Quote from B on November 14, 2022, 8:15 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/foundations-of-self-development/topic/foundational-steps-of-social-power/:

1. Under 4.2: “2. Setting the rules of engagement: once a frame is set, it guides the relationship within the winner’s rules” [missing closing “.”]
2. Under 4.3: “Successful people succeed because they keep track of who gives and takes, who empwers them, and who disempowers them” [“empowers”]
3. Under 4.3: “They are strategic about their giving and taking, they know when someone is disempowering them, and they corrective actions (we’ll learn that in this course).” [“they take corrective actions”]
4. Under 4.3.4: “Winners and social strategies don’t let others disempower them.” [“strategists”]
5. Under 4.3.4: “When you let others disempower you, you lose social status and everyone’s respect (including your own)” [“missing closing “.”]
6. Under 4.4: “10. Kindness / pleasant disposition (remember: that is a form of well as value and, often, it requires investment)” [“value as well”]
7. Under 4.4: “then your investment is part of a virtuous cycle and quickly move towards collaborative and win-win” [“moves”]
8. under 6.2: “When children rebels in their teens” [“rebel”]
9. under 6.6: “And they don’t even much status or personality-based power” [“even have much”]
10. Numbering of paragraphs starts from 4, should be 1
11. Paragraph 4.3.4 should be 4.3.2 (and 1.3.2 after renumbering all above paragraphs)
12. Paragraph 8.2 should be 7.2 (and 4.2 after renumeration of above paragraphs)

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 15, 2022, 10:03 am

BOOM, awesome, thank you so much Bel, fixed it now.

Quote from B on November 15, 2022, 10:54 am

I understand now that the numbering of paragraphs is in sequence with the page immediately preceding that; what had led me to think that it was to restart was that the previous page also had a paragraph number 4.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 15, 2022, 11:50 am

Quote from Bel on November 15, 2022, 10:54 am

I understand now that the numbering of paragraphs is in sequence with the page immediately preceding that; what had led me to think that it was to restart was that the previous page also had a paragraph number 4.

Yeah, exactly!

Wanted to make a note to share that as well, but there was a gap between me fixing the issues and writing that thank you note and I forgot.

Quote from B on November 22, 2022, 11:12 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/high-value-socialization/topic/social-exchanges-i-the-economics-of-social-success/:

1. under High-Value People: A Profile: "Lots of people pleading for help send her poor CVs that only waste her time" [missing closing "."] and "She feels they only care about what she can do for them, without giving anything back" [missing closing "."]
2. under Value Takers...: "I’m an honest person, don’t corner me into this BS where I feel obliged to say “yes” and put my reputation on the line" [missing closing "."] and "Value taker: “Please, please, please…  “" [space between three dots and "]
3. under First Impressions: "And it’s the lower value person’s job is to make sure that he shows himself as a giver. Or, at least, not as a value-taker." ["job to"]

I know we're splitting the hair here btw!

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 23, 2022, 4:33 am

BOOM!

Thank you so much, Bel!

Any best-in-class course that wants to be "premium" needs not just premium content, but also premium and flawless presentation of the material, so the hair-splitting is most welcome and super useful.

Fixed it now, together with the infographics that Rogue mentioned earlier.

Quote from B on November 23, 2022, 7:22 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/high-value-socialization/topic/strategies-techniques-mindsets-foundational/:

1. under 1. Switch to...: "Be careful not to express the  WIIFT in a way that frames people as selfish". [a space too much between these words]
2. under 2. Give some...: "Remember from the previous lesson the example of that girl whom I said “I’ll let you know ASAP”? ["girl to whom"] and "Its’ because I didn’t trust..." ["It's"]
3. under 3.: "Your work is so helpful that I also share it with my friends" [missing closing "."]
4. "I’m sure other readers would also love some offers like that ( <-  frames ... value-giving)" [missing closing "." both at end of sentence and at end of comment]
5. "He might not share The Power Moves’ anymore." ["Moves"]
6. "You haven’t given anything yet, but you can “pre-suade” them with your future value-giving powe" ["power"]
7. "You give them value, your leverage increase, and they are incentivized..." ["increases"]
8. under 6. Become a a “fair-value social marketer”: green infographics: "Aligns interests, gives, assess, asks, strategize" ["assesses" and "strategizes"]
9. "When you’re here, you proactively sell and market your contribution to making sure they’re fairly valued and appreciated". ["make"]
10. "However, if you plan of going place in life" ["places"]
11. "After I linked to him, I showed it to him via text. and gave him 3 reasons why I added good value to his business." ["text, and"]
12. "you must keep an eye if the relationship can ever truly be win-win with them". ["on whether"]

Now I think I get the "fair value marketing" part! I think I just couldn't when I started.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 24, 2022, 6:41 am

Boom!

