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Wow! I devoured this great review from beginning to end.
Several parts struck a chord, especially this one. I think this happens to me in the group I talked about.
touting characteristics or resources that reflect one’s social instrumental value, may appear highly self-promoting (which they are), and convey that one is superior to other people in certain respects, generate competitiveness with other group members, or evoke envy. Such reactions may undermine the person’s perceived relational value , along with liking and acceptance.
The balance between status and power, dominance and prestige, acceptance and status, and other things. This book is a gold mine! Saved the review in my bookmarks.
This is napalm fire good:
Not Everyone Cares About Status, Everyone Cares About Acceptance
The price of status explains the price of being high in the hierarchy: one needs the group to exist.
This description of the effects of status stands in stark contrast to the effects of power, which liberates people from social and normative pressures and enables them to shift their focus inward, toward their own goals and dispositions (Galinsky et al. 2008; Guinote 2007; Keltner et al. 2003).
Boom! And BOOM!
Indeed, power can prompt an egocentric orientation to social encounters (Fiske 2010; Galinsky et al. 2006; Lee and Tiedens 2001). As such, power makes people less attentive to and concerned about others (Galinsky et al. 2006) and thus may also make them less concerned about others’ impressions of them .
This explains the individualism of some of my French friends. They don't have crave as much status as they crave power (in the form of freedom: free time for instance).
Hubristic pride refers to pride marked by feelings of arrogance and conceit, while authentic pride refers to pride marked by feelings of accomplishment, confidence, and success (Tracy and Robins 2004). Hubristic pride is highly antisocial, whereas authentic pride is socially valued.
Awesome.
Considering that these null effects were found in relatively egalitarian societies, which reflects the conditions in our ancestral past, they suggest that perhaps a certain level of experience with social inequality is required to associate height with prestige and good socioeconomic outcomes (cf. Stulp 2013)
Mind-blown. (despite the "perhaps")
Fair people are assumed to be high status, unfair ones high-power
Men prefer power, women status:
Interesting...
You can’t beat a great book based on research, written by smart researchers.
It seems like it. This is some very very high quality information. Golden nuggets!
It's funny because this morning I was reading the "best books" page to look for the next book to listen to. I thought: "some day I won't find anymore book I'm interested as I would have read all the ones I'm interested in." Then I thought: "yeah but Lucio will surely dig out some pearls in the mean time (Psychology of leadership, Underboss and the likes). And you did it again...
Thank you so so much!
I'm going to check out other reviews as I usually go for the book directly from the list.
Like the Prince which is difficult for me to focus on while listening or the logic of political survival which does not exist in audible format.
Quote from John Freeman on September 21, 2023, 8:15 pmWow! I devoured this great review from beginning to end.
Several parts struck a chord, especially this one. I think this happens to me in the group I talked about.
touting characteristics or resources that reflect one’s social instrumental value, may appear highly self-promoting (which they are), and convey that one is superior to other people in certain respects, generate competitiveness with other group members, or evoke envy. Such reactions may undermine the person’s perceived relational value , along with liking and acceptance.
The balance between status and power, dominance and prestige, acceptance and status, and other things. This book is a gold mine! Saved the review in my bookmarks.
This is napalm fire good:
Not Everyone Cares About Status, Everyone Cares About Acceptance
The price of status explains the price of being high in the hierarchy: one needs the group to exist.
This description of the effects of status stands in stark contrast to the effects of power, which liberates people from social and normative pressures and enables them to shift their focus inward, toward their own goals and dispositions (Galinsky et al. 2008; Guinote 2007; Keltner et al. 2003).
Boom! And BOOM!
Indeed, power can prompt an egocentric orientation to social encounters (Fiske 2010; Galinsky et al. 2006; Lee and Tiedens 2001). As such, power makes people less attentive to and concerned about others (Galinsky et al. 2006) and thus may also make them less concerned about others’ impressions of them .
This explains the individualism of some of my French friends. They don't have crave as much status as they crave power (in the form of freedom: free time for instance).
Hubristic pride refers to pride marked by feelings of arrogance and conceit, while authentic pride refers to pride marked by feelings of accomplishment, confidence, and success (Tracy and Robins 2004). Hubristic pride is highly antisocial, whereas authentic pride is socially valued.
Awesome.
Considering that these null effects were found in relatively egalitarian societies, which reflects the conditions in our ancestral past, they suggest that perhaps a certain level of experience with social inequality is required to associate height with prestige and good socioeconomic outcomes (cf. Stulp 2013)
Mind-blown. (despite the "perhaps")
Fair people are assumed to be high status, unfair ones high-power
Men prefer power, women status:
Interesting...
You can’t beat a great book based on research, written by smart researchers.
It seems like it. This is some very very high quality information. Golden nuggets!
It's funny because this morning I was reading the "best books" page to look for the next book to listen to. I thought: "some day I won't find anymore book I'm interested as I would have read all the ones I'm interested in." Then I thought: "yeah but Lucio will surely dig out some pearls in the mean time (Psychology of leadership, Underboss and the likes). And you did it again...
Thank you so so much!
I'm going to check out other reviews as I usually go for the book directly from the list.
Thank you for sharing, John!
It's very helpful to know what's helpful.
As a side note, for some of the books -but not at all!- I consider it more (time-)effective to stick with the reviews, than getting the full book.
As for many other situations, it's a continuum as well. At the extreme of potentially good but fluffy books, they may be great once you condense them. In those cases, going for the full book may be a very poor use of one's time.
Yes thanks for the guidance.
When we talked about good strategy bad strategy I understood that’s what you meant. But my perfectionist self still wanted to have “all the knowledge”. I also like to go with the author through the progressive path of discovery of the information as I’m going through the book. But I was too hard-headed so could not take the advice.
Now with this review and your advice I get it and I’m open to the advice. So thanks a lot. I definitely will do this for certain books. That gives me a great alternative apart from listening in that order:
1. Audible
2. Reviews in case I don’t find the book on audible, is not a main focus of mine or don’t feel like reading the book. In short: saving time.
3. Reading the book.
The goal is acquiring the knowledge not reading books.
Cheers!
New book review:
Another typical Rollo's "red pill" book: some great insights, and some important drawbacks.
Overall, misleading title though and not really a "player handbook".
If the guy was ever a player -have my doubts-, he hasn't been on a date for decades now, and... it shows :).
So it's more like typical Rollo's heavy theorizing.
New book review:
- The 2-Hour Cocktail Party by Nick Gray (10/10): I knew this book was good when I first read it a few months ago, but I wasn't sure how good compared to the other networking books out there. Now, after months of reading dozens of other books on the subject, I can confirm it: this book is great.
As a matter of fact, I'd make it the second book in the "best networking resources" list right under Never Eat Alone.
New review...
AND new TPM's recommended resource.
So, yeah... Kind of a big deal :D
I wanted to have something in the recommended resources that was about analyzing leaders/influencers/famous people ("gurus") and the various red flags.
For a time, I thought Coffeezilla may be a good guy for that.
And Coffee is great... But these guys better fit the bill.
New review:
- Content-Based Networking by James Carbary (8.5/10): for a networking book, it’s an 8.5. But, for a content-based networking book, it’s a 10/10. (This is a great resource for the one strategy it teaches and would've received a higher rating if it covered more ways to network than only starting a platform.)
Reviewed The Fund.
The book that paints Dalio as a despotic leader -mentioned it before here-.
Going out live tomorrow here:
Aha, clicked that link to read it now only to realize what you meant by "going live tomorrow"...way to build the suspense there Lucio :).
Looking forward to this one.
