A Goal Diggers Guide is a great book on, well, how to milk rich men for money. But also on how to become financially independent and living life on your terms.
- Bullet Summary
- Full Summary
- Never Apologize
- Never Ask What He Does
- Test Compliance
- Don’t Let People See You Taking His Contact
- Take a Look at Backdoors
- Meet Outside the Restaurant
- Don’t Listen to His Life Story
- If You Think He’s Lying..
- Buy Him a Drink
- Asks Him What He Wants To Do
- Ask a No Question to Get Out of Sex Duties
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- Educate yourself, save up and don’t give it up
- Ask for what you want, and drop him if he doesn’t give it
- Gold digging is a means to and end: financial independence is your final goal
The guide is called a Gold Digger’s Guide, but it could actually be called “get an education, invest in yourself, don’t sleep around and save for your future”.
Then, on the side, here’s how you can do some gold digging activities as well.
Baje’s gold digger indeed is actually a goal setter who knows what she wants and works hard to get there. Including pulling some tricks on rich guys.
And here are some pearls:
Always ask for what you want. Ask in front of other people too, so the pressure is on them to say yes. And if they don’t comply, leave right away.
If you’re shy? Use text or emails.
If you never apologize you come across more as an authority figure, and he’s more likely to comply.
Fletcher says men with real money often are low key and don’t flash around jewelries and sport-scars. You will often recognize them because of the people they have around and because of how the people around treat them.
Never Ask What He Does
Unless he asks first. You come across as too interested in his material wealth.
Don’t chase men who don’t spend on you from the beginning or who don’t come to you. Money is useless unless they’re willing to spend and men who won’t listen to you will rarely splurge on you when you ask.
So make sure you test his mettle early on asking this:
What he’s drinking
If he doesn’t offer you the same, drop him.
Don’t Let People See You Taking His Contact
Never use your phone when you’re talking to a guy: it will seem like you’re exchanging contacts and you come across as less exclusive.
If he takes his phone out, tell him to put it away.
Baje has some tricks to memorize phone numbers, and I invite you to check the book for that.
Take a Look at Backdoors
Important and rich men often use backdoors and alleyways to get in: geek an eye on them. Make friends with DJs, bouncers and manager to get the lowdown on people and to know who’s there.
Meet Outside the Restaurant
So he can pay for parking and fuel. If you’re afraid of asking, make him follow you at your car when you leave and tell him you need to stop for gas. If he doesn’t offer to pay, ditch him.
Don’t Listen to His Life Story
Because you’ll start seeing him as a person. See him as a target instead: no star gazing, candles and romantic stuff.
If You Think He’s Lying..
.. Ask the question and stay silent. The pressure will lead to add more details or dig himself deeper.
Buy Him a Drink
To throw him off. That’s something which rarely happens to him.
Asks Him What He Wants To Do
When he asks you what you want to do, ask him instead, so you can gauge what kind of man he is.
Ask a No Question to Get Out of Sex Duties
When you feel like you want to get out of there or you need and excuse to deny him: ask a no question.
A no question is a huge request which will compel him to say no. One he says no, you have an excuse to refuse him or to leave.
This is wicked genius indeed, and works on the exact same principle I talked about in my lowball technique article.
Baje Fletcher also recommends a bunch of books to read, among which:
- The 48 Laws of Power
- The Art of Seduction
- Poor Dad Rich Dad
- The Millionaire Next Door
- Think and Grow Rich
I really loved A Goal Digger Guide.
It’s fun, chock full of great tips and with real life stories and examples. Also the core message is actually very empowering and improvement-oriented.
Don’t get side-tracked by the title, this yes a gold digger guide, but also much more than that. Including a self improvement book and a social skills book.
I leave you with one quote from the author I really loved cracked me up.
She says some women get weak at knees in the presence of celebrities and very rich men. But they’re just normal people she says. And talking about one of them, she comments:
In my eyes he was just another brother who happened to get a lucky break, but still had no clue how to handle a woman.
Or read my dating literature overview: