Are you looking for the traits that allow you to spot (and potentially avoid) value quality men?
You have come to the right page.
By the end of it, you will know exactly what traits make a low value man.
- Traits of Low Value Men
- #1. Low Emotional Intelligence
- #2. Lives Without Drive & Purpose
- #3. Big Ego (With No Matching Skills)
- #4. No Interest in Moving Forward
- #5. Doesn’t Care, Apathetic Approach to Life
- #6. He is A Submissive Pushover
- #7. Neediness Around Women
- #8. Lacks Internal References: Others Control His Self-Esteem & Behavior
- #9. Believes There Is Little He Can Do
Traits of Low Value Men
This article leverages psychology to uncover what are the most telling signs of low quality men.
#1. Low Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman says that emotional intelligence accounts for 80% of success in life.
I don’t believe much in quantifying something that is (extremely) hard to measure.\
But emotional intelligence still accounts for a major portion of one’s life success and fulfillment.
Emotional intelligence includes:
- Self awareness (knowledge of himself)
- Self management (managing one’s own emotions)
- Social awareness (understanding other people’s emotions)
- Relationship management (developing positive relationships)
Emotional is what allows us to control our emotions, keep doing what we don’t want to necessarily do, and to keep positive relationships.
Men with a low emotional intelligence tend to show an erratic behavior, jump from one thing to another, fail to accumulate resources and power and fail to climb dominance hierarchies.
Finally, they have little social awareness.
Weinstein certain had some traits of a high quality man: he was great at his job, he stayed at his art until he became extremely skilled, he was great at his job, he accumulated power and riches… And yet, he miserable failed at social intelligence.
Weinstein comes across as a slimy, disgusting individual because he has low social intelligence.
He never understood how to manage his reputation, never undestrood what women really want.
Low Self Awareness
Men with low self awareness don’t know what they like, what their passions are and what they want out of life.
They don’t follow their own path, and they always look at others for direction.
They rarely work on own projects and instead seek work from someone else (and they’d take any sort of random, generic employment).
Low Self Management
Low self management means they seek short term pleasure over long term results.
They buy whatever they like, possibly using credit. And they buy liabilities and depreciating assets that keep them poor.
Low value men don’t realize the shortcomings which are holding them back, including entitlement mentality not backed up by work and skills.
Look at this man, for example:
Low Social Skills
A lack of social awareness and relationship management leads to poor people skills and poor relationships.
Men with very low social skills are socially akward, become social pariahs and are unwanted by men and women alike.
#2. Lives Without Drive & Purpose
Somebody once said:
When you don’t have a goal, you end up working for those who do have a goal.
That much is true.
And while working for someone else is NOT an indicator of low quality, taking whatever comes your way with no preference and no ambition to move forward, certainly is.
When you couple low sex drive with no life purpose, goals and motivation, you basically get a human plant.
Except they don’t produce oxygen.
This video of neutered Brian is an example of a man low in any kind of drive, and finding satisfaction in consumption instead of production:
This is not fat-shaming, but low value men don’t even try to stay fit.
They Live Vicariously
Since they have no personal drive, low value men never grow.
Some of them can still be passionate though.
But low value men are passionate about things, goals and dreams that lie outside of their control.
Their wins are the wins of “their” teams, the new song-hit of “their” favorite rapper or the new record of “his” national football team.
And with their vicarious, consumption-first mindset, they spend their time and money watch, comment and promoting other people’s lives and goals instead of working on their own.
Or Have Lower-Quality Purposes
Some men do have some purposes, but the very nature of that purpose makes them low value.
Some examples of poor quality purposes:
- Destroy something or someone
- Vicarious goals (ie.: win via his team)
Some not so great purposes also include:
- Make as much money as possible
- Sleep with as many women as possible
- Provide for a woman
- Do or collect quirky stuff most people don’t care about (ant farming, stamps, etc.)
#3. Big Ego (With No Matching Skills)
A big ego usually annoys people, which in turn makes it more unlikely that someone can be socially successful.
But a big ego alone is not enough to condemn a man to the basement of social pariahs.
A big ego with matching skills and results, for example, is what people might call arrogant (see McGregor or the “young gun” dominance style for example).
Arrogant is certainly not a positive trait, and yet it can be perversely charismatic and even attractive to women.
However, the real tragedy is when a big ego is not matched by skills, competence and results.
Then you truly get a big balloon of hot air, and people never fail to evade those (or laugh behind their back: “you know who I am” on a Citroen Picasso is the equivalent of yelling “I’m a worthless idiot”).
#4. No Interest in Moving Forward
Men with a big ego usually have two issues:
- Fixed mindset
- Fragile ego
An individual has a fixed mindset when he doesn’t think he can improve.
He believes that skills and personal qualities are fixed at birth, and that those skills and qualities define them.
These men then come to build the their self esteem around “being right” or “being good”.
Can you see the weakness in that?
These men always need to win and “show how good they are” in order to defend their self-image and self-esteem.
