this job as its line with some values I have and I respect it).

I have area's that I really need to work on. These areas are having an active social life, more healthy mindset (antifragile ego), and embracing the other aspects of a growth mindset (I have many but not the healthier aspects). The quality of my life will increase ten times when I improve my social life as people make up life and life experiences, and it's down to me to get more sociable and meet other who can add quality, fun and good times to my life and I will likewise add value, quality and good times to theirs. I will work on having a more healthy mindset that is less outcome-dependent and more antifragile and accepting of myself. Because whilst outcome dependence and unhealthy mental power can be powerful, I see antifragile can be even more powerful and healthy at the same time. It's like having a breath of fresh air when I read the Ultimate Power guide.

I look forward to interacting with members of this community and welcome any feedback, advice, knowledge, questions and criticisms. Here's to adding value and happiness to eachothers lives. 🍾

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#2 · October 10, 2022, 6:37 pm

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 10, 2022, 6:37 pm
Monday 10th October - Afternoon

My power awareness is increasing. As I study and step through the Power University more and more, internalising it with the intention to practise it in my life, I can feel power and real change rising.

Situation: Friend cancels without telling me, after I take him into account and switch my schedule

My gym friend and I arranged to workout the other night, and we are serious people when it comes to physical development for various reasons (personal and business line of work).

We arranged to train for yesterday, I wanted to train earlier in the day, and he told me was free after 5pm. I then accommodated his request and switched my training schedule to meet for after 5pm. After I told him this, I didn't receive a reply for the rest of the day and he didn't come to the gym obviously.

I didn't chase this because I had been talking (investing) alot before and If I chased this up, it would have been low power so my power-awarness was to not chase him up on this (plus sometimes I just cannot be bothered if someone doesn't want to turn up to the gym).

So he messaged me this morning about training tonight. My power awareness told me that if I just answered saying "Hey, yeah, sounds good" without addressing him not training last night when I accommodated and switched around my schedule for him, then that would have been low-power and disempowering for myself.

My friends a good guy. I just told him along the "What happened last night bro? I switched around my schedule to meet you for after 5pm". He then basically made an apology and explained why he couldn't come and then I collaborated to meet tonight with a positive attitude.

Increase in my power-awareness.

Tonight

Just getting off my employee-work now. Have been doing work and studies for my own business to be launched soon. Tonight is where improvement will happen in the gym.

The antifragile ego is slowly coming to me, it's coming. I can feel the growth mindset being a part of me more, I'm an eternal learner, and all the things that may happen are just learning steps, and I feel more empowered to go out there in area's I may have some internal friction to, and because of this I'm being less outcome-dependent.

I stumbled across a great realisation today, to enjoy life.

What's the point of all the hard work and improvement if you can't enjoy your life? Sure, we are working hard and improving so we can get to circumstances where we have a higher quality of life, but we should enjoy our lives every day rather than just on an eternal grind without enjoyment. It's weird how we can forget this even though it's clear to see why we can forget this in our self developments to improve our life.

Monday 10th October - Afternoon

My power awareness is increasing. As I study and step through the Power University more and more, internalising it with the intention to practise it in my life, I can feel power and real change rising.

Situation: Friend cancels without telling me, after I take him into account and switch my schedule

My gym friend and I arranged to workout the other night, and we are serious people when it comes to physical development for various reasons (personal and business line of work).

We arranged to train for yesterday, I wanted to train earlier in the day, and he told me was free after 5pm. I then accommodated his request and switched my training schedule to meet for after 5pm. After I told him this, I didn't receive a reply for the rest of the day and he didn't come to the gym obviously.

I didn't chase this because I had been talking (investing) alot before and If I chased this up, it would have been low power so my power-awarness was to not chase him up on this (plus sometimes I just cannot be bothered if someone doesn't want to turn up to the gym).

So he messaged me this morning about training tonight. My power awareness told me that if I just answered saying "Hey, yeah, sounds good" without addressing him not training last night when I accommodated and switched around my schedule for him, then that would have been low-power and disempowering for myself.

