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The Way of Men harks back to our ancestral days of cave-dwellers and hunter-gathering to teach readers what it really means “being good at being a man”.
3 Sentences Summary
- A man must show Strength, Courage, Mastery and Honor
- A man needs a gang of other men to fully develop his manhood
- Masculinity is at odds with our PC, overly polite society
The Way Of Men: Summary
About The Author: Jack Donovan writes on masculinity. An openly gay author, he condemns gay culture when it overlaps with feminism and leftist politics.
Some consider him a red pill author, but to me his content is more like “male-tribalist”, similar in that sense to Rollo Tomassi and Sebastian Junger.
Donovan says we sometimes see men trying to get back to what it means being men in the primordial way.
But they have to do so in a way that seems unnatural in a culture that does not accept those natural expressions of manliness.
To Donovan, being a man means going back to when we used to sit and camp around a fire, guarding our caves, women and possessions.
Always looking outside at what could threaten us and always ready to attack it.
Men, says Jack Donovan, are judged by other men and attract women when they obey to four core values:
Men differentiate from women because, on average, they’re stronger.
Jack Donovan says that a woman can be strong as well.
And if she is, great.
But if she’s not, nothing will change much. She will still have a good life and she’ll have several men lining up happy to help her out.
But if a man is weak, that’s a big stain for him that will make him less respected among other men.
Mastery is your level of skills in a certain field.
This will depend heavily on the type of gang you’re in. If you’re a soldier, it might be your endurance or your marksmanship.
If you’re a football player, it could be how well you defend or how well you score.
If you’re a firefighter, it might be your courage, or your ability to go climb a tree without any gear.
Courage means taking action even when there are risks or dangers.
A man who takes no risks or sacrifices nothing for the gang is a man that cannot be relied upon, says Donovan.
Such a man, makes the gang more vulnerable.
Honor means caring for your reputation.
Your reputation is tight to the other elements of strength, mastery and courage.
It is also mostly referring to other men.
He says that when men scoff at other effeminate men, they are often rejecting their weakness and their lack of manly virtues.
The effeminate men represent the complete opposite of what men should be standing for.
I agree indeed that women are little concerned with honor.
Our Current Society
Jack Donovan says there’s a part of us which still longs to be a man.
Today we do it with sports, video games or trying to make a career.
And even then, most men don’t take part in those.
So masculinity has become whatever people want it to be.
Even the effeminate man claims to be the “latest evolution of being a man”.
But ultimately, you have to stay true to the core value of a man.
And, the book seems to suggest, it’s not with words or career that we evolved to compete.
It’s with violence that we evolved to compete for status and power.
He compares the chimpanzees’ society to the bonobo society. The chimps are a patriarchal society where men compete with each other.
The bonobos are a matriarchal society where women mate with everyone in the group.
And peace reigns supreme.
Jack Donovan seems to prefer the warring chimpanzees and says our current western society is more like a bonobo one.
How to Form a Gang
The author also suggests that our society seems to be breaking up.
And that we might find it useful to being able to find our way of men.
Frankly, I found it to be wishful thinking of someone who almost hoped that was the case, and somewhat of a tin foil hat theory.
But hey, you never know, and if you’re interested I invite you to get the book for the actual steps on how to build your own gang :).
There is much that I don’t buy from The Way of Men, but please refer to the review for that.
Terribly Romanticized View Of Gangs
I feel Jack Donovan romanticizes the old days or the life in a gang, which is something very common in the manosphere.
It’s what I call the “back then was better bias”.
It reminded me of Tribe by Sebastian Junger.
And also of Rumble Fish, where a very immature Rusty James (Matt Dillon) fantasizes about gangs until the brother he so much admires tells him “it wasn’t anything”:
I feel the same way as Mikey Rourke in that movie.
Gangs weren’t anything as “cool” as Donovan makes them out to be: just a bunch of tribes killing each other, often, for nothing.
A piece of land, a silly value, an idealism or.. Nothing.
Just in the name of the gang itself and to strengthen the sense of belonging.
To me, that’s crap.
Romanticize View of The Past
Donovan seems lost in a romanticized view of the past, of the gangs and of warfare as well.
And he seems to suggest that the only way forward is… Going backward.
Just look at the book cover and you’ll understand what Donovan likes about that past: men in skimply clothes, guarding some “territory” with their lives.
Life in our past was probably much more boring than that.
And it was more much more seeking status within the group through social skills, than defending the territory as Donovan claims.
The Way of Men Review
I don’t think Jack Donovan, or anyone, can self-appoint himself to tell other “what it means to be a man”.
Donovan says that terrorists are “manly” and one of his follow-up books is called “Becoming a Barbarian”.
That says a lot about what “being a man” means to Donovan.
And it entails working, living, and dying for some meaningless ideals. Including an ideal you being spoon-fed by someone who is manipulating you for their own self-interest.
In Donova’s view of “what it means to be a man”, men are actually enslaving themselves to the group, and to other.
I disagree with that.
Not only I think this is toxic BS, but it also makes men’s lives worse.
It can be an easy sell because some young men need an ideal. I know because I’ve been there, and I’ve been pulled into the irrationality of groups and “bands of men” (in my case, it was ultras).
But I now know men can find a better ideal rather than falling for groupthink and obedience.
Men cannot find themselves in a gang, men need to find themselves first as individuals.
What About The Positives?
Now, to be more balanced, I found Jack Donovan’s dissertation on masculinity good from a sociological point of view, albeit still stifling for men.
Some might find this book sexist, and yet it won’t change the fact that men indeed ARE often judged for their strength, courage and honor.
Daring Greatly and The Mask of Masculinity tell us to stop letting those “masculinity values” oppress us into a corralled life that makes us unhappier, more neurotic, and socially more isolated.
Well, I love those two books… But if you take them at face value ,you risk fueling your excuses for behaving like a pu**y -also read Vulnerability is Not Power-.
And that’s what I loved about Donovan’s book. There’s no wishy washy BS.
Stifling View of Manliness
At the same time, though, Jack Donovan’s view is also stifling for men.
Why should men live by those ideals?
Why should anyone allow society, Jack Donovan or anyone else define them?
When you let people define you is also when you allow others to control you.
Read how women control men and relationships, which explains exactly how women leverage “what it means to be a man” to control men.
And that’s what Donovan is doing: trying to culturally impose on others his own point of view.
Don’t let anyone tell you “what it means to be a man”.
You decide it.
Or even refuse to “be a real man”. Just be whatever you want to be.