This post deals with how you can spot and recognize low quality women as soon possible. Starting from when you text them up first to the first date.
- 1. Always Free
- 2. Picks Expensive Dish
- 3. Walks Poorly On Heels
- 4. Poor English
- 5. Checks Her Phone
- 6. Apathetic Conversation
- 7. Rude To Servers
- 8. No Hobbies, No Passions
- 9. Complains of Being Bored
- 10. Background Noise
- 11. Social Media Whore
- 12. Overweight
- 13. Pent-Up Anger
- 14. Appearance Obsession
- 15. Never Traveled
- 16. Game Player
- 17. Misuse of Beauty
- Low Value Summary
1. Always Free
You won’t see this often from white women in the west -they’re much more attuned to basic game-, but you’ll see it more often as you travel.
A woman who says she’s always free to meet is communicating she’s not doing much with her life.
2. Picks Expensive Dish
She will make no effort to chip in, tip or give back any sort of value -a common dating mistake-. But she will relish in ordering some of the most expensive items on the menu.
The problem with these “give me luxury lifestyle” women is not they want to live well. That’s a high quality trait. The first problem is that spending for them is a way to define who they are. I buy luxury item, so I’m better than all the rest -they think-.
The second problem is that they don’t get to the lifestyle by themselves, but they expect to freeload on men -huge entitlement mentality-.
Drop the financial ballast.
3. Walks Poorly On Heels
You’re maybe thinking this is insignificant or too judgemental?
But this isn’t really about walking style. This is an indicator of substance VS appearances.
A woman who walks like a chimp on heels communicates she stays on superficial levels. It’s the belief that quick fix will make her more attractive instead of going to the root causes.
It’s the good old “solution” of sweeping the dust under the carpet, or of spray-painting a turd. Nope, a pig with a hat stays a pig.
Root causes in this case would mean taking the time to learn an adopt a proper smooth, feminine and sexy walk. It’s again about some of the most basic fundamentals of high value: caring and putting in the effort.
4. Poor English
This is even more important for non-natives (albeit natives make plenty grammar mistakes too).
Not learning the current global language says she’s a small town gal. Not literally of course, I’m a native small town boy too.
It’s the small town mindset that is the issue.
Extenuating circumstances for countries farther from Western culture and/or with strong local cultures. Such as China, Japan and partially Korea.
Within the west also Italy, France, Spain.
5. Checks Her Phone
Constantly checking her phone says she’s out of tune with the world around her.
If she does it during conversation it says she doesn’t understand basic social norms and etiquette. But most worrying is the lack of human connection. She’s communicating she lets an electronic device get between you two.
And you thought other men were the danger? Welcome to the 21st century :). Get up and let her enjoy phone undisturbed.
Note: don’t always jump to conclusion and take responsibility before you call it quits. Some women will use their phones because they’re nervous. Always tell them to stop that because you expect them take part in the conversation. Then put them at ease.
6. Apathetic Conversation
Have you ever been out with a woman who just sits there, asks no questions and answers with one liners? Looking away as you speak or playing with their food?
Yeah, those women would make you wish they’d check their phone all the times: at least you know they’re not brain dead.
We are here to connect, famous said Brene Brown. And our partners are some of the most important connections we ever make. What does it say of a woman who can’t even make an effort to check a compatibility with you?
It says you’re better off with a relationship with your hand.
Go for someone with more lust for life. And lust for human connections.
7. Rude To Servers
You will see this sometimes from women who come from a caste society. But of course, rudeness itself doesn’t care about casts and it knows no borders.
For some deranged women, mistreating what they deem as low value people is a way of showing high value.
The words “what you’ll do to the least of these you do to me” might mean little to you. But the day you’ll struggle and you will be a “least” in er eyes it’ll be your turn to get the whip.
Hopefully you got a whip-proof prenup.
Otherwise go for someone with a heart.
8. No Hobbies, No Passions
There are some women who seem to take pride in “doing nothing”, “working and sleeping” and “being lazy”.
Those women are more stationary in their self development than planet Earth in the Ptolemaic system. And if you’re reading here, you’re probably aiming a bit higher in life.