My friends a good guy. I just told him along the "What happened last night bro? I switched around my schedule to meet you for after 5pm". He then basically made an apology and explained why he couldn't come and then I collaborated to meet tonight with a positive attitude.

Increase in my power-awareness.

Tonight

Just getting off my employee-work now. Have been doing work and studies for my own business to be launched soon. Tonight is where improvement will happen in the gym.

The antifragile ego is slowly coming to me, it's coming. I can feel the growth mindset being a part of me more, I'm an eternal learner, and all the things that may happen are just learning steps, and I feel more empowered to go out there in area's I may have some internal friction to, and because of this I'm being less outcome-dependent.

I stumbled across a great realisation today, to enjoy life.

What's the point of all the hard work and improvement if you can't enjoy your life? Sure, we are working hard and improving so we can get to circumstances where we have a higher quality of life, but we should enjoy our lives every day rather than just on an eternal grind without enjoyment. It's weird how we can forget this even though it's clear to see why we can forget this in our self developments to improve our life.

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#3 · October 10, 2022, 11:31 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on October 10, 2022, 11:31 pm
Rock on underdogexceptional, good to see you on this side of the forum.

Three random notes:

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm

Machiavelli was right when he said that the good are ruined among the many who are not good. That motherfucker was not lying 😁

LOL, this one had me laughing.

Yeah, that MF wasn't bullshitting when he said that :D.

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm

Bounce Back & Success

I bounced back hard. Self improvement was the answer, and I worked ruthlessly to make myself into a higher power and value person. My revenge to how I let myself get treated in the past was to improve myself so vastly and fiercely that others would look at me and think "Woah", and I made it happen. Now I don't care about those people anymore.

Good one, as someone said "the best revenge is always massive success".

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 10, 2022, 6:37 pm

So he messaged me this morning about training tonight. My power awareness told me that if I just answered saying "Hey, yeah, sounds good" without addressing him not training last night when I accommodated and switched around my schedule for him, then that would have been low-power and disempowering for myself.

My friends a good guy. I just told him along the "What happened last night bro? I switched around my schedule to meet you for after 5pm". He then basically made an apology and explained why he couldn't come and then I collaborated to meet tonight with a positive attitude.

Increase in my power-awareness.

Good call on not chasing further, that would have pushed you too much into over-investing and chasing territory.

When he showed up again a few more good options would have been:

"Hey man, yeah that'll be cool, I'm going around X time, come by" = this time let him adapt to you. even if he doesn't show up, you better rebalance things by showing that after he flaked, you're now not bending over backward once more and you're on your schedule and it's up to him to make up

Meet him, clarify in person = lower text investment to show that you're also busy and understand life happens, but in person when it's easier and much lower effort to clarify, you also show it's not cool to start scheduling something and then ghosting

But what you did was also good, nicely done!

Rock on underdogexceptional, good to see you on this side of the forum.

Three random notes:

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm

Machiavelli was right when he said that the good are ruined among the many who are not good. That motherfucker was not lying 😁

LOL, this one had me laughing.

Yeah, that MF wasn't bullshitting when he said that :D.

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 9, 2022, 10:27 pm

Bounce Back & Success

I bounced back hard. Self improvement was the answer, and I worked ruthlessly to make myself into a higher power and value person. My revenge to how I let myself get treated in the past was to improve myself so vastly and fiercely that others would look at me and think "Woah", and I made it happen. Now I don't care about those people anymore.

Good one, as someone said "the best revenge is always massive success".

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 10, 2022, 6:37 pm

So he messaged me this morning about training tonight. My power awareness told me that if I just answered saying "Hey, yeah, sounds good" without addressing him not training last night when I accommodated and switched around my schedule for him, then that would have been low-power and disempowering for myself.

My friends a good guy. I just told him along the "What happened last night bro? I switched around my schedule to meet you for after 5pm". He then basically made an apology and explained why he couldn't come and then I collaborated to meet tonight with a positive attitude.

Increase in my power-awareness.

Good call on not chasing further, that would have pushed you too much into over-investing and chasing territory.

