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TPM articles updates: what's new
We have one thread of Power University updates.
However, I always also update articles, especially the most important ones.
So I'm gong to post here what's "new" in the blog section.
Added an example in the article:
- Asshole dating strategy: similar situation handled with an "asshole approach" VS a "socially higher quality" approach
New example:
- Growth mindset power dynamics: how power-seeking people approach mistakes with a teacher attitude, not a learner's one (Greenspan Example)
Face and expression of a learner, or a "I know-better-than-you" teacher?
I think these "learner/teacher" principles are among the most groundbreaking and most useful things in PU/TPM.
It's really something that is incredibly useful to know and understand, among the most important things that can impact at a professional and personal level.
Thank you so much for the note, Bel.
It's super valuable to know what's helpful -including for what to prioritize in PU and in future developments-.
OFF-TOPIC
It's an interesting question to me why it's so easy to miss the power aspect of the "growth mindset".
The main reason of course is that many people are not power-aware in general.
Why also many folks here missed the risks of the growth mindset?
Free thinking here:
REASON 1: GROUNDBREAKING CONCEPT "BLINDS" PEOPLE
I think int part may be because the principle of learner mindset is groundbreaking in itself, and true... In many situations.
So when people first encounter they're too wowed by the new wisdom to look "beyond the facade".
It's not too different from when you meet the charismatic and high-power guru/charlatan. Especially if in person, he seems so awesome that most people fail to look beyond that charisma mask.
REASON 2: LONG-TERM BIAS OF GROWTH MINDSET VIBES WITH (AND FOOLS) LONG-TERM THINKERS
Second, the growth mindset is all about long-term.
And people who are into self-development tend to have a long-term bias toward success. So the "take the hit today, but learn for tomorrow" is appealing.
Except that the eternal teacher can also be successful long-term. Especially if he also knows (some) of his stuff. He scores a lot of short-term wins... And stacks them up over and over and also be successful long-term.
In the meanwhile, as someone said, "in the long-term we're all dead".
And if the learner fails to act high-power and like an expert... Then it's that meme of the skeleton with the caption "waiting for the perfect man", except the caption would be "waiting to be respected (and valued and rewarded) as an expert".
REASON 3: THE EXTREME PITFALL
Then there is the "appeal of the extreme".
As in "the more extreme you do a good thing, the more extreme good results you'll get" pitfall.
Tom Bilyeu -also in the case study- for example embraces and advertises that extreme growth mindset approach.
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Added a note on "leadership dark side":
Leadership manipulation and leadership's potential for value-taking to individuals and followers is one of the next major topics for TPM to explore and shed a light on.
The most obvious one is that most leaders, including bosses/managers/founders, want "empowered enough individuals" to add value, but not so empowered that they don't want a leader anymore.
Richard Branson's famous quote may be amended as:
- “Train people well enough so they can leave, treat them well enough (<--- this may be an important Freudian slip) so they don't want to... "
- ("But also keep them dependent, unaware, and just "happy enough" that they never realize they may be better off on their own")
Added a new example of "pollyannish motivation":
- Pollyanna naive motivation: Simon Sinek's deadly combo
When I saw Sinek's nonsense video with 12 millions view I wanted to throw my phone away :D.
Then I decided that the next best thing was to add that video as a great example of naive motivation :).
In how to be a good asshole.
To avoid being taken for a sucker when you're giving:
- Justify your kindness, whenever your giving is at risk as being taken for "too nice guy" or "making up for a value differential"
In the law of optimum balance:
- New example of how "extreme drive" can be the (toxic) of personal issues: Liver King "apology"
In Can't Hurt Me review added a video example of how a "me VS you" approach to self-development increases haters and gives haters even more leverage over you.
In the Alpha Male Game article added when that style tends to work best.
And it works best in social circles.
