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Best Dating Books for Women

I have perused the most popular dating books for women available. As a matter of fact, I’m not aware of a single major title I haven’t read.

Coming up with the top 5 best dating books for women was not easy and many great titles had to be left out. There’s more good stuff out there, but to make the cut in this dating books reading list I had a simple rule: there shouldn’t be any major advise which, in my opinion, could work against women.
For example, the concept that you have to make him invest as much as possible is very popular. And it works, but it mostly works with men you don’t necessarily want. So I kept books built around the concept of “ask for the moon / give little back” out.

The books below all share one thing in common: top dating advice with little or no downside.

5. Date-Onomics

by Jon Birger
Summary | Kindle | Print
Date-onomics is not a dating book in the strict sense of the word. There are no “place yourself near him” tips or “make him chase” suggestions (indeed in “difficult markets” women who date proactively win). But it’s the best book available to link behaviors, difficulty (or ease) in finding a good mate and… Numbers.
It’s eye opening, fun and highly applicable. And it might have the best dating advice you could ever receive:

Men:Women ratio changes everything. (more than you could think)

Take care of that, and you might not need any further advise.

Quote: “It’s not that he’s not that into you, it’s that there aren’t enough of him”

4. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

by Steve Harvey
Summary | Kindle | Print |Audiobook
Two caveats: while Harvey proposes a 90 days no sex rule, I believe long waiting times are unhelpful. Steve also caters to more traditional men who want to be providers. He’s right, but doesn’t apply to everyone.
That being said, Harvey has boatloads of dating wisdom and introduces one groundbreaking concept:
Minimum Achievement Bar: men need to reach their life goals before they can fully focus on a woman.
Overall, in his huge bestseller, Harvey provides an effective crossover between actual dating and successful relationships.

Quote: “Women who let him lead win at dating”

3. The Art of Seduction

by Robert Greene
Summary | Kindle | Print |Audiobook
Robert Greene, one of the deepest connoisseur of human nature, world history and psychology. Different realms that he always combines to back his theories with famous historical examples.
He is one of my absolute favorite authors (48 Laws of Power; Mastery) and his foray into seduction might as well be his crowning jewel.
I put it “only” as third in the best dating books for women list as it’s heavy in theory and the actual seduction stage is more geared towards men. But don’t get it wrong: this will deepen your psychological knowledge of dating like few others books -if any- ever could.

Quote: “Sirens offer the promise of endless pleasure… And a little bit of danger”

2. Never Chase Men Again

by Bruce Bryans
Summary | Kindle | Print |Audiobook
Bruce Bryan focuses on high quality men, and he does a great job, because he really gets how high quality men think. A couple takeaways from this great book:
1. Escalate Emotional Investment: when he’s proven his worth show female vulnerability and escalate emotional investment. If he reciprocates, he’s a keeper;
2. Don’t move in if you want marriage: men consider moving in a way to test ride or forestall marriage.
And many more great pearls of wisdom awaits you in Never Chase Men Again.

Quote: “Men with a backbone don’t take demands as a sign of quality but as self entitlement”

1. The Tao of Dating

by Ali Binazir
Summary | Kindle | Print |Audiobook
Binazir takes top spot of our women’s dating reading list in one of the most underrated books I’ve ever come across.
The author has a deep grasp of human nature and understands dating and high quality men mindsets. He shares lots of deep wisdom, some of which includes:
1. Fulfillment is a feeling NOT a person
2. Don’t play unavailable games: it will mistakenly make you like him less (back justification)
He’s also the only author of all the best dating books for women I’ve ever read who says that early sex can gain you leverage if it’s a great, guilt-free experience.

Quote: “Respect for female strength does not translate into male attraction“

Best Dating Books Recap

Girls, you can’t go wrong with any of these titles. They will not only make you better at dating, but teach you more about relationship, life and psychology.

If you feel it’s too much to chew on at first, check out my women’s dating overview (banner below).
It’s an overview of the all the women’s dating literature wisdom in one single ebook.