When he showed up again a few more good options would have been:

"Hey man, yeah that'll be cool, I'm going around X time, come by" = this time let him adapt to you. even if he doesn't show up, you better rebalance things by showing that after he flaked, you're now not bending over backward once more and you're on your schedule and it's up to him to make up
Meet him, clarify in person = lower text investment to show that you're also busy and understand life happens, but in person when it's easier and much lower effort to clarify, you also show it's not cool to start scheduling something and then ghosting

But what you did was also good, nicely done!

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#4 · October 11, 2022, 1:38 am

Thanks Lucio!

I really like those options you gave, especially the first one. I can see this is a particular example that is high-power and high-value without even verbally addressing his flakiness, which is freaking interesting itself, how power and value works sometimes. Always feels good and empowering to know these options, definitely did not have that option in my mind.

Awesome 👌

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#5 · October 11, 2022, 2:31 pm

Tuesday 11th October Afternoon

Boom, last night I hit personal records in the gym. That means I lifted more (achieved more) in relation to my last gym session.

This is called progressive overload, and it's the foundation of improvement in the gym. It essentially means that to force your muscles to adapt and grow stronger, get bigger (muscle gain) etc. that you MUST increase the stress over time, gradually, and achieve more than you managed last time.

Example: Let's say you hit 5 reps on the bench press for 100kg last time, next time you go into the gym, aim to hit 6 reps on the bench press for 100kg. BOOM. That's a personal record and progressive overload since you increased the stress on your body. You could have increased the weight to 105kg and got 5 reps, or even less, and that's still progressive overload. That's the shit that brings results in the gym.

It's very much like Stress Inoculation in psychotherapy. You expose yourself and PUT yourself in situations that are just a little, I repeat... Just a LITTLE, tiny bit more stressful than your last and you grow yourself into a damn freak.

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#6 · October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm
Tuesday 11th October Evening

Awesome day.

There were some debate dynamics this afternoon in the office between me and a nice colleague of mine as we had a mini-debate over something we disagreed on (as all friends disagree now and then).

I brought up a cultural/historical event and was explaining why it happened, as I was explaining, she interrupted and started saying "thats not how it happened". Being aware of the power dynamics here, I carried on talking and did not let her cut me off as I have observed that would have been bad power dynamics and made me seem low-power. It used to be a mistake of mine to let people cut me off, because I was being too collaborative whilst they weren't. So I made a high-power move and carried on speaking until I articulated my point fully and she stopped speaking before then. I didn't let her cut me off and carried on good.

She then said she had studied it academically, and had a degree in it. I replied with "That's great (her name)".

I realised this response was slightly rude. I had to respond properly and not let get the one-up, which I see is a judge frame, but I definitely need to communicate that more non-combatively, I'm learning though, still to get to the frames section in PU, I've read the frames blog post but I'm going through the PU in the proposed order, I'll get there soon.

She then made her argument for the case and I let her talk, being calm and listened to her fully. This was really good on my part I feel as I not interrupting eachother is a sign of a good, respectful, debate in my opinion as I have observed recently, plus it allows me to remain calm and think of a response, which I felt there of how important is to remain calm and logical. Getting instinctive and emotional and reactionary is not optimal.

I then responded to her with "Thanks (her name), you're confirming what I'm saying". I explained why what she said is in line what I'm saying and soon after that, I said that we agree.

I think this was an amazing frame on my behalf. Me saying "you're confirming what I'm saying" subcommunicates that she is agreeing with the frame I already proposed (since she responded to me first in a disagree frame), it makes her disagreeal frame a part of supporting me. Plus I ended on "we agree" to be collaborative.

She's an amazing colleague, always happy to talk with her.

My social skills are also getting waaaaay freaking better. I am being collaborative, understanding agreeing with people on certain points to be collaborative before I give my own opinion and/or disagreeal on a topic or perspective. I can really see the other person responding better and enjoying the interaction more and more rapport being built here. It also feels good as It makes me happy as I open more and receive people responding better to me opening up more because I'm agreeing and collaborating more (having better social skills), so when I do open up, my opening up is received better.

Tuesday 11th October Evening

Awesome day.

