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1. Explain why don’t agree with their choice of words and change it to what’s most suitable
1. Explain why you don’t agree with their choice of words and change the wording to what’s most suitable
2. Explain them -and to everyone around- what their game is (“going meta” technique)
2. Explain them -and to everyone around- what their game is (“going meta” technique)
Him: How could you do such a terrible, terrible mean thing to me
Her: Honey, I have no words to say how sorry I am. Let me just say it wasn’t out of meanness. I respect you and our finances. I happen to have an issue with controlling my spending. And taking your credit card was the biggest mistake of my life. I have an issue I need to cope with, I do realize that.
In this case, he didn’t even go after the word “terrible”, which would have probably led to an argument over the gravity of his actions.
In this case, she didn’t even go after the word “terrible”, which would have probably led to an argument over the gravity of her actions.
But embedded in his own reply there is a reframing of the situation from “terrible and mean” to “issue and mistake”.
But embedded in her reply there is a reframing of the situation from “terrible and mean” to “issue and mistake”.
Inconsistency in the gender references..
Virtue-Signaling Covert Power Moves: Watch Out Against MENTAL Disempowerment
Finally, we get to our good friends, the virtue signalers.
Finally, we get to our friends, the virtue signalers.
I certainly wouldn't call them good lol
Her: thank you for being so nice and listening me ramble on about all my problems, it makes me feel good to know there’s someone who can listen all this much and support me
Her: thank you for being so nice and listening to me ramble on about all my problems, it makes me feel so good to know there’s someone who can listen all this much and support me
This is even worst in dating and if you want to do something romantic or sexual with her, since now the frame is one where you are lower value, and you need to make up for the difference with all that emotional tampon type of support.
This is even worse in dating, especially if you want to do something romantic or sexual with her, since now the frame is one where you are lower value, and you need to make up for the difference with all that emotional tampon type of support.
Quote from J Les on November 14, 2023, 8:13 pmVirtue-Signaling Covert Power Moves: Watch Out Against MENTAL Disempowerment
Finally, we get to our good friends, the virtue signalers.
Finally, we get to our friends, the virtue signalers.
I certainly wouldn't call them good lol
LOL, yeah totally agree.
The "good" there was ironic.
But it's still great feedback: maybe it wasn't so obvious :)
Finally, we get to our good friends, the virtue signalers.
Finally, we get to our "good" friends ;) , the virtue signalers.
I do like the sarcastic twist - simply didn't come across like that when I read it plainly.
When you help people remember you, you are playing into their hands and further highlighting the power differential.
When you help people remember you, you are playing into their hands and further highlight the power differential.
If they’re helping and if you have not acknowledged it, then this is fair-exchange marketing and you were the one in debt.
If they’re helping and if you have not acknowledged it, then this is fair-exchange marketing and you are the one in debt.
However, it also sets off this dynamics:
However, it also sets off these dynamics:
(multiple dynamics)
But for relationships, it just doesn’t work nearly as well. But for relationships, it just doesn’t work nearly as well. (Repeated)
