How to make him crazy about you?
Or, how it’s more hip these days: how to mind fuck a guy?
I’m glad you asked.
This post delves deep into the psychological meanders of the male mind to give you all the tricks in the book to make men obsessed with you.
Warning: this post contains a lot of mind games and mind fuck techniques.
- 1. Irrational Seduction
- 2. Madonna Whore Seduction
- 3. Mixed Feelings Seduction
- 4. Mixed Signals Seduction
- 5. Regression Seduction
- 6. Inverse Regression Seduction
- 7. Guilt Mind-fuck
- 8. Dangerous Seduction
- 9. Sex and Violence Seduction
- 10. Below The Belt Touches
- 11. Sex Talk Seduction
- 12. Sexual Bursts Seduction
- 13. Jealousy Seduction
- 14. Refuse Him
- 15. Break Up With Him
- Mind Fuck A Guy: Summary
1. Irrational Seduction
There’s much external pressure on men to appear rational and in control more times than they’d want to.
That’s why irrationality and a touch of madness can be so appealing to the unconscious. And a woman who can muster irrational abandon and dionysiac sexuality will exert and irresistible pull on him (this is one of the reasons men are attracted to the woman dancing the craziest possible way in the club).
Look at how girl on dating in the dark uses irrationality. Notice his reaction, when he says:
In a weird way I’d still like to see Ilona
And then he ends with “damn”.
He’s been taken for a ride. And he just experienced the power of irrationality.
Note: she goes low level here and isn’t afraid of looking stupid. But madness is not synonym with stupid and you can do the same without being silly.
2. Madonna Whore Seduction
Carnal desire and a powerful sexual chemistry validate men and hook them in at a deep mental layer. But you might appear too “easy” if it’s too son.
What’s the solution, then?
As Peter Diamandis says, when you’re faced with a tough choice: take both.
You will resist him AND show an overpowering sexual lust: the best of both worlds.
She wasn’t having any. So I decided to stop charging and let her do some touching.
I took her hand and started running it across my body.
My abs, then down on my upper leg and thigh. Then slowly back up again.
Finally I slide her hand across my crotch and erected co*k. And then back up again.
On the next pass I let her linger a bit more on my crotch. Then lower down again.
Eventually I let her slip under the underwear’s elastic band. But just a dip.
A few more motions and then I finally let her lace her fingers around my co*k.
And that’s when she jumped on me, her tongue swirling in my mouth. A typical sign of pure sexual abandon. I’m thinking this is it.
I pushed her on her back, ready to ride her.
But she snaps back to rational, again resisting me.
The succession of unbridled lust and rational resistance lasted for a while. I’m not a fan of women resisting for long, but of all the resistances I’ve encountered… That was the best lead up to sex I have ever had.
I sometimes still think about it.
Show powerful sexual attraction while you also fight off the urge.
- Let him come to you
- Abandon yourself in the heat of the moment
- Suddenly “wake up”: it’s not easy but you’re forcing yourself to stop
- Rinse and repeat
Also read how to turn down sex
3. Mixed Feelings Seduction
Lust and emotional dependency thrives on mixed feelings.
Anger and lust, passion and fear, warmth and coldness. And, most of all, physical heat and emotional distance.
The key is to alternate them. Give positive feelings, then take it away. Then have lustful sex. Then rinse and repeat.
A mix of strong and positive emotions alternating with negative ones rarely fail to make men lust and obsess over you.
My date was late and, slightly annoyed, I used that time to shop for groceries.
When I came out she was standing outside, wearing a striped suit. If it weren’t for a perfect candid baby face (mixed signal) she looked like a too serious lawyer from a movie.
She didn’t apologize and was cold and distant when I hugged her. I was getting more and more roiled.
I asked her to help me carry the grocery.
And she refused.
My patience was running out. I was teetering between telling her to get the fuc* back home and take her back, rail her, and then dish the same shit*y treatment back.
Who am I kidding. Of course I decided for the latter: I was already hooked.
We walked without exchanging a single word for a couple of minutes, and then she went from cold to teasing. She made fun sulking me. She told me I should call her miss no and asked me if other women do the same (she effectively sets herself up as “different” and “superior”).
Then she finally swung the opposite direction reeling me back in. She took more than half the grocery and lightly hit me with her leg as if to say “wise up, I was just fu*king with you”.
I was already horny, but with that turnaround, Damn! I wonder how did I resist from bending her over and possessing her in the street.
Make him feel like the best man in the world, make him feel like he can make you so happy and satisfied. Then take it all away and keep him guessing.
- Make them angry
- Be cold and distant
- Have great sex (remember: you’re sexually attracted to him)
- Be warm and make them happy (they’ll think they have you)
- Rinse and repeat
4. Mixed Signals Seduction
Similar as above.
