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Short Thank You's and Feedback
Thank you Bel, Ali and John for your responses/thoughts on my recent thread of 'false meta'.
Growfast, thank you for helping me on many of my threads and questions.
Big thank you to Lucio and Bel for your feedback in my latest two threads (covert power moves and the Fiverr seller)!
Your posts have helped me gather some valuable insights for my own growth and I'll be remembering what you've said when I'm making more decisions on how to respond to situations moving forward.
Thank you for writing this note, Ali!
They were great studies, by the way. And that "give an inch / take a mile" dynamic might make a good addition to PU / power dynamics and become its own discrete concept with its own name.
Thank you Lucio and Ali! Ali's thread and Lucio's thoughts on customer service here today nudged me to reach this decision.
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 22, 2022, 3:25 pmThank you for writing this note, Ali!
They were great studies, by the way. And that "give an inch / take a mile" dynamic might make a good addition to PU / power dynamics and become its own discrete concept with its own name.
Glad you think so, Lucio!
The covert power moves one might be a good case of overreaction from over-analyzation as well. (Reading it back, I agree that the first one in my response feels unneeded).
Also, I noticed that you linked to the Fiverr case study in a recent email to the list. In the future, you can also link to your post as well — I drew a lot of inspiration from it for my own and I think the readers would gain a lot of insight from it as well (plus, it's a really fun read).
Quote from Bel on March 22, 2022, 7:22 pmThank you Lucio and Ali! Ali's thread and Lucio's thoughts on customer service here today nudged me to reach this decision.
Happy to read that, Bel! And, also really glad to see the outcome you reached there, looks like a good (well-deserved) win.
Thank you, Lucio, for sharing more of your insights and analyses in the case study on Voss and the Petersons. Very, very insightful for me as I go through PU again and make another big effort to learn and grow more (hopefully, moving to a new level of mastery in power dynamics).
Also, really happy to read your thoughts on Voss, I knew you weren't the biggest fan of him, but I didn't have as much clarity on your feelings about him until now. And, I wouldn't have if it weren't for your honest, open communication.
If you'd like, let's review the "everything in life is a negotiation" line in TSS and find a way to reword it (and if nothing quite fits, we can always remove it, happy to do that as well).
Feel free to let me know what you think.
Thank you for this message, Ali, and thank you for opening that thread.
Already from the first message it was already a 10/10 analysis.
I'll keep watching it and add new power moves if there are any as we go by, and it may become a PU-linkable thread on how to read people from conversations and from (smaller) red flags.
Quote from Ali Scarlett on April 3, 2022, 12:50 pmIf you'd like, let's review the "everything in life is a negotiation" line in TSS and find a way to reword it (and if nothing quite fits, we can always remove it, happy to do that as well).
Feel free to let me know what you think.
Well... I'm open to that :D.
Since that's one of the parts in which you're the narrator -which is 99% of the book of course :)-, I think it's only fair that the ultimate decision is up to you and I'm cool either way.
But yeah, let's add it is a discussion point for the next call around TSS and if all past discussion points are of any guidance, we'll quickly reach a decision we're both cool with.
Hey Lucio, wanted to say "thank you" for sharing so much of your thoughts and feedback in my thread.
It felt a little off/unbalanced with the quick response I gave to your long, detailed posts. So, I wanted to thank you properly :).
On my side, I just had a new, experimental self-development experience that caused the quality of my thoughts to decline (and I'm still recovering from what they did).
Looking forward to sharing all about it in my journal soon, but the long and short of it is that I didn't feel well mentally equipped to respond to your post just yet.
So, when I'm back with my head on straight, if I have anything more to add to your posts, I'll be sure to share those thoughts as well.
Thank you for saying that, Ali.
And it's absolutely all good.
As a matter of fact, I think that (trying to) give a lot when someone already has found a solution adds an obligation, with little added value -and you already largely had a solution-.
And the more you try to give -in that case, write-, the more you make it difficult for the receiver as he has to process it, has to thank you back, and even potentially force him to fake some usefulness when there might have been none.
So I think that a quick answer from you was totally appropriate and already more than enough.
