Quote from John Freeman on July 20, 2023, 7:41 pm

Hello,

as a follow-up on this great thread.

Here are some thoughts about high value which I think has been quite extensively explained by Lucio especially in comparison to high quality:

To be of high value means to be valued highly by others. One cannot be high value outside of a social context since value is perceived within a given context. That is outside of universal value talked by Lucio such as money for instance depends on the context. That is if one is a skilled surgeon it is valued in a hospital or in time of war for instance. But being a surgeon in a supermarket or in a plane without a pilot has low to no value.

Of course value gives status so to me these are synonyms.

Now the thought I wanted to share is also the value we think we have (in a given context or independently of it). This overlaps with self-esteem.

For instance if one thinks he’s worth 50 (all qualities and skills compounded) one will subcommunicate it. Some people will value the person at 100 but it is less likely than if the person self-values at 100.

Since value is subjective and relative there is room for negotiation here. So I think it’s important to self-value as high as possible. Not to over-value oneself but to believe one has high-worth. That is also connected to have a high self-esteem to oneself.

If one thinks of himself at a 100 there is more chance that he will not set for less than 100 in social exchanges (value of mate, job, friends, etc.).

All this might seem convoluted but the main idea I want to share is that I believe that an important part of being of high value is thinking and believing oneself as high value. Not to the point of delusion but to the point of not selling oneself short.

I’m happy to know your thoughts on this topic.

Cheers.