There were some debate dynamics this afternoon in the office between me and a nice colleague of mine as we had a mini-debate over something we disagreed on (as all friends disagree now and then).

I brought up a cultural/historical event and was explaining why it happened, as I was explaining, she interrupted and started saying "thats not how it happened". Being aware of the power dynamics here, I carried on talking and did not let her cut me off as I have observed that would have been bad power dynamics and made me seem low-power. It used to be a mistake of mine to let people cut me off, because I was being too collaborative whilst they weren't. So I made a high-power move and carried on speaking until I articulated my point fully and she stopped speaking before then. I didn't let her cut me off and carried on good.

She then said she had studied it academically, and had a degree in it. I replied with "That's great (her name)".

I realised this response was slightly rude. I had to respond properly and not let get the one-up, which I see is a judge frame, but I definitely need to communicate that more non-combatively, I'm learning though, still to get to the frames section in PU, I've read the frames blog post but I'm going through the PU in the proposed order, I'll get there soon.

She then made her argument for the case and I let her talk, being calm and listened to her fully. This was really good on my part I feel as I not interrupting eachother is a sign of a good, respectful, debate in my opinion as I have observed recently, plus it allows me to remain calm and think of a response, which I felt there of how important is to remain calm and logical. Getting instinctive and emotional and reactionary is not optimal.

I then responded to her with "Thanks (her name), you're confirming what I'm saying". I explained why what she said is in line what I'm saying and soon after that, I said that we agree.

I think this was an amazing frame on my behalf. Me saying "you're confirming what I'm saying" subcommunicates that she is agreeing with the frame I already proposed (since she responded to me first in a disagree frame), it makes her disagreeal frame a part of supporting me. Plus I ended on "we agree" to be collaborative.

She's an amazing colleague, always happy to talk with her.

My social skills are also getting waaaaay freaking better. I am being collaborative, understanding agreeing with people on certain points to be collaborative before I give my own opinion and/or disagreeal on a topic or perspective. I can really see the other person responding better and enjoying the interaction more and more rapport being built here. It also feels good as It makes me happy as I open more and receive people responding better to me opening up more because I'm agreeing and collaborating more (having better social skills), so when I do open up, my opening up is received better.

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#7 · October 11, 2022, 10:29 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on October 11, 2022, 10:29 pm
Rock on, underdogexceptional!

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm

I brought up a cultural/historical event and was explaining why it happened, as I was explaining, she interrupted and started saying "thats not how it happened". Being aware of the power dynamics here, I carried on talking and did not let her cut me off as I have observed that would have been bad power dynamics and made me seem low-power. It used to be a mistake of mine to let people cut me off, because I was being too collaborative whilst they weren't. So I made a high-power move and carried on speaking until I articulated my point fully and she stopped speaking before then. I didn't let her cut me off and carried on good.

Also a good option here is "straight talk" about the rules of fair discussion:

You: (raise hand, or lightly touch her) Yeah, yeah, wait, let me finish first and then you can go, and when you speak, I'll also let you speak, deal?

You may even say "I do want to hear what you want to say, but I also want to finish first (smile). OK?".
When she agrees, you say "Good, glad we agree (smile)".

Depending on how people interrupt, it's also a good sign that one cannot wait to jump in: it means they care, and they about what you think -and influencing you-.
If one didn't care at all about someone, you bet they wouldn't be snapping at their heels to talk.

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm

She then made her argument for the case and I let her talk, being calm and listened to her fully. This was really good on my part I feel as I not interrupting eachother is a sign of a good, respectful, debate in my opinion as I have observed recently, plus it allows me to remain calm and think of a response, which I felt there of how important is to remain calm and logical. Getting instinctive and emotional and reactionary is not optimal.

Yep, perfect, great mindset.

And that's also what you can clearly state with words.
You -and your speaking partners as well- can only gain when those mindsets are shared.
And when it's a man-to-woman interaction, the (unintended) consequence is often also an increase in attraction.

Rock on, underdogexceptional!