Push and pull is a typical form of mixed signal and the most famous example, but there’s more you can use:
- Angelic face (paternalistic instincts) + naughty undertones
- White dress & blonde hair (purity)+ revealing clothes
- Baby face (naivety) + suit (seriousness)
- Striped suit, back from office (power) + submissively asking him to rail you
5. Regression Seduction
Nobody really ever leaves his mother
Some women today believe the best approach to seduction is to show no emotions, pretend they’re not into him and “letting him chase” (which is what almost all women’s dating literature advises).
While that definitely can work (albeit often with the wrong guys!), the opposite can work even better.
Robert Greene, indeed, the acute observers of human nature that he is, introduces the Regression Seductions in his seminal The Art of Seduction.
Greene says that the most powerful Regression, the Infantile Regression, is all about unconditional love.
I experienced the power of the oedipal seduction a few times in my life. This was what my ex did:
- I woke up one morning with little sleep and dark circles. She leaned in and kissed the area under my eyes
I fumbled a thanks and a smile. That was was unexpected. I couldn’t even remember my mother having done that. I was smitten by her display of caring.
- During sleep I realized that before going to the bathroom she kissed me on the temple
You will realize that both of the above are caring signals the way a mom would care about a baby.
How did that affect me? It’s easy to tell sex stories, but it’s less easy to be open with emotional ones. But I’ll push myself into vulnerability.
My ex did leave some emotional hooks on me. And if I have to think of an ex girlfriend with whom to cuddle, it would be her.
Very possibly because of her motherly display of affection.
It also works the other way around, with women wanting to baby a grown man. Watch this interview with a former girlfriend of Charlie Sheen. Notice what she says of him: she says she will always love him. For her Charlie is a big baby who needs her caring. Powerful stuff.
You can use this one when you want a strong long lasting relationship.
On the specifics move, you can copy the two above and add some of these:
- Tucking in his blankets
- Remove lints, fixing his clothes
- Show unconditional love
It works with everyone. And it’s especially useful if you want to hook great, wealthy but rascal playboys. They will use and forget all other women, but they’ll always come back to you.
6. Inverse Regression Seduction
This is the inverse regression. Here you regress to childlike behavior.
In the presence of youth, men feel like their own youth is coming back.
They get to feel like father and take care of you, but with the addendum of the sexual side.
Mixing sex and innocence is exactly what made Marilyn Monroe so appealing.
As you can imagine the movie Lolita has tons of great examples. Only issue is, she is a kid.
This is an example with a mature woman instead. Notice the man is also partially regressing, but he’s the aggressor. He’s the father figure and she’s the baby:
- Play naive, lost… In need of protection and guidance
- Laugh out loud and with gusto: you haven’t experienced the darker side of life yet
- Feel free to be awkward: you haven’t yet internalized society’s rules of “proper” behavior
- Emphasize weaknesses and vulnerabilities
The rules bend with inverse regression. Don’t worry of entitlement mentality or asking too much: be egocentric instead. Children think the world revolves around them. And he will act accordingly and do everything for you (OK, now I link to Lolita).
This is perfect to get a sugar daddy to pamper and spoil you.
Almost every guy will enjoy a bit of childlike spirit, but don’t overdo it. Men with no pedophiles tendencies can be put off (I had to tell a girl playing baby with her Tweety underwear not to wear them anymore).
And remember it’s lightheartedness with sex undertones, not full on baby. The first part here is good, the last one is too much:
7. Guilt Mind-fuck
How to make him crazy about you isn’t necessarily directly related to attraction, sex and seduction. If you can instill a major sense of guilt in his conscience, that will also push him to you.
Out of guilt, yes, but that doesn’t necessarily need to replace love or sexual attraction, but can be on top of them.
There are many sexual moments I’d like to revisit. Some of them, because they were great. Some others, because I didn’t have her and thought I should have had her –the pain of regret is huge for maximizers-.
But if I could go back in time one time, and one time only, that would be to change things with the woman who told me:
I wish I had never done it with you.
Something changed the day she uttered those words. I could no longer look at myself and say I’m a giver. In a way, those words stole my innocence and burned a little hole in my conscience.
And even to this day, after she forgave me, I still feel I need to make it up to her.
- Let him feel he pushed too hard for sex
- Tell him you feel so hurt
- Let him know you’re devastated after he cheated
The Cheating Guilt Trip
Steve Harvey in Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man says that men who cheated often go back to being perfect husbands. But that only happens when she denies him first, lets him see what he’s missing… And makes him feel guilty about it.
It will not work with narcissists and sociopaths. And some soulless reject might even see it as a badge of their deceptive skills.
8. Dangerous Seduction
Danger goes along with madness and irrationality, but takes it a step further. Danger is exciting, that’s one of the reasons why heart-breakers appeal to women and why James Bond is so alluring.
And, if present, it also plays into possible latent masochistic tendencies.
We were pillow talking and she was prodding about me and my life -funny how some women remember to do that after-.
I love after sex conversation. You can drop the masks and really be yourself. But back then “myself” was a bit of a childish tw*t.