Men with a fixed mindset are low quality because they don’t develop over time, are always defensive and tend to be touchy and vindictive.
#5. Doesn’t Care, Apathetic Approach to Life
These days, it’s hip to say “I don’t care”.
But, most of the times, it’s an empty defensive mechanism to show fake superiority.
Even if you read the bible of not caring, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck“, Manson explains that not caring all about caring a few important things.
But a low value man doesn’t care about anything.
He doesn’t care:
- What he does
- How much he makes
- Where he lives
- Who he is with
And he doesn’t care much about himself.
He is cool with being a bit overweight, with having cheap and ill fitting clothes and with doing little with his life.
Example: The Low Quality Apathy
Apathetic men are low value men for many reasons.
They are boring, unexciting, make for poor conversations and, of course, they tend to occupy the lower rungs of social hierarchies.
The man in “The Good Girl” is a great example of a man who doesn’t care about anything:
And the fact that he thinks that a woman who disrespects her husband, complains and is generally constantly in a bad mood is the “best woman around” is also another indicator of low quality.
#6. He is A Submissive Pushover
Nice guys rarely become top quality men as climbing to the top requires some assertiveness and, sometimes, even the ability to be aggressive.
Still, “nice guy” by itself does not condemn a man to be a low value man.
But excessively nice guys do are low value men.
That’s because many excessively nice guys aren’t even nice, they’re just fearful.
- Don’t enforce boundaries
- Let people disrespect them
- Allow their bosses to humiliate them
- Let their girlfriends abuse them and control the relationship
A low value man does not speak his mind in a direct fashion.
If he is unhappy, he uses passive aggression rather than direct communication.
The movie “Fargo” is a great example of a low value pushover:
Notice how his excessive submissive behavior relegates him to the “pay no mind to” list.
Low value pushovers also tend to have an exaggerated respect for authority.
They follow orders and brown-nose as a life strategy: that’s what makes them feel safe.
#7. Neediness Around Women
Low value men have little success with women.
They tend to develop oneitis, white-knight, chase women or just be too fearful to even approach.
Overall, they tend to have a scarcity mindset.
Low value men either don’t play any games because they wouldn’t even know how, or they play lots of mind games because they don’t believe they are enough.
Avoidants can be confused with assholes, but they are actually afraid of intimacy.
But most of all, low value men are anxious.
There are more female anxious, but there are also men, and they never fail to turn women off (unless they couple with another fearful anxious, then they might be OK).
Anxious men crave constant intimacy and confirmation of continued commitment.
They go berserk when their partner is far away, and can turn hyper-jealous and protective in a misguided effort of “saving” the relationship.
#8. Lacks Internal References: Others Control His Self-Esteem & Behavior
Strong man, enlightened men, wise men… They all value their own opinion more than some random people.
Their standards are higher anyway, and they have chosen their system of values, so they’re not gonna let anyone else impose values and ethics on them.
Low quality men are the opposite.
They don’t value their opinion very much, they follow fads, they let groups decide for them what’s good or bad.
But, most of all, they only feel as good as others allow them to be.
A negative feedback, a bad performance, a disapproving looks, these all tank his self-confidence.
His ego is built around “being liked”, “being good” and some other inherently fragile traits.
And he relinquishes control of how he feels to the world and to the whims of life.
This is a common issue for most people, though.
To overcome it, read:
He Follows Others’ Diktakts To Gain Acceptance
Fakeness is often a byproduct of low self esteem.
Low value men are fake because they don’t feel that being themselves is enough.
Thus, they wear different masks, trying to cover up what they perceive are major flaws that would repel people from them.
And they acquire the masks that the different social groups want them to wear.
If they end up in manosphere groups, they become caricatures and alpha male posturers.
And if they follow the feminized versions of reality, they seek external approval by virtue-signaling their fake “open-mindedness”.
#9. Believes There Is Little He Can Do
The locus of control is the degree to which people believe that they have -or don’t have- control over their life.
The locus of control determines whether you feel like the man at the helm of your life or like a castaway in a rudderless life boat.
These are the two types of locus of control:
- Internal locus of control
- External locus of control
Internal locus of control means you believe you are in control of your life.
External locus of control means you believe random events determine the course of your life and you don’t have control over them.
Brian Tracey says that people with an external locus of control feel helpless, are sadder, get angry more easily, and are more prone to depression.
Tracey’s intuition is confirmed by psychologist Martin Seligman: people with an external locus of control are more likely to fall into “learned helplessness” after a few failed attempts.
On the other hand, people with an internal locus of control are confident, energetic and optimistic.
They even tend to be healthier!
Low value men have an external locus of control.
They have beaten dog faces, they believe they are unlucky… And even if they’re not unlucky, it’s not like they believe they can make their own luck.
Quality is a spectrum value, meaning that it’s not something binary, that you are either high quality or low quality.
But quality is measured on a continuum, and it’s very also situational.
That means that all of us, sometimes, can act or think low value and we all score differently on different traits.
And that’s OK.
The great news, and the only thing that matters, is that we always move forward.
To your continuous development,