The Power of the Pussy (2014) is a popular dating book for women, sharing dating strategies and techniques to win at dating.
Most of all, it advises women on how to leverage the power of their most valuable asset: the pussy. Kara King, the author, says that once she learns to fully wield the power of the pussy, she can control men, lead the dating dance, and secure the relationship she wants.
Contents
Bullet Summary
- Don’t let your emotions dictate your actions
- Your pussy is a source of power: set a high price and don’t give it away
- Date a lot to find a great man. Then you’ll be free to give him your all
Power of The Pussy Summary
Kara King says that some women, no matter their looks, can get good men and can get those men to treat them well… If they learn to leverage the Power of The Pussy.
1. The Power of Controlling Emotions
Kara proposes you forget about feelings in the beginning: emotions are misleading.
The author has a lot of tips on how to control emotions, and I invite you to get the book for more.
My Note: Using selective vulnerability to make him want to invest
But, on the other hand, I must say that vulnerability and being open about wanting and needing a man can be super powerful techniques to make him want to invest and protect.
And read the full description here:
- How to make men want to invest and protect using selective submissiveness
2. The Power of the Pussy
Kara suggests that you write down all that you want from a man.
The list of what you want is your asking and your pussy will get it for you.
Men will either disappear because they can’t afford it, or they’ll give you your asking price.
Put your pussy on a pedestal
Wait For Sex
Kara recommends you let him wait for sex.
Similarly, Lambert and Harvey, recommend you get the relationship before you consume it.
And to know that he is ready for sex, and ask him to do something for you to prove he’s willing to support you.
Get the book for more information.
Also, read:
Embracing Your Femininity
Kara shares tips on how to embrace your femininity.
She also tackles the basics which most other books don’t go into (too bad).
The author recommends you shave your pussy and your a**hole and pluck hair on your nipples if any (I can vouch for all).
For more read:
- How to be more feminine: one of the best primers on femininity on the web
- Sensual body language: article on sexy body language for women
- Avoid this terrible hipster fashion: 2 examples of bad femininity
3. The Power of Confidence
Kara King says that the value you place on yourself is a direct reflection of the value of the men you will get.
And I couldn’t agree more (also read the science behind it).
To get high self-esteem, check the antifragile ego or “Ultimate Power”.
Oh, and just one last note: Kara King says that confidence doesn’t mean conceit!
Love and value yourself, and men will do too
4. The Power of Taking Out The Trash
Many women have a “fixing men tendency”, says the author.
But there’s no point in trying to fix some of them, she says.
And if he cheats, he must go.
Kara King goes on to describe the behavior that should tell you he must go.
Also, check out “breakup diagnostics“ if you’re unsure what to do.
Should I Break Up? Step-by-Step Guide to Overcome Ambivalence
5. Keep Yourself Busy
Kara King here says you should be busy working on your career, on yourself, and on your future.
She says men want women with their own life who wouldn’t even want a man. That’s part of the challenge for them.
Time for a change of perspectives:
Dick = Distraction
6. Adopt Realistic Standards
Kara King talks about some women’s crazy and unrealistic standards that are damaging them.
My Note:
I fully agree.
The paradox of choice often gets women to wait and bide their time for a dream that doesn’t exist. Also, check women’s 8 biggest mistakes and how to get high quality men.
Don’t Approach!
Contrary to some other guy writers (Hussey, Lambert, Behrndt) Kara advises you not to approach because it turns men off.
I agree with the author here. Or at least, you should know how to approach sensibly.
For example, avoid cold-approaching with direct openers, and opt instead for social circles, warm approaches, and third-party introductions.
7. The Power of the Uterus
Power comes with responsibilities.
And that’s all the more true for the power of giving life.
This chapter is really deep, and its message should be spread as widely as possible.
CONS
- Fails the law of optimum balance
Power and female independence are important in dating.
And so is to demand for investment from men.
Generally speaking, most men don’t want pushovers and doormats.
However, as for most things, it’s about when to be more demanding and when to be more accommodating and feminine.
it’s not an “all or nothing” because extremes are often ineffective -and unattractive-.
Also, read the law of balance and, more befitting, the law of balance in dating:
- A Bit Confrontational
A few passages from The Power of the Pussy made me feel as if it was “men VS women” (i.e., “men prey on emotions, you prey on need his need for sex”).
I find that bitter approaches drive away the highest-quality men who have more options.
These guys know that collaboration trumps antagonism, and they can find a collaborative woman. So prefer to settle down with collaborative partners who don’t antagonize and don’t manipulate men.
All high-quality men that I have met prefer a more mutually supportive approach.
So for the sake of all, drop these nasty games, ladies:
- Using Sex as Leverage
I personally disagree with the suggestion of using sex as leverage.
He might start associating sex with compromise and negotiation, and you risk looking like a blatant manipulator, which is a bad strategy for relationships -especially with high-quality men-.
PROS
- Tackles the Basics
The Power of The Pussy is one of the few women’s dating books that tackles the basics.
And while every woman should know that stuff, there are many who don’t (also see here two examples of terrible women’s fashion).
- Powerful
For women who are low in confidence and feel at the mercy of men in dating, The Power of The Pussy can be a great injection of confidence.
The Power of The Pussy Review
I enjoyed reading The Power of the Pussy.
Kara writes well and the book is both fun, easy to read, and with lots of good advice.
The Power of the Pussy is one of the most practically-oriented dating books for women I’ve read, and that’s a great compliment.
There are some parts I disagree with. Namely, the popular advice women should let men invest as much as possible, which is true in some cases, but not true in many others (see: why you shouldn’t make him chase)
That being said, I loved the self-respect bits and the mindsets parts.
The Power of The Pussy will most likely help you both in believing more in yourself and in getting into a relationship as well.
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