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Home » The Body Language Project: Summary & Review

The Body Language Project: Summary & Review

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“The Body Language Project” is a pictorial guide on learning to read body language.
The focus is particularly on body language of dating, seduction and approaching.

Contents

  • Bullet Summary
  • Full Summary
    • Mixed Signals for Ego Protection
    • How to Approach Sitting Women
    • Cornering
    • Approach Angle
    • Touching
    • Whispering
    • Finger Tap
    • Mirroring
    • Leg Cross Height
    • Tibial Torsion
    • Lip Puckering
    • Forehead Bow
    • Childlike Playfulness
    • Alpha Males
    • Eye Games
  • Controversies
    • Steeple
    • Leaning Against the Bar
    • Foot kicking
  • CONS
  • Review

Bullet Summary

  • Your goal is never to dominate a woman
  • In real life you’re likely to get mixed signals
  • Don’t overdo any alpha male stuff: it’s unattractive

Full Summary

Since “The Body Language Project” contains lots of pictures and little text, I will provide here a rather quick summary of some good points I liked and a review.

Mixed Signals for Ego Protection

Christopher Philip says that both men -mostly women I’d add- send mixed signals of interest and disinterest to protect their egos in case of rejections.

Women also have a conundrum: she might be interested in a relationship with you and doesn’t want too look too easy -and too obvious with her signals-.

To make sure the signals are positive, the author says, you should look for 3-4 interest signals and make sure they’re aimed at you.

How to Approach Sitting Women

For an overview, check out “how to approach women“.

Towering

Christopher Philip says that towering is the wrong way to dominate, and it means you keep standing while she’s sitting and slightly crouch down a little bit towards her.

Height advantage can be used while standing if you’re taller, but should never be exploited if she’s sitting and you approach while standing. That’s called “towering” and feels overpowering.

Never approach a girl sitting while you’re standing.

Your initial goal is never to dominate or intimidate a woman upon approaching her, your goal is to turn the natural fear response most women can have to a man’s approach into excitement.
Christopher Philip says that trying to dominate is also an indicator of disinterest.

Squatting

Going nearby and squatting lowers your body height compared to hers.

Christopher Philip says that squatting shows courtesy and is not necessarily less dominant.

And I couldn’t agree more.
When you approach her while she’s sitting it shows a lot of cojones from your side, so showing courtesy on top of cojones will skyrocket your value to her eyes.

Cornering

You should never approach a woman giving the impression you are pushing her against a corner or against a wall.

Approach Angle

Christopher Philip says you should never approach from behind.
A frontal approach in plain view is preferable, and best is giving her the chance to take a full look at you before approaching.

My Note: 
I don’t like a frontal approach instead. 
Allan Pease also discourages a full frontal approach.

Touching

All king of touching moves two people closer together.

Especially when the woman initiates it, it’s a sign of sexual interest (also read: all the signs she’s interested).

Touching is also a much stronger cue than body pointing, so if a girl has her hand on our leg but her legs are pointing away, it’s still overall an indicator of interest.

Whispering

Whispering is a neat way of getting someone closer into your intimate space.
If someone is whispering into your ear it’s an indicator of interest.

Also read: all the signs he likes you.

Finger Tap

A woman looking at you with crossed arms and tapping her index finger on her arm is an indicator of interest.
The finger tap is a way of saying “come here”.

Mirroring

Christopher Philip says that you can use mirroring to test interest level.

If you adopt the same pose your speaking partner is having and they change it soon after, they aren’t interested in you.

Dancing can be a great way to test mirroring because movements happen very quickly and fluidly.
If she copies a bit your style and looks at you, she’s interested.
If she’s doing her own moves and looks away, she’s not.

Leg Cross Height

Christopher Philip says that the higher a woman crosses her legs above her knee, the higher the interest she’s showing.

Tibial Torsion

When a woman points both of her toes inwards she’s trying to appear smaller and less dominant, and it’s a signal she’s willing to submit.

Lip Puckering

Puckering the lips is an obvious attraction signal and also an indicator the woman is ready to kiss.

Forehead Bow

When the head is tilted downward and the woman looks at you “through” the forehead.
This is similar to a bow and a strong indicator of interest as it shows a willingness to submit.

Childlike Playfulness

Any childlike games such as stealing something from you or pinching you is to be considered a positive sign and an indicator of interest.

Alpha Males

Christopher Philip also goes into “alpha male” behavior and say most men trying to look alpha overdo it.
They take too much space, look too angry and competitive.

I couldn’t agree more.
Also read:

  • Alpha male posturing
  • Alpha male body language

Eye Games

I was surprised to read Christopher Philip suggest you should break eye contact with a woman by looking down.

Looking down, he says, shows you’re not aggressive and it “admits” you’re interested.
Breaking eye contact to the side says you are just scanning the room.

Controversies

There were a few parts I found contradicting other sources and/or my experience. Here they are:

Steeple

Christopher says that interlaced fingers clenching the hands together is a subtle form of steepling while Allan Pease says it’s a sign of frustration. I think they can both be right depending on the situation.

Leaning Against the Bar

Christopher says that not reclining against the bar or the wall for support is a way of saying you’re alright by yourself.

In another picture of a man reclining against the bar with closed body language, he says that people like that tend to end up being the wallflowers of the evening.

I fully disagree here.
Reclining against something is natural and a sign of comfort. Standing as a standalone object is very unnatural. When you’re at home you don’t usually stand in the middle of the room doing nothing. You do something or lie down.

Foot kicking

Christopher Philip says that a foot kicking motion is a sign of boredom.

Joe Navarro says that jiggling of the foot can be an indicator of nervousness and kicking is an indicator of “fighting back against something”.

I tend to side with Joe Navarro here: foot movements are commonly misread for boredom but they’re more often in the discomfort cluster.

CONS

Terrible Clothes
Some guys in the picture really need all the body language help they can get given the clothes they wear.

It brought me back to the time I spent in Eastern Europe and their fantastic fashion style.
The local men had too wide shirts with too long arms, too wide and too long pants folding over ugly plastic Bata shoes and the color matching of a daltonic man :).

Review

Great, I really enjoyed Christopher Philip’s work and loved the pictorial format. I also loved the fact that he shows many pictures that are not too obvious, where there are several contrasting signals, how it often appears in real life.

He then often proceeds to say which signs are more important and what’s the overall message.

The idea is similar to Undercover Sex Signals by Leil Lowndes, but I would say that Leil has better marketing and less content. Christopher goes deeper into body proper body language analysis.

Further Readings
If you want to improve your social skills, check out my Social Skills Summaries. More body language articles with pictures and videos:

    • Hands in Pockets Sexy Body Language
    • Sexy Body Language at the Bar
  • How to Walk Sexy

Tag:approaching body language, body language dating, body language of approaching, body language of dating, body language of love, Body Language of Love and Dating, dating body language, sex body language

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Lucio Buffalmano

The author holds a master's degree from La Sapienza, department of communication and sociological research, and is a member of the American Psychology Association (APA).

He studies psychology, persuasion, social & dating strategies, and anything related to people and power dynamics.

Lucio's approach combines science, critical analysis, and a continuous quest for first-hand experience & observation.
He loves all three aspects, and believes that to effectively teach social strategies, the three must go together.

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