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm

I brought up a cultural/historical event and was explaining why it happened, as I was explaining, she interrupted and started saying "thats not how it happened". Being aware of the power dynamics here, I carried on talking and did not let her cut me off as I have observed that would have been bad power dynamics and made me seem low-power. It used to be a mistake of mine to let people cut me off, because I was being too collaborative whilst they weren't. So I made a high-power move and carried on speaking until I articulated my point fully and she stopped speaking before then. I didn't let her cut me off and carried on good.

Also a good option here is "straight talk" about the rules of fair discussion:

You: (raise hand, or lightly touch her) Yeah, yeah, wait, let me finish first and then you can go, and when you speak, I'll also let you speak, deal?

You may even say "I do want to hear what you want to say, but I also want to finish first (smile). OK?".
When she agrees, you say "Good, glad we agree (smile)".

Depending on how people interrupt, it's also a good sign that one cannot wait to jump in: it means they care, and they about what you think -and influencing you-.
If one didn't care at all about someone, you bet they wouldn't be snapping at their heels to talk.

Quote from underdogexceptional on October 11, 2022, 9:39 pm

She then made her argument for the case and I let her talk, being calm and listened to her fully. This was really good on my part I feel as I not interrupting eachother is a sign of a good, respectful, debate in my opinion as I have observed recently, plus it allows me to remain calm and think of a response, which I felt there of how important is to remain calm and logical. Getting instinctive and emotional and reactionary is not optimal.

Yep, perfect, great mindset.

And that's also what you can clearly state with words.
You -and your speaking partners as well- can only gain when those mindsets are shared.
And when it's a man-to-woman interaction, the (unintended) consequence is often also an increase in attraction.

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#8 · October 12, 2022, 9:39 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on October 11, 2022, 10:29 pm

And when it's a man-to-woman interaction, the (unintended) consequence is often also an increase in attraction.

I have always seen this under the surface. Women enjoy it, you can see if they have a cheeky smile when you're conversating and debating friendly like and collaborating. Really good insight there, thanks Lucio.

#9 · October 12, 2022, 9:51 pm

Wednesday 12th August

"Everything you've been taught is wrong"

This is a powerful statement that just woke me up. I just heard Kevin Samuels say this in an example, and I've heard this in many places, and I use this myself and have internalised it a little bit.

So why am I bringing this up, if I've internalised this and live according to it?

Because thinking you acknowledge and believe something, and then actually acknowledging it and believing when it hits you hard in a specific example you get is POWERFUL and empowering. It lets you know what that REALLY means, the feeling you get of actually feeling and believing that in your core, rather than a surface level "understanding".

If everything we've been taught is wrong, then the secrets and true teachings of power, getting from A to B and real effectiveness are locked away somewhere, in the true corridors of success and human nature.

If the majority of things we believe are from society and the programming society has given us (which they fucking are), then god knows how much truth is out there, and how much nonsense and disempowering lies we believe that are not effective and not the truth.

A powerful concept to embrace, even if taken to the extreme this is good.

This website gives out and teaches that true power, Power University and the knowledge on this site reveals real power dynamics and knowledge we were not aware of, even though we lived it in our whole lives. And I am looking to investigate and be taught the hard, effective, dirty truth wherever it is out there.

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#10 · October 14, 2022, 1:09 pm

Friday 14th October

Internal Frames are a power that is seldom discussed. Frame Control is a more discussed topic, and of the highest importance.

The perspective we have on the circumstances we are involved in, and activities we are about to engage in dictate our meaning towards these events and how we feel about these events.

This can be the difference between being fucking motivated with maximum intention or disinterested and low intention.

And strangely, the only thing that dictates this is how we see these events.

Examples: I can go into the gym and frame every weight I encounter as a challenge to be overcome, that I am a warrior who embraces all obstacles that are put in my path, and I will dominate the weight.

Now that mindset is gonna be more powerful, and more result-producing than just lifting the weight when it comes to down to a heavy set where you're trying to hit a PR (personal record).

Big truth: In fact... your internal frame might be the difference between staying in bed and feeling like shit about yourself and disempowered versus getting up and going to take life by the balls and achieving your goals. It all relies on how you view your story and what it means to you.

Because of my internal frame, I got much better results.

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