Are you looking for the best pick up lines?
For smooth pick up lines that actually work?
You have come to the right place.
This article will tell you everything you need to know about pick up lines.
And by the end of it, you will know how to use pick up lines to actually get girls.
Do Pick Up Lines Work?
I scoured the web looking for the best pick up lines.
I paid particular attention to the “pick up lines that work”.
And… I couldn’t find many that actually works.
Most collection of pick up lines are of the cheesy kind.
And if your goal is to actually sleep with a girl, or enter in a relationship with her, the cheesy pick up lines are all terrible.
If you’re not sure what I mean by cheesy pick up lines, this is an example:
Are you a magician? Because whenever I look at you, everyone else disappears!
Even if your goal is to tell a funny pick up line to make her laugh, you can probably do better than that.
Both in terms of an actual introduction and in terms of starting with a laugh.
Indeed the laugh that most girls have is that kind of “oh God, I can’t believe you said anything that cheesy” type of laugh.
Also, people interpret jokes as if there is at least some truth behind. And the truth behind a pick up line is not a good one.
Why Cheesy Pick Up Lines Don’t Work
There are two major reasons why pick up don’t work.
And that’s that when you deliver them, it communicates the following:
- You’re not serious about seducing her, you’re just there to joke around
- You think she is too out of your league
And finally, the vast majority of people -and women- feel that pick up lines are:
- Corny, cheesy way of flirting and an indicator of low social skills
Is this is the line that anyone who’s serious about getting to know (and/or seducing) a woman would use?
Cheesy Pick-Up Lines To Avoid: An Analysis
We will now take a few pick up lines and explain what’s so bad about them from a social dynamics perspective:
Do I know you? Because you look a lot like my next girlfriend.
This puts a girl on the an aggressive defensive: how does he dare think we should be together?
Next, her mind will rush to think: do I want to be with this guy?
At that point, if it’s a huge YES, you might have a chance.
But that pick up line is actively working against you.
Are you religious? Because you’re the answer to all my prayers.
Many pick up lines follow this format: you are the woman of my dream and now I say it to you in a very corny way.
The problem is all the same: it’s typical of low quality men to fall for a woman without even knowing her.
It communicates low standards when all you care about is superficial appearance.
Did the sun come out or did you just smile at me?
While you build her up, you are also depreciating yourself. But it’s not the good self-deprecating style of the high value man.
This is the type of deprecation of the dog who takes any scrap.
Kiss me if I’m wrong, but dinosaurs still exist, right?
This style of pick-up line wants to make fun of you tricking her into being with you.
The problem is at the root of that type of irony: men who are serious about being with her and men with a high self esteem are not interested (and don’t need) in tricking anyone.
I’m lost. Can you give me directions to your heart?
The dream of a woman is a man who makes her follow in love in a whirwhilnd of romance.
And tat does not entail her giving instructions.
When women need to give instructions they either consider you a puppet, they lose interest or they get annoyed.
Case in point:
Roses are red violets are blue, I can’t rhyme but can I date you?
Again, puts the onus on the woman to lead the dating dance.
The man who dates successfully does not ask for permission.
Are you sure you’re not tired? You’ve been running through my mind all day.
Pick up lines are bad enough.
The stalker pick up lines can take it to the next level though.
Is there an airport nearby or is it my heart taking off?
This is an example of the pick up lines implying you’re falling in love.
It’s usually guys with little experience fall in love quickly.
They idealize women without even knowing them. But women, like everyone else, prefer people who can appreciate for who they are, not for a non-existing mental construct.
There’s only one thing I want to change about you, and that’s your last name
Well, I have to admit… This one had me smiling.
Since marriage is becoming so much rarer in western cities these days, this pick up line is so out of reality that it’s actually not as damaging as the others.
Hi, how was heaven when you left it?
Again, idealization is very typical of culture that discourage man/woman socialization and of inexperienced men.
But it’s a huge burden on women. They want to be women, with their defects and sexuality.
Being anything else than ourselves is a torture.
Don’t idealize people, take them for who they are.
Do you believe in love at first sight or should I pass by again?
This one also had me smiling.
But it doesn’t help your case any.
It actually nudges her into the conclusion that your first time wasn’t good enough, and now she’s the one calling the shots why you’re the one getting ready for your second try.
Was your dad a boxer? Because damn, you’re a knockout!
Direct sexual compliment can work great.