9. Complains of Being Bored
Have you ever dated a woman who constantly complains about “being bored”?
Then you should know better that you don’t want another one.
Apathetic women, “always free women” and women with no passions are also most likely to be easily bored. Most will candidly admit to you they are. It’s because they don’t even understand how that’s such an unattractive trait -well, that make sense after all, that’s why they’re low value women in the first place-.
Being bored says a few bad things about her.
For example that she:
- Needs constant external stimulation
- Can’t make herself happy, ie.: she’s not in control of her life
- Has no grit, can’t stick to anything
She can also blame you for her own boredom issue and demand that you do something that make her less bored. Or that you entertain here.
Sure you can entertain her. For a night. Two for busty chicks. Then send her get bored with another man ;).
10. Background Noise
The rapper Public Enemy sang about low value women struck with crap TV.
I don’t know if you’ve ever noticed, but my experience says that another common trait of low value people is that of using TV or radio as a background noise.
It means they’re not listening to it, or maybe they’re talking over it. But they need it there -better safe than sorry. You never know their brain, distraction-free, might wonder into something productive!-.
Unluckily I know a lot about this behavior. As a testament that nurture is not destiny -yeah yeah, lemme blow my own horn-, I was born in a “background noise” family.
11. Social Media Whore
The soap opera gals are a thing of the past (almost).
Huuurray, less low value women around? Not so fast. They have been steadily replaced by the TV series gals and their most perilous sistas: the social media attention whores.
The social attention whore derives her value by the number of likes, followers and feed activity she has (all external ego boosting tools).
Over-reliance on external validation for self-validation is a strong sign of fixed mindset. And almost always is a way of investing time that brings little to no benefits.
Sorry, that’s a got a different name than “investing”, and it’s “wasting”.
Partaking in seemingly deep but actually shallow and pointless social media discussions is also a sign of low quality social media whoring:
This might seem controversial, so let’s dig deeper. There are two body types:
- Overweight because they convert food into fat very easily (have little control)
- Overweight cause they don’t exercise and eat junk food (don’t care)
The second one communicates she doesn’t care about herself. And if she doesn’t care about herself, what are the chances she’ll care about anything else?
Keep the same distance between you and her as as the distance she keeps between herself and a gym.
Note: there are also people with an addictive personality that get hooked very easily to anything pleasurable, from food to drugs (read: Hunger).
If that’s the case, she gets a pass if she’s tackling her issues with all she got.
Otherwise, if she’s just a passive “victim”, then an addictive personality sadly is another major sign of low quality.
13. Pent-Up Anger
This is more common for guys than for women. But low value is cross gender and women have it too.
Nobody would admit to others -and to themselves- they’re just full of spite. So we conveniently hide pent up anger behind a cause. But don’t be swayed, it’s less commonly a sign of passion towards that cause and more often a reflection of a low value woman.
You will recognize it when she is too emotional and passionate about any topic which implies an attack on another group.
- Feminist (against men / society)
- Left/Right wing
- No-global (against evil corporations)
- Jihadist ideals (against people enjoying life)
14. Appearance Obsession
There’s a seemingly fine line between “caring” and “caring too much”.
But that difference is also the difference between high quality women and low quality women.
People who care, care about other people and what they think -but they make decisions based on what’s right and fair and what they believe in-.
People who care too much allow society to constrain their lives -and they decide based on what others think-.
These are the same women who would not go anywhere not expensive enough, or who will not be seen near a bum or with a guy who’s not well dressed enough.
She has all kinds of different privacy levels in their social account so they can make sure everyone sees the perfect mask she’s wearing and she will remove tags when another girl in the picture looks better.
Caring is great, constantly depending on others to define yourself and influence your choices is a strong low quality signal.
15. Never Traveled
If she’s never traveled and she’s not interested in traveling, that’s a major indicator of:
- Narrow mindset
- No drive (no interest for first-hand knowledge)
- No lust for life (no interest for experiences)
If she’s from a first world country and never traveled because “here is the best” or only travels to “equally rich countries” that’s a strong indicator of snobbish and snotty attitude.
