What constitutes an attractive female body language?
This article will answer that question and give you clear examples of sexy body language.
- 1. Curves
- 2. Flowing Movements
- 3. Legs Crossing
- 4. Gaze: Up-Down-Up
- 5. Eye Brow Flash
- 6. Hair Flick
- 7. Facial Expressions
- 8. Open Sexuality Body Language
- 9. Attractive Body Language During Sex
- 10. More Attractive Body Language
- Types of Attractive Female Body Language
- Should You Use More Sexy Body Language?
Curves are feminine, both in the body and in the way of standing (and as we’ll see later also in movement).
Would you imagine a guy standing like this picture?
OK, let’s refine that: would you imagine a non-metrosexual, straight man standing like that?
Exactly, me neither.
Because curves are feminine.
When you stand, avoid standing straight like a cadet in front of a general and do the following:
- Take a slight step forward which will rotate your hip a bit
- Stand on one leg only and let the other leg loose so your hip is slightly inclined
- Arch your back slightly (see difference below)
2. Flowing Movements
Flowing movement, even more than sexy, is what I would call sensual.
Smothering sensual, if well done.
Mastering flowing moving is the equivalent of a PhD in femininity.
If you want to see more, check the feminine seduction in How to Seduce a Man.
3. Legs Crossing
One of the biggest areas of body language divergence among men and women is in the seating position.
And since feminine body language is often about accentuating the differences between men and women, how you sit is another opportunity for you to show some attractive body language.
Men don’t sit like this, and that’s why you should (just lose the heinous shoes please!):
Here’s two even better attractive seating positions:
Leg twine is another very feminine body language. It communicates shyness and possibly discomfort. It does not ooze the sex appeal of a secure woman, but can still be very very attractive. So don’t try to suppress it if it’s coming natural to you: it’s endearing.
According to Allan Pease in The Definitive Body Language, parallel legs is the seating position that most men find the most attractive.
The Next Level: Video Example
You are probably aware of the Sharon Stone famous leg cross in Basic Instinct.
The vagina shot though, allegedly one of the most paused scene in movie history, should not overshadow the erotic charge of the whole leg movements.
Indeed the following leg rub from parallel leg position is much sexier than the open legs shot.
4. Gaze: Up-Down-Up
In body language looking down is a sign of submission.
Two words about that now as I know some might bulk at this one. Some people indeed lament that “in our society” submissiveness is connected to femininity.
But those people don’t understand basic human behavior, drives and psychology.
Submissiveness in seduction is quite different.
It’s as much a sign of submission as it as a sign of choice (which is empowering).
It’s a way of saying:
OK, I’m sold and I’m glad you’re here. You got permission to go ahead.
The best version of looking down is when you follow it a look up.
This move is extremely invigorating for men and makes them feel awesome. It’s possibly the best move you can make to embolden a man to come to you.
I still remember the first time I received it. It was years ago from a beautiful Kazakh brunette in a club in Prague.
Back then I wasn’t as book-smart when it came to body language, but I immediately had a visceral pull towards her.
Example of Sexy Eye Contact
The first one is more subtle and can be used also with men you “only” want to be attracted to you. The second is more obvious and should only be used when you are very interested.
5. Eye Brow Flash
Jack Schaefer in The Like Switch says that the eyebrow flash is a sign of friendship and liking. Indeed it is, and especially so when used by men.
But with a pesky, slight allusive smile it’s sexy. It’s sexy in a very jaunty, cheeky way.
Even better and more allusive is if you can pull it off with a single eyebrow up (in which case, drop me a note in the contact section :):
The above air attendant example is a 10/10 also because of the perfect voice tonality.
6. Hair Flick
This one you know it already and most women do it unconsciously and naturally.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t do it consciously (or better; or both).
The image below is an air flick on steroids an hair flick, and something you should put in your sexy moves arsenal.
7. Facial Expressions
High value women use facial expressions more often and more expressively than most other women (and most men).
Let’s review a few staples of sexy female facial expressions:
We have seen Angelina Jolie twice already.
Makes sense, right? She is (was) one of the most beautiful women in Hollywood.
Well, here’s the thing though: Angelina Jolie is NOT the sexiest woman because of her beauty. She is the sexiest woman because of her body language.
If you have ever noticed Angelina Jolie smile, it not a normal smile. It is broad. And wide. She doesn’t smile like 99.8% of the population smiles. She opens her mouth fully.
That makes her look slightly out of control and a bit crazy (or “dumb”, someone said). But it’s sexy. It’s sexy in a primal, carnal way.
Did she carefully pick that type of laugh to become who she is? That, I don’t know.
But I personally think so.
There is a connection between the size of the lips and the size of the vaginal labia. And lubricating lips is a not so subtle allusion to sex.
