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Tinder: what basic frames and mindsets?
Hello Lucio,
as I'm sure you're aware, being able to tap into the online pool of women is a great asset. I'm quite a beginner still.
Do you have any basic advice regarding frames, mindsets and speech patterns?Â
I found these two posts so far:
- How to turn the I'm romancing you into we're romancing together
- How to turn games into a cooperative relationship
Thanks!
Hey John,
Yeah, absolutely it's a great asset and a great potential source of dates/sex.
I will never understand the people who snub online dating. Or better: I lose some respect for their advice. They are confusing personal preference (or personal lack of success) with a rational analysis of effective strategies.
Sure, it might not be my preferred way of meeting women, but it's an effective and value-adding channel nonetheless.
Take a look at this (failed) Tinder convo as well:
That first text shown in there is how I open most of the times.
The approach is based on proposing a meet right away as a first message, and frame it in a way that hints at the possibility of sex/romance, without being blatant or offensive about it.
