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In this article we introduce the 9 laws that govern your social life.
Let’s dive in:
Contents
- 1. Power Shapes Your Reality (The Law of Social Filtration)
- 2. High Power Rises, Low Power Sinks (Law of Social Buoyancy)
- 3. First Impressions Lock 80% Status (The 80/20 Power Law)
- 4. Small Power Moves Add Up (‘Death By a Thousand Cuts™’)
- 5. Disrespect Gathers Momentum (Law of The Slippery Slope)
- 6. Weakness Undermines Win-Win (Law of Continued Respect)
- 7. Your Power Is Your Level, Minus Theirs (The Net Effect™)
- 8. High Status Friends Lift, Low Status Sink (Law of Association)
- 9. Power ↔ Value (The Power-of-Exchange Law)
- More: Take Control of Your Social Power
1. Power Shapes Your Reality (The Law of Social Filtration)
Law 1: Your power in both awareness and skills determines the quality of your relationships, which in turn determines how you experience and see the world
Power awareness helps you assess people and pick character in your life.
Power skills will help you maintain those relationships, and also keep everyone on their better behavior.
While people differ, most also adapt and can be givers or takers depending on the situation, and who they’re dealing with.
- In general, the easier it is to take from someone, the more people will take.
So how you experience (social) life depends largely on your level of power and skills.
Low-Power Attracts & Keeps Takers
People take more from low-power people because it’s easier to.
Low power people advertise that they’re easy targets: behave low power, and and fail to check power moves.
That attracts various types of takers, while winners stay away because they prefer other winners.
High-Power Discourages Takers
High-power people instead discourage takers.
High-power people advertise that they’re “hardened targets”. Takers either stay away or behave better because they know their attempts will fail.
💸 The Wallet Analogy
In a way, you and the value you can provide are like a wallet full of money.
The wallet is tempting for anyone to take.
But how many people will try and how successful they will be depends on you. And how easy or difficult you make it to take from you.
An Italian saying goes:
It’s the opportunity that makes the thief
✒️ Italian proverb
It’s the same in life.
Weak men provide opportunities to take.
Strong men provide opportunities for those willing to exchange (ie.: other high-value individuals).
2. High Power Rises, Low Power Sinks (Law of Social Buoyancy)
Law 2: High power rises up in hiearchies, while low power sinks down
As a general rule:
⚖️ Socially dominant men lead 1:1 relationships, and gain higher status in groups.
Low-power men follow, and languish at the bottom of the hierarchy.
3. First Impressions Lock 80% Status (The 80/20 Power Law)
Including:
- How you carry yourself in body language, posture, etc.
- Who you engage first: high-status folks, or low-status ones?
- Handshake
- First words
- Voice
- First conversation
- Quantity
- First reaction to social challenges
We’ll learn how to ace all of them 🔜
3.2. Patterns of Power Cement Status (Status Cementing™)
Unless you proactively change the early dynamics, they “cement” and become de facto hierarchies and ranks.
⚠️ 🏢 Low-status men are passed up for promotions.
At work, informal hierarchies often become official with promotions and titles.
High-status men get promoted. Low-status ones are “non-leadership material“.
Stickiness, More Than Cement
More than cement, think of it as “stickiness”.
You can always change anything.
It just takes more willpower, skills, and time.
And you face more resistance -both internal, and external-.
That’s why earlier is better.
4. Small Power Moves Add Up (‘Death By a Thousand Cuts™’)
Law 4: Small disempowering moves add up to large effects
If you never push back, a string of small shoves pushes you to the bottom of the hierarchy.
The first few cuts may seem inconsequential. But submission only invites more (principle #1).
And you eventually bleed all your status away.
Small power moves add up to push you to the bottom
🔎 Example of multiple cuts
- He takes the lead + dominant introduction
- Leads the interaction: asks “Who are you”
- Strong handshake, voice, and direct gaze
- You remain neutral (losing out because of the net effect 🔜)
- He leads the conversation
- Asks “Where are you from”
- You answer where you’re from and ask nothing back
- He makes a “funny comment” about your nationality:
- Ie.: “Lucio Corleone from Italy”
- You laugh a bit too much
- You propose place X to go to, he says that “It’s OK, but place Y is better”:
- You say you’re OK either way
He was dominant right away. If you match, you won’t be lower than him. But if you don’t, you keep being pushed down, small cut after small cut.