It’s an attribute you’ll find in common with the high maintenance woman picking the most expensive items on the menu.
16. Game Player
We all play some games.
And we could argue that navigating the social arena is all about knowing what games people play, which is a high value trait.
However, not all games are created equal. There are good social games which make everyone a winner, and there self serving games -where one takes values from others with the intention of never giving back-.
The low value woman plays these types of games:
- Low level games -communicate social ineptitude-
- Self serving games -showing she’s not interested in mutually beneficial relationships-
Self serving games to take value or resources away from him are typical, but not exclusive, of gold diggers for example.
Faking busy when you’re trying to schedule a date is a typical example -and a typical mistake– of low level games. Case in point: look at this girl, suddenly getting “busy” after I told her I was busy first and then again ready and open to re-schedule. She immediately lost heaps of value in my eyes for blatant lying (and low level games).
17. Misuse of Beauty
The highest value use of beauty is to simply leverage it as the last mile when you have already worked on your core traits.
Such as, you’re as good and skilled as less beautiful women. Then on top of skills you add beauty and femininity for extra edge. Of course, jealous people will imply you used your beauty or slept around, but that’s fine: the high value woman knows you can’t win all the haters.
The low value use of beauty instead is as a standalone tool that feeds her today and leave her hungry when that beauty will fade.
When she uses her beauty to scrape by out of rich men handouts indeed she’s coasting on superficial advantages instead of going for depth and substance.
Some typical misuse of beauty include:
- Freelance modeling for a pittance
- Last link in a beauty network marketing scheme
- “Image woman” at trade shows
- Skin care beauty ambassador (ie.: retail)
Note: hookers and gold diggers, albeit we could argue on how high value they are in the dating world, are not necessarily misusing their beauty.
Hookers securing real estates and gold diggers siphoning off real money might be nesting up on their beauty and planning early retirement. That’s smart.
Bonus: The Full List
I didn’t include the most obvious indicators as they need no explanation. But they are:
- Uncontrollable emotional swings
- Flaky / can’t stick to anything (grit is key to success)
- Mean and tries to hurt you during arguments
- Sacrifices her values and long term success for short term gratification
- External locus of control
- Smoker / Drug / alcohol abuse
- Follows stereotypes and generalizations (ie; “Italians are..”)
- Oblivious to non written rules (loud, swearing, prostitute-style make & fashion etc.)
- Public drama (high value people keep private stuff private)
- Financially dependent and without good prospects
Note that a bad family or being abused do not make someone low value. They make it more likely that a woman will turn out to be low value, but not necessarily.
Young age, poor upbringing, small town girl, idiotic parents.. These are all major extenuating circumstances for low quality women.
However, for those extenuating circumstances to apply, she gotta show a willingness and eagerness to make up and move beyond her limitations.
If she proudly laughs at her lazy ass while eating McDonald in front of the TV set she’s irredeemable for the foreseeable future.
Low Value F.A.Q.
Q. How Many Red Flags Are Too Many?
A. Two red flags without strong extenuating circumstances are two flags too many.
Q. What do you do when you spot too many red flags?
A. If she hasn’t completely turned you off stop wasting time and give her a whiff of your high quality tool. Go for broke, meaning you won’t invest one second more. You get up and say:
You: We should go
You: (looking as if it were the most stupid question in the world) To my place
Trashy: But I’m not ready
You: You don’t need to be ready, it’s all good. Let’s go (look at her expectantly)
Trashy: Let’s wait another 5 min..
You: Look, I have noticed that you and I, we don’t fit well. Let’s save our time. I really wish you the best.
Q. What do you do when you’re already in a relationship with a poor quality girl?
A. That’s cute. Sorry bro, you’re high if you think you’re high quality with a low quality woman (sorry couldn’t resist the pun). Even Tyson knows better. Get to work on yourself instead and see if comes along.
Most likely she won’t though, so you gotta go alone.
Low Value Summary
Low quality women are rather easily spotted. Oftentimes the cover will tell you about book, but there are exceptions of course.
If you have average antennas look for any of these signs above you’ll nail it by the end of the first date.
And read here to find out the traits of high value women.