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My name is Lucio, I am psychology nut, social skills consultant and eternal researcher of everything related to people and social dynamics.
This article will tell you what research and body language says about a powerful, confident and sexy walk.
- 1. Move Your Shoulders
- 2. Pace Your Walk With Your Arms
- 3. Splay Your Legs
- 4. Walk With Erect Posture
- 5. Splay Your Feet Outward
- 6. Keep Your Gaze Up
- 7. Smile Slightly
- 8. A Walk To Pick Up
- 9. Bounce With Gravity Defying Steps
- 10. Brisk Walk is a Sexy Walk
- Walk Like You Own It: The Mindset
- Bonus: Some Less Sexy Walk for Men
1. Move Your Shoulders
Some sources say a shoulder swag is a major element of a sexy walk because it highlights the shoulders and makes them look broader, highlighting a positive masculine quality (similarly women sway their hips and bottom to highlight femininity).
Shoulder swag is also a sign of energy and vitality.
2. Pace Your Walk With Your Arms
The arm usage in a sexy walk for men falls in two main categories:
- Back and Forth Movement
- Distance from the Body
Not moving and standing still is a typical fear response part of the “freeze” category of our reptilian brain.
Similarly, arms too close to our body signal fear and unconfidence when we’re afraid of venturing in the nearby territory and when we feel our arms could be more helpful close by to defend our body.
Neither are what we want to look like: for a sexy and confident walk we’ll move our arms and we will spread them farther from our body.
3. Splay Your Legs
We keep our legs crossed when we’re fearful, and we keep our legs open when we want to show openness and masculinity in what’s often called a “crotch display”.
Also, as unpolitically correct as it might sound, what’s one of the most stereotypical effeminate walk you can imagine? It’s the walk with the thighs rubbing one another of course. Pressing your thighs against your crotch is a way of negating your sexuality. Letting some air circulate is a way of displaying manhood instead.
An easy way of adding splayed legs to your budding sexy walk is to avoid your thighs rub each other.
4. Walk With Erect Posture
Slouching and dropping our shoulders in is a way of closing within ourselves and defending our inner body.
Erect posture is a sign of confidence and it makes you much more attractive.
5. Splay Your Feet Outward
When people open up their feet, they also open up the way to their crotch and make it more visible.
Some men “open” the internal side of their feet when walking and it’s more rare in women -it seems to me Asian women do it more often-. And since much of positive sexual communication is about displaying gender differences, splaying out the feet can be considered a positive masculine sign.
When women do it while sitting it works as a powerful aphrodisiac for many men, as it feel like an invitation to their vagina (rawer and cruder style, classier women will never do that).
Warning: Do it slightly. Some raw, masculine energy of splayed feet is good, but do it too much and not only you go overboard, but you also show poor physical joint structure. And physical malformation is rarely attractive.
This video represent a good mix:
6. Keep Your Gaze Up
Two main ways of gazing while walking:
Straight and Focused
This is the “man on a mission” kind of walk.
Look straight on, focused, with the slightly aggressive attitude of the man who knows where he’s going and wants to get there quick. Don’t look at people, your expression and demeanor says “get the fu** out of my way” (most will).
Warning: Don’t use this type of walk in any social setting. It shows a (slight) disdain for people, it will make you seem unapproachable and it will look incongruent if you want to approach and socialize later on.
Daniel Craig does it great in general, and particularly well here at second 23. Yours truly gives you below a poorer stylish-wise example but with a better camera angle.
Chill and Calm: Enjoying Life
The “man on a mission” walk is raw sexy.
But you don’t always want to be busy. Sometimes you want to just slow down, take in life and admire the view around you. For those occasions you will use slow and deliberate head movements.
Note: there are few ways to make the “chill” and “enjoy life” walk work. The most important part is that you do not look down and that you move your head slowly: men darting their eyes around are scanning the environment for opportunities and, more often, for threats. Not sexy.
7. Smile Slightly
I will have a proper article on smiling, but the short of it is that there are two main ways you can smile:
- “Teethy” Smile
A genuine smile is wider, larger and it fully shows the teeth. It’s less sexy and more social but can also be attractive. Note the difference: some smiles are submissive, but if you’re smiling with full gusto out of sincere enjoyment it says you can let go of yourself, which is sexy. And it says you’re content with your life. A in a world where most people live a life of quiet desperation -to quote Henry David Thoreau-, we are naturally attracted to those who have found an inner source of happiness and peace.
