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Hello Roberto,
I'm going to be the negative nancy here: she's getting the summaries. What are you getting? You don't see her in 2 years and she's tasking you right away.
I understand why you gave it to her and I probably would have done the same. However, this is very valuable commodity. It might help getting good grades and success.
I'm telling you that because I shared summaries with a group of people in the past and not only they were not grateful but I realized later they were actually ambitious selfish people. One of them f*cked me over later.
So I don't want to project on this situation. My intention is to question if this is win-win. Not on you but more on her side.
I might be a bit negative on this so take my post with a grain of salt.
Hello John
Agree with you that such summaries can be critical to success, and people can still screw you over unexpectedly later. In the case of this colleague, however, I am of the opinion that I, also due to my experiences with her, have not placed value on who has more power. And that it was the right thing to do. But we'll see what the future brings.
Hello guys
Flirted with student yesterday. At some point our conversation topic came to a completed training which we both have done.
The following dialogue took place:
P: There was one guy in my class who was so good at physics he didn't even have to come to the lessons.
Roberto: Yes, there are people who are real "brains".
P: He tutored me every week, even came back to the physics class to explain it to me on Saturdays. He didn't even want anything for it.
Roberto: Did he really not want anything from you or was he just not man enough to tell you?
P: Maybe he did want something. *laughs* *facial expression of shame and nervousness*
Roberto: It's okey, everybody plays the cards he has *laughs*.
----End of conversation----
I think this shows several things: She knew what she was doing and thought she could bullshit me, but then was surprised when I asked about the real motive (sexual interest), which she had exploited.
Another (sad) example to show that being smart, helpful, nice never leads to p*ssy if it is not accompanied by personal power. In addition, you run the risk of being exploited very quickly. He basically carried her trough the entire physics class for... spending time with her?
Yep. 100%.
The rationalization for these women is that if the man is willing to accept this deal, then he's responsible and she's not exploitative. Which I think it's true.
If one sells a plastic pen and the other buys it for $10'000 dollars. Who's fault it is?
Hello guys
Just got home from my weekly Toastmaster event. Today was the first time I gave a "Table Topic" speech in my life. I was pretty excited/nervous inside. But I promised myself that this time I will do it and would just raise my hand when they ask who wants to give a speech. What I realized again today was, that sometimes all it takes is twenty seconds of courage. In the end, I was even voted best speaker. TPM has helped me in so many aspects of my life. The factor 10x would not be enough. In many ways I made a jump from 0 to 1, which is a much bigger step for me personally.
Therefore, a big thank you to all who post here and contribute to the fact that other readers can draw added value from your experiences!
Booom!
Rock on, Roberto!
Doing it is always the most important thing and how you do it, especially in the beginning, is just the initial material to work on.
But let's be honest... It's cool when you can perform well on the first try.
So you can then walk out and tell yourself "veni, vidi, vici" :)
Thanks for sharing, Roberto!! Congratulations on your first table topic speech, and even more for being the best speaker!!! It makes me really happy to see a fellow TPM-member succeed!
Quote from Roberto on October 23, 2023, 9:00 pmThank you for your answer Lucio!
She is (unfortunately (for me)) in a relationship.
BTW, one thing about this that I thought but never got around to write:
"These types of women" that are both attractive/classy/smart are almost always in a relationship (I put it between brackets because I"m obviously jumping to conclusion without knowing her).
If I think back fo some of the more attractive and classy women I dated, they all either wrote/switched to me immediately the moment they decided to end the previous relationship, or while the other one was ending and they had decided it was over.
In the red pill, never failing to betray their barely hidden bitternss :), they call it "branch switching" -in my cases, it was that the previous guy turned out to be not good enough for her standard so in my worldview, it was the guy who failed-.
So, in my opinion, it's still worth it to flirt and/or keep it a bit more sexual.
If you're out and the situation calls for it, making a move is OK (you can always stop very quick and say something like "yeah, I like you, that's what I do when I like a woman". The hint here is whenever she decides to end it with the current one, she can always get in touch with you because you're not a platonic friend).
The point is that since they're almost always in a relationship, it's best to be the "guy they think next" if they become dissatisfied and/or breakup from the current relationship.