Thank you so much, Bel!

Fixed it now.

And about this:

Quote from Bel on November 23, 2022, 7:22 pm

Now I think I get the "fair value marketing" part! I think I just couldn't when I started.

Consider that I extended and improved that part.
And that was in large part thanks to you and our interactions on the forum, so really thank you for that.

Quote from B on November 28, 2022, 7:18 pm

At https://thepowermoves.com/courses/power-university/lessons/high-value-socialization/topic/advanced-rules-life-applications/:

1. under #2: "It’s a one-off, unless you decide so and unless you make up for it (VS part of a patter of endless giving)" ["pattern"]
2. "Rever of The Law Example: I helped her move, and she asked for more" ["Reverse"]
3. "She was quite far and would taken her many trips back and forth with heavy loads, so I rented a car and helped her out". ["and it would have taken her"]
4. "Plus, remted cars are paid in time, so my financial burden was also growing." ["rented"]
5. "And it would have been properly account for as well. We’d have both been better off, actually." ["accounted"]
6. "This is the TPM’s proverb:" ["TMP's proverb"]
7. under #5: "Think of it again in terms of financial terms:" ["in financial terms"]
8. "Give and go back to a neutral account (a provide an answer)" ["and"]
9. "...(“Rempump technique”)" ["Repump"]
10. "The beam-counting trap..." ["bean"]

This lesson is eye-opening, I now understand many of my former mistakes with takers.

On how to avoid the "You're bean-counting" defense when a taker is a friend or family member, or in any case has pre-framed the relationship as a "friendship" or "family"

One thought: what if the takers are in fact "family" or "close relationships"?

(Or if they have framed the relationship as a "close friendship" or "family" precisely to then be able to criticize fair value marketing as bean-counting)?

Which is something that, I now understand, has happened to me lots of times. Including here: this guy had emphasized the (fake) "friendship" frame precisely to accuse me of bean-counting when I asked to be paid.

How to avoid them then framing our "reminding them of the value one gives/has given" as "bean counting"?

An example:

This is precisely what my former boss did to me when I started (unconsciously) trying to pre-frame the relationship as an "independent work relationship".

I now realize he was in fact a master of framing my asking for payment as "bean counting".

He did so with tone of voice and facial expression, without verbalizing it.

When I started working with him from the outside, I would say:

Me: We need to agree on a fee here before me doing the work.

Him: Of course you'll get paid!!! Nobody works for free here!

(facial expression and tone of "how dare you insinuate I am taking anything from you!" and "you're so venal!")

I was at a loss there.

I think if this happened to me again, I could either go surfacing, as in

Him: Of course you'll get paid!!! Nobody works for free here!

Me: Nice you say that, as last time I did this, this and this and I think we both forgot that I should have received a fee for those things. But don't worry, that was then and this is now, let the past be in the past :)

(trying to subcommunicate: not only you are totally off the mark in framing me as bean-counting, but you still owe me, even if I'm so kind as to let your debt in the past - for now)

Or maybe one should dismantle the "friendship frame", I think the ideal could be to remove it from the case at hand (not altogether, which could be seen as nasty).

Tentative alternative to your suggestion in the thread above, to check if I'm starting to understand how to handle this:

Taker: Considering you worked for a shorter time than foreseen, I am sad that you didn’t give me a discount on this, not even in consideration of our friendship/our being relatives.

Me: Of course you're my friend, and when I can I'm totally glad to be of help - as I did many times in the past. But in this case, the work was very complex and high-responsibility, and actually took longer than foreseen. So please proceed to pay my fees.