But when you express sexual appreciation in pick-up disguise, it says two things:
1. I don’t really think you’d ever screw me, so I’m just admiring.
2. I’m quite a bit corny
Do you have a pencil? Cause I want to erase your past and write our future.
This is typical of white-knighting mentality. The man who puts him service to the full service of the woman.
It’s a dating style popular when men outnumber women and women call the shots. But that doesn’t mean it’s good. And it’s especially bad in liberal societies (like the one we’re living now).
Are you a dictionary? Cause you’re adding meaning to my life.
Another common issue explaining why pick up lines do not work: they communicate that without her your life is meaningless.
But women don’t usually want men who are incomplete without them.
They’d take men who complete their life, for sure, but not so much the other way around.
Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven?
One of the most typical and most cheesy pick up lines.
It’s the archetype pick up line of putting women on a pedestal.
It’s usually inexperienced men and too nice guys who put women on a pedestal.
And neither of them usually fares too well in dating.
You must be a broom, ‘cause you just swept me off my feet.
It’s the man’s role to sweep her off her feet. drop the cheese and grow a set instead :).
You don’t need keys to drive me crazy.
And you don’t need a hand to masturbate either.
If you keep with these cheesy pick up lines, you’ll train yourself quite a bit at it :).
Good Pick Lines (But Not Great)
And now let’s go to a few better options here shall we.
I know this is going to sound strange, but if I don’t ask you now, I’ll be kicking myself for the rest of the day. I’m running to meet a friend [i.e., I have friends and am not a stalker], but I think you’re really [extremely, drop-dead] cute [gorgeous, hot]. Could I have your phone number? I’m not a psycho—I promise. You can give me a fake one if you’re not interested
- I know this is going to sound strange (the idea is to “pace her reality”, but only communicates you are doing something strange, which is not, and leads her to believe something strange is about to happen)
- Could I have your number? (asks for permission: bad)
- You can give me a fake one if you’re not interested (takes the pressure off, yes, but also takes pressure off from you, which can lead her to think you can’t withstand social pressure. Plus it’s tentative)
The “kicking myself” bit is very popular around the web:
(…) but I would have kicked myself if I hadn’t come to talk to you
It’s not too bad, but it’s not the best either.
The issue with it is that it’s too self-referencing. It’s too much about yourself.
Are you into her, or are you just talking to her so that you will “feeling bad”?
Ideally, you want to make her feel that the chemistry was so good that you just had to talk to her, and not that you were just avoiding remorse.
‘I just wanted to tell you, I think you are gorgeous and would love to get to know you better. If you want to have a drink and talk, I’ll be over there. If not, that’s fine.
I like this one.
The issue with it is that while it does indeed take the pressure off, it also leaves it fully up to her to make the move.
And few women actually make the move.
Excuse me, but do I know you from somewhere? ‘Wow, I could have sworn I’d seen you in my classes / office. Well, now that I’ve got you here, what would it take for me to be able to take you out sometime?
Not the worst, if you end it well.
In this case it does not end well though.
Also, I like it most if it’s true that she looks like a known face.
If you were using as an excuse, then you’re better off with something else.
Smooth Pick Up Lines That Work
The best pick up lines don’t idealize women, don’t joke too much, don’t make it too much about her and, in general, don’t have that air of “I’m just kidding because I know you’re too good for me”.
Here is a very good example:
What makes Sean Connery’s pick up line good?
Well, to begin win, Connery comes across as a very high quality man and comes across as very sexy. So some cheese can serve to take the edge off.
Furthermore, he does not make it about her.
She mentions the word “pussy”, and he makes it more about sex than about her.
It gives him an air of a womanizer who loves women, in the plural form. Not of a guy who is idolizing a specific woman.
Big freaking difference.
Here it works because he has already showns himself as an extremely confident, cool and attractive man.
The pick up line, which is not too cheesy anyway, serves as an actual joke to make the girl relax a bit and break the ice a bit. The atmosphere was indeed very tense when he entered the scene.
Best Pick Up Lines
The best pick up lines are:
- Neutral conversation starters
- Direct and honest about your intention
Neutral conversation starters are how you would start a conversation.
Direct and honest state that you are approaching her because you like her.
Compliments tell her what you find attractive about her -without joking and without putting her on a pedestal-.
Pick up lines, especially cheesy pick up lines, don’t work.
Not even as a conversation starters.
However, some smooth pick-up lines can work great if you deliver them in a funny and self-amusing way that start the conversation with a big laugh.
Women do love men who make them laugh, and if you can do that with a pick up lines, you’re good to go.