Assholes will then take up another notch just to use you as a “social peg” to display their dominance:
- At the restaurant, he tells you where to sit, an orange power move
- He says he prefers someone else close to him
- You acquiesce
By this point, your low-status in the hierarchy is “cemented”.
Forget women in that group liking you, or guys wanting to befriend you.
5. Disrespect Gathers Momentum (Law of The Slippery Slope)
Law 5: Unchecked disrespect only invites more of it
Early disrespect opens the door for more.
For example, in a relationship, the first insult is rarely the last. Instead, it may increase to a shove, which in turn is the first sign of partner violence engulfing a toxic relationship.
6. Weakness Undermines Win-Win (Law of Continued Respect)
Law 6: Continued respect is a precondition for healthy and win-win relationships
Principle:
⚖️ The more weakness you display, the more they lose respect for you
And when they lose respect for you, they think you’re below them, or even unworthy of them.
And you can’t have a win-win relationship of equals when others think you’re too far below them.
You both lose when you let others disrespect you because the relationship sours for both.
Read more:
7. Your Power Is Your Level, Minus Theirs (The Net Effect™)
Law 7: Power is relative and emerges from the power difference between the actors
If your level is 9.5, you’re second in command when a 10 is around.
7.2. At Parity of Power, Lower Warmth Is Higher Power
Power and warmth are two sometiems opposing approaches to socialization.
And at parity of power, the person with less warmth is seen as more dominant.
Chart:
More warmth costs you if others aren’t equally warm
This holds true for men actively trying to dominate you.
With attacking asshole, warmth sub-communicates kissing up behavior, a form of self-protection with similar dynamics of the ‘Stockholm syndrome’.
👉🏼 Takeaway: Watch for reciprocation of friendliness and adjust. Remove signals of friendliness with those who show very little warmth.
🔎 Case Study: Jocko Willink
Jocko is high power, and sometimes low-warmth.
Example:
Interviewer: Everybody go check out the podcast and book (…) Thanks Jocko
Jocko: (barely laughs, expends little effort) Outstanding
Jocko does not thank the interviewer for promoting his book, and shows little warmth.
If the interviewer had been warmer after that, he’d look low-status and “kissing up”.
🛠️ How to handle dominant but low-warmth men
- Go higher power
- Decrease your warmth (like the interviewer did)
- Go lower energy (be careful with the “high energy” some charisma coaches champion)
8. High Status Friends Lift, Low Status Sink (Law of Association)
Law 8: Being with high-status people lifts you upward, while over-engaging with lower-status ones pulls you down towards their level
This law leads to a host of social and psychological games.
For example:
| LOW-STATUS “CLIMBING” GAMES | 🛡️ HIGH-STATUS DEFENSE |
|---|---|
| Secretary at law firm seeks friendship with lawyers | Lawyers are better off friendly but not too close |
| Junior employee asks senior employee questions during a presentation to get engagement and investment | The senior should keep answers short. If it’s a good question, address the whole team or the boss |
| 🪱 Woman mistreats or badmouths her partner to display she’s better (and ready for a higher-value men) | 🐍 The man who wants her cannot sympathize with him or he stoops down. He must agree or pile on |
| Befriend & social climb game Doorman at upscale condo jokes with tenants to sub-communicate he’s at the same level. Then one-ups them to gain even more power. ⛏️ Bel’s example | Tenants are better off friendly, but not too chummy. Strongly enforcing boundaries to put him “back in his place” when he pulls power moves is necessary. |
👉🏼 🎓 PRO Tip: Avoid low-value associations, even in your stories
Never sub-communicate that the people close to you are low value.
🛠️ If you talk about poor characters, always A) say or sub-communicate you’re not close (ie. “she’s just an ex-classmate); or B) display dismissive body language to sub-communicate you don’t appreciate the person 🔜.
9. Power ↔ Value (The Power-of-Exchange Law)
Law 9: Power and value are two different but overlapping and mutually influencing constructs
Power and value overlap and complement each other, and people expect them to overlap.
For example, a value giver expects to have more power—a fair expectation that you generally want to honor in order to maintain the relationship.
It’s the same principle of “no taxation without representation”.
🟰 If I give value/money, I expect power.
Also read:
More: Take Control of Your Social Power
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