Feedbacks & clarifications

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 7, 2021, 12:42 am

Hey @transitioned ,

I guess you know the scope of this thread already, if not check out the beginning of it, but in short: this is to clarify things and to provide feedback and/or opinions with the aim of adding value.

Quick personal feedback here (edit: "personal" in the sense of being my subjective opinion), you decide what to do with it -take it, leave it, laugh about it, or throw it back at me :)-.

"R" VS ARE

When you use "R" to say "are", it makes it more difficult for people to read, which in turn leads to fewer people going through your full messages, and more people stopping halfway.

And there is a slight association in some people's minds between teenagers and abbreviations. So that might remove some of your authority -definitely something to consider at work, maybe less important here-.

Also, as a suggestion, you can consider using the "quote function" and bolden the name of the speaker, and any comment that is not a direct quote, move it to another line, which also makes it easier and more appealing to read.

Cheers!

Quote from Transitioned on January 7, 2021, 1:48 am

Thanks - good feedback.  I'll go back and clean up my threads over the weekend.

Quote from Matthew Whitewood on January 7, 2021, 4:49 am

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 7, 2021, 12:36 am

Matthew: Does operator refer to operating businesses or operating the power dynamics in business situations?
The former: Operating businesses in the sense of understanding how to manage, plan, and execute.
The latter: More focused on politics and power dynamics when operating a business with a partner.

Yeah, I can see how it was confusing.

I used "advanced operator" as a (failed) attempt at using a "fun/different" word to say "advanced practitioner of power-dynamics".
The word "operator" conveys a bit more of a "cold" feeling, as if to say one has mastered the mechanics of social and power dynamics, so now they can put them in practice almost mechanically, without thinking about it.

So, actually, netiher of your two options, "advanced operator" there meant "good at power dynamics". And the invite still stands :).

I do like the connotation of advanced operator.
Sounds like the cold-blooded dominance type in a fun way.
I picture Arnold Schwarzenegger from the Terminator series.

Thanks for the invite! : )

Quote from John Freeman on January 10, 2021, 10:26 am

Hello guys,

I would like to know for better communication and respect on the forum, when you write an elaborate answer to somebody and the person puts a thumbs up.  Do you think: that it's not enough or that it is enough?

My previous point of view was that writing a "thanks" in a thread can be a pollution because it does not add more information to the thread. But I'm starting to think otherwise.

It's important for me to respect you and all of us have different ways of feeling respected. So this question is for the most frequent users: Lucio, Kellvo, Matthew, Transitioned, Stef and Ali with whom I interact most often. 

Could you please tell me your individual preferences about this?

Thanks a lot!

Quote from Matthew Whitewood on January 11, 2021, 2:12 am

John, I had the same concern!

I was thinking of opening up a thread just to say thanks.
An abridged version of this feedback thread.

Though we can give short feedback over here as well like "Thanks, awesome post man".
Acknowledgement + Feedback.

For me personally, a thumbs up is good enough.
If it's inconvenient, I would not like anyone to go out of their way to give a thumbs up or thanks as well.

I want to thank Ali Scarlett for sharing his learnings of the course Daniel Pink Teaches Sales and Persuasion.
I prefer not to add anything to that thread if I don't have anything valuable to say, which is the same concern that John had.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 11, 2021, 12:45 pm

Quote from John Freeman on January 10, 2021, 10:26 am

I would like to know for better communication and respect on the forum, when you write an elaborate answer to somebody and the person puts a thumbs up.  Do you think: that it's not enough or that it is enough?

My previous point of view was that writing a "thanks" in a thread can be a pollution because it does not add more information to the thread. But I'm starting to think otherwise.

Yeah, good question.
Maxim had asked something similar.

As a general principle, yes, a "thumbs up" it's a way of giving back / thanking the person.

It's got some limitations since people don't exactly know who was it who liked their post, but usually, people do form a (more or less correct) idea as to who it was.

But I agree with both you and Matthew, the cons of always saying "thanks" outweigh the advantages. If one were to reply every time with a "thanks", that would "pollute" the thread in a way, adding non relevant information and "watering down" the wisdom/quality.
Plus, it would take more people's time since they have to start reading a post to understand there is no content.

So yeah, I think Matthew's idea is a good one:

Quote from Matthew Whitewood on January 11, 2021, 2:12 am

I was thinking of opening up a thread just to say thanks.
An abridged version of this feedback thread.

Though we can give short feedback over here as well like "Thanks, awesome post man".
Acknowledgement + Feedback.

Quote from Matthew Whitewood on January 11, 2021, 7:05 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 11, 2021, 6:38 pm from this thread

Personally, I actually feel better to know a girl I'm getting close to as a friend as a great relationship.

Would this mean

"You would prefer to be emotionally close to women as friends who are in an already solid, romantic relationship with another man"

Or

"You view close female friends as sort of like great relationships"

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 11, 2021, 7:17 pm

The former, I misspelled it, it was supposed to be: "Has a great relationship (with someone)" (= "is in a great relationship")

Quote from John Freeman on January 12, 2021, 8:09 pm

Hello Lucio,

Could you please change the topic of the other thread to « How to ostracize a value-taker » or something like that?

Thanks a lot!

Cheers!