So when it came to love and past relationships I delivered my line which I thought was cool as hell:
Me: “just don’t fall in love with me“
With a serious and stern tone she said:
Her: “No, I will fall in love with you and then I will kill you“
I laughed at the beginning thinking how that was the best comeback I had ever heard. But I also realized later I was perversely more attracted to her.
9. Sex and Violence Seduction
Let’s start with the due disclaimers: violence sucks.
Emotional abuse sucks.
And latent aggression, based on the need to be superior to one’s partner, makes for terrible relationships and has no seductive appeal whatsoever (check combative relationships for examples).
However, that being said, aggression, violence and attraction can powerfully overlap.
Physical domination appeals to women more than most people would care to admit.
For many women, rape-like sex is a fantasy.
Take a look at Samantha’s fantasy as an example.
Or take relationship researcher John Gottman, who in The Science of Trust reveals he was shocked to find out about the violence and attraction overlap. Women confessed to him that their best sex was right after a beating.
Men have it too.
Domination impinges on males’ masochistic tendencies.
And many say that the most powerful men have it more often and more strongly.
I wouldn’t recommend go to extremes. There are no statistics, but I suspect masochists are not a majority -and it’s probably not the relationship you wanna have-.
Yet, in milder forms, it will get most guys very into you.
Having sex during a fight, or when it seems you two are on the verge of splitting, is extremely seductive. And so is a mix of sex and aggression.
Do you think this scene is sexy or not:
Notice again the mix of emotions: hate, carnal passion and love.
P.S.: unluckily Vimeo closed my account so you get the PG-13 version here 🙂
To stay on the safe zone, you can do the following:
- Show him some bite and resistance, let him “earn you” in bed with some domination
- Pillow fights
- Play wrestling
10. Below The Belt Touches
This is a big weapon in the arsenal of the teasing seduction styles we analyzed on the seduction styles post.
The below the belt touches are a form of waving a red flag in front of him. It’s like saying
I might be into you… Are you gonna be man enough to come get me?
And rest assured he will obsess over you.
If you want to be more provocative and you’re in private, you can have grab/poke or touch his private parts. Just remember: don’t be too direct of thirsty, this is not you who wants him: this is you making him want you.
- Touch his upper leg when seating
- Put your hand on his inner thigh
11. Sex Talk Seduction
Action speak louder than words. But that doesn’t that words can’t have their place in making him crazy about you. Indeed sexually-laden talk is a great, great way to arouse someone.
As we’ve seen in the text flirting guide, it’s best when implied, understated and hinted.
Direct can also work, but be aware it’s at higher danger of slotting you into short term gal (check the Madonna/Whore Dichotomy).
A great way to do it is to use sexually charged but non-cussing words. They accomplish the task without making you sound like a low quality girl:
Notice that when she implies he will masturbate she is also implying he’s attracted to her.
12. Sexual Bursts Seduction
Uncover your wild side… Then take it away.
Quick bursts of whirlwind sexual passion will leave him speechless. Actually, better than speechless: it will leave him dazed and confused, horny and excited.
And that’s when brain neurological patterns are more easily shaped: you’re literally branding him. Obsession guaranteed.
Watch Summer’s perfect execution:
Catch him where sex is not to be expected. Then turn him on:
- Stroke his package beside a clerk’s counter
- A footsie under the table meeting the parents
- Throw yourself at him in a fitting room
13. Jealousy Seduction
You know this one, don’t you.
It’s the oldest trick in the book, but it doesn’t mean it’s not effective.
I will spare you my own personal story of it though (lemme keep the fake pretense of a cool guy :).
This one works best with men who:
- Have little options
- Have feelings for you
- Were thinking long term with you
14. Refuse Him
There’s a stalker in every man.
A well placed refusal, cancelling a date at the last minute, becoming unreachable for a few days.. They are all likely to awaken the stalking tendencies.
The most powerful is to refuse him and disappear when:
- You’ve been deploying the previous techniques (especially the mixed feelings)
- He has feelings for you
- You were just about to have sex
When all three are met, he will always have a craving for you.
He will feel like he was just about to have you. But he didn’t. And you leave him with that need for completion, that need for possession. Which never gets fulfilled.
You’ll leave him with an eternal longing for you (and pain). He’ll do anything to have you again.
15. Break Up With Him
… Then get back together, tell him you can’t be without him and have great passionate make up sex.
Rinse and repeat.
Some low value women do it unconsciously as they both get hooked to each other in a vicious circle of abuse, pain and dependence.
Don’t allow that to happen to you.
Mind Fuck A Guy: Summary
There you have it.
If you’ve ever wondered what make some men obsess over some women, chances are they use a mix of the above techniques.
And you can implement a few of them in your seductions or even in your relationship to spruce things up.
The customary note here that “tricks” can only spice things up on top of an already solid relationship. Which is built upon caring and mutual support.