Winks are not the most sexy body language. They’re more boysh / friendly and a bit too obvious.
However, anything can be turned into sexy. The secret is to do it slowly.
8. Open Sexuality Body Language
Suggestive poses, finger in the mouth, orgasmic facial expression all belong to this category.
Female porn “prepping” also belong to this category.
Signs of open sexuality include:
- Sucking a finger
- Licking a glass
- Faking an orgasm
- Openly touching oneself
They all have a place and they can all be extremely sexy… Under certain circumstances. When you’re already engrossed in the sexual atmosphere for example, while doing it or right after.
This is the sub-comminication of open sexuality body language:
I’m a sexual being and I’m horny: fuck me
Sexually explicit body language outside of a of the sex realm can easily become tacky though and it’s something that transexual men often use.
I’d stay away from them in all non-sexual situations unless you’re already a pro.
9. Attractive Body Language During Sex
Attractive body language is all about alluding to sex.
But what about the actual act of sex?
Well, this is a very interesting topic, but I’ll keep this article on more public expressions of attractive body language.
And maybe I’ll do one post just for sexual body language later on.
For now though, enjoying sex, reaching an orgasm and abandoning yourself to it is a very powerful way to be attractively feminine.
Indeed we could probably say that an orgasmic face is, well, the peak of sexy body language.
And it will bond you to your partner more strongly.
Also on the topic:
10. More Attractive Body Language
Finally, here are a few more that most people are naturally aware of:
- Glancing over raised shoulder
- Neck touching
- Eye batting
- Shoe dangling
- Fondling a (long) glass
- Exposing the side neck
- Showing the internal side of the wrist
Example of going from most close and unfriendly (left) to most open (and submissive):
Types of Attractive Female Body Language
There are four types of attractive female body language:
1. Purely Sexual
Attractive female body language is all about hinting to sex or sexuality.
All attractive body language has an hint of sexuality.
However, when it’s too obvious AND standing by itself, the woman can be perceived as lower quality as compared to more subtle women.
It will also take over your whole persona and everything else you say which is not connected to sex will be taken less seriously (yes, even by more progressive men).
Think of Pamela Anderson.
Sexually attractive, for sure.
But would you see her with a man like Clooney, or even Brad Pitt?
What to do then?
You need a touch of sexual and you need to reference sexuality. But don’t leave it by itself. Temper it with mixed signals or with other traits such as submissiveness.
Submissive signals sexual accessibility in a way that is coy and doesn’t fully show her hand.
Aggressive is purely sexual while being forward and devoid of teasing and submission.
It turns the tables on him and she becomes the aggressor.
When it’s well done it’s necessarily non-feminine, but quite the opposite. It can certainly have its place in steamy encounters, but like the purely sexual it’s best not to be used in public unless you’re already a pro.
A great use of aggressive sexual abandon mixed with pull-back and and restrained body language is during the first escalation to sex (read: how to postpone sex).
Teasing is possibly my favorite.
It’s very powerful and puts men on the chase as it sub-communicates the following:
I might be up for it. But will you be man enough to catch me (/fuck me)?
The winks we have seen earlier are examples of good teasing.
The Sexiness is in The Mix
The above categories don’t work in isolation and there is often a mix of the different styles. The most seductive women manage indeed to send mixed signals from all different categories, and they can move from one role to the next depending on the occasion.
As in the following:
- Explicit & Teasing
Ayda Yespica whom we reviewed in How to Seduce a Man mixes sex and teasing to perfection.
- Explicit & Submissive
This is possibly the most powerful of them all.
Marylin Monroe is the best example as she was high in purely sexual (orgasmic faces) and sky high in submissiveness.
The submissive and protection seeking body language would take the hedge off of her purely sexual body language not to look like a whore.
Explicit and submissive is indeed the only style which can be extremely sexually forward without being labeled like a whore (this is important because of men’s Madonna-whore complex). Monroe was indeed considered a high value woman.
Should You Use More Sexy Body Language?
Depends at what you level you are currently at.
And it depends what you do, what’s your current station in life and what kind of life and men you like.
What I do know though is that few women are feminine these days.
It might be because the woman’s role is not very clearly today. Many women are caught between a rock and a hard place.
Be too feminine and the feminist police will accuse you of not being independent enough.
But if you’re too sexual you’re an even bigger threat to other women, and they -and the men who can’t get you- will be quick to brand you a whore.
Be too masculine and you won’t be very attractive to men.
In a sea of contrasting tendencies and requests, many women timidly stand in between, not sure where to go.
However, that can also be a good news: if you choose to embrace your femininity and adopt more feminine body language, you will stand out massively.
Sexy body language for women must always have:
- At least a hint of sexual
In this article we reviewed a few practical examples of some attractive body language poses for women.