- Sexy Smile
This is the sexier, smugger version. A tight lipped smile says you got some secret in your life that makes you feel confident and superior and that you will not share (Pease and Pease). What is he up to, what’s his secret, they’ll be wondering. One corner of your lips is more raised than the other corner and you don’t show any teeth: it’s an ever so slight smile.
Warning: sexier is overall better, but doesn’t always attract more women. Some can think you’re too into yourself, and some others will dislike you for making them feel like you’re out of their league. When you’re in doubt and want to socialize, it’s safer to err on the more social side.
8. A Walk To Pick Up
Let’s be honest: the reason we care at all about how to walk sexy is for the opposite sex.
There are two main ways you can make an impression which will result in more physical activity beyond just walking:
Walk Past Her
Keep walking past without looking at her. Your superior, snub style coupled with your sexy strut will sure as hell make her look at you.
Gianna Nannini has a famous hit song called “bello e impossible“, meaning “handsome and impossible”. Why am I telling you this? Because “impossible” is exactly what you’re angling for here, except.. Except you will meet her later on “accidentally” and if she plays her cards you might become “bello e possibile” ;).
The effect is similar to having a cool standing pose: you let them look at you and admire you and the effect is to “celebrit-ize” you.
Give a Slight Smile
As you go past her, you turn slightly towards her.
Unsexy guys leering at girls make it wrong because they do it crudely and too obviously -and sometimes adding the biggest attraction killer ever: the catcall-.
You, instead, you look at them coolly.. Yes, she piqued your interest… Somewhat. But you’re not fully sold yet, and you know how to play the game. That’s the message you want to send. Looking at them this way is also more likely to elicit a reaction, so that your approach will be a warm and welcomed one.
And if she doesn’t look at you at all? Well, then coolly turn around and go for it anyway, you have nothing to lose.
9. Bounce With Gravity Defying Steps
Has he just had sex?
Joe Navarro in “What Every BODY is Saying” talks about “gravity defying” body language.
He says that when we feel energized and confident, we will gesticulate with our arms more often and we will often swing them from side to side when we walk.
A bouncy sexy walk also tends to move at quicker speed. It’s a bit more juvenile and you will rarely see it from more mature men, but it’s very sexy as it underlines vitality, vigor and a joyful personality.
You do a bouncy sexy walk by moving slightly quicker and adding a bit of a bounce to your steps, as if you had springs in your shoes.
And feel free to move your arms around, touch your face (in a sexy way) or adjust your clothes. And don’t forget the mood: you love life.
I’m glad I can show you this walk with one the sexiest men alive:
10. Brisk Walk is a Sexy Walk
Some sources will tell you to move slow and walk slow. Well, that’s true… In some occasions.
In some others, not so much.
How speed relates to sexiness, is indeed highly contextual.
Slow will work great for:
- Retired millionaires
- Bigger, chubbier men
- Powerful men in slower “lines of work” as we’ve already seen with The Godfather
- Men NOT in control of their schedule to show defiance to power and independence -if you hurry you look “goody two shoes toeing the line” –
- Strolling around with your woman
It will also work great for most everyone in more chill settings, like a night time lounge, the beach or a sunny day at the park.
But a healthy man in a busy, bustling city, with people swirling around you? Or when immersed in work, or partying on the dance floor? Too slow will make you look silly there.
Walking during daytime stick to average speed with good strides or slightly above average speed underlying your goal orientation and physical fitness if you’re doing stuff. Slightly lower than average if you’re strolling.
Walk Like You Own It: The Mindset
The mindset of a sexy walk is also what makes you sexy in general. You believe you are a man with a lot of value to give to any woman -or guy for that matter- and you are and you feel like you’re in control of your life.
Walking powerfully with a goal in mind means you do have goals you care about in your life; and walking leisurely means you do enjoy life and know how to enjoy life -which is very sexy-.
Last Note: my walks in the video examples are slightly accentuated to show the move more clearly. For normal daytime and day to day situations I would usually rein in a bit and I would advise you to move towards those examples without fully reaching them (except for when you wanna play a bit and for when the time calls for it, then go full power).
Bonus: Some Less Sexy Walk for Men
Here are some examples of famous walks that are not as sexy:
It’s OK to swing one arm more than the other, even advisable maybe. But Putin overdoes it (KGB training some say) :
John Wayne is a symbol of manliness, but I wouldn’t copy his walk here.
His upper body arm swings a bit too much in front of his body. A good erect posture wants you arms more on the side, and arms in front of the body is defensive.
He does much better here though and adds another great nonverbal gesture of dominance: the slight “get out of my way” hand gesture.