Spotting a player can be easy… Once you have a bit of experience and know what to look for.
And most articles I have browsed around the web have no clue as to what to look for. But worry not, I got you covered :).

The Player Psychology

To spot a player, you have to understand the psychology of a player. Player is indeed more about a state of mind than about the act of bedding women.
And that state of mind is underpinned by a common thread:

• Pride

The most inveterate players, those who play out of a drive and lust for women are all indeed proud. They are proud of their “skills”, their love for women, their female knowledge or, more crudely, about their partners’ count.
That pride is what you need to leverage to spot a player.

6 Question to Spot a Player

Direct questions won’t work. The best way is to lure him out. Remembering that he structures his ego around women, you need to put him in a position to defend his “honor”. Provoke him to prove his worth.
Here are a few great ways:

1. Ah, what do you know about women, you’re a guy

You are prodding his pride here. Provoking him by implying he doesn’t know women. If he defends his female knowledge, he’s a player.

2. My ex was such a player. He knew the game, he slept with more than 15 women

Say it with a little disdain.
The boring guys will tell you “poor you”.
The good guys will be interested in how you felt.

But the player?
You just aroused his competing instincts. Now he won’t wanna come second to your ex. And that’s how you will catch him.
If laughs or at looks at you with a smirk and asks “oh why, is that a lot?”, then you know he’s a player.

I wouldn’t personally resist this question either and would likely ask back “and do you think that’s a lot?”.

3. My girlfriend met Mr. Perfect. She won’t sleep with him so he’ll be serious with her

This is just an example of a question you can ask. The idea is that you throw at him a dating or seduction issue. You can hive ask him what your girlfriend should do with a certain guy.
And if he starts telling you about dating, dating games and seduction techniques, then chances are he’s a player.

4. I don’t know, you seem like a guy who would hurt women..

Now notice that many guys here will reassure you they are for real. And that they don’t hurt women.
But that’s not how players act and think. They don’t think in terms of “not hurting” and “taking care”. They think in terms of giving and of sharing adventures.

And they will tell you about “giving” whirlwind romance, “giving” passion and great sex. Or losing themselves in the moment with you.

Tell him that sentence. Than start digging deeper within his answers. It won’t take long till you get to his “player’s honesty time”. See here an example of how that looks like:

5. I think there are two types of men: long term, for serious stuff; and short term, to have fun. You look like short term

Bingo. That’s exactly the player’s mentality!
You just did three things when you say that. You:

1. Stroked his ego
2. Gave him a great reason to come out (ie.: position himself as quick sex)
3. Make him feel like he can be honest with you

Chances are he will jump on the chance of coming out and he’ll want to actually prove that he’s short term material. Once he does that, it’s your call: enjoy the night, or drop him.

6. How do You Spend Most of Your Time

This question is not for the real players but for the guys who simply end up behaving like players. These guys might be marriage material… In the future.
But right now they don’t have time for women. They might enjoy women, but his priorities are different.
If all he’s doing is work, if he has no time for anything outside his passion and goals.. He might see women the way James Bond does. A good distraction.

7. Are you a player?

You’ll be surprised to see that, contrary to what most other sources online say, many guys are open about it. This can be either because they validate their ego with women, or because they are high-level womanizers and don’t need to lie.
Read more in Signs of a Fuckboy.

Types of Players

Let’s use the definition of player as “a man who sleeps with more women than most other guys”.
I would then differentiate players in four different categories:

• Opportunity player (they have the chance and take it)
• Love for women player (Casanova types)
• Validation player (sleep with women for ego validation)
• Sex addicts

Check this post to find out more about the different types of players.

Summary

There are no statistics, but from my own experience, I’m pretty confident players are a minority. Most guys indeed do not have super easy access to women, are not hell bent in retching up lays and are not slaves to women’s beauty the way Casanova was.

But though they’re a minority, with their skills and charm they also make up an important part of the dating scene. Also since they are more active than most guys, it also feels like there’s more of them.

But know you know a bit more on how to spot a player.