I have perused the most popular dating books for women available.

As a matter of fact, I’m not aware of a single major title I haven’t read.

Coming up with a shortlist of the best dating books for women was not easy and some good titles had to be left out.
But to make the cut in this dating books reading list I had a simple rule: there shouldn’t be any major advise which, in my opinion, could work against women.

For example, the popular concepts of making him chase, invest and wait for sex as long as possible do sometimes work. But, depending on the individual and the environment, they equally often backfire (they work better with low quality men and avoidant men, -and you don’t want either).
So I scrapped all books that only focus on those aspects.

Another popular concept is that of being a highly independent woman. And that makes you an effective gal at work and life, but purely in terms of dating opportunities, it can be a double edged sword.
So I eliminated the dating books that don’t accurately flesh out those concepts (also see: successful women dating).

The books below instead all share one thing in common: top dating advice for women with little or no downside.

7. Date-Onomics

by Jon Birger
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Date-onomics is not a dating book in the strict sense of the word.

There are no “place yourself near him” tips or “make him chase” suggestions. But it’s the best book available to link behaviors, difficulty (or ease) in finding a good mate and… Numbers.

On of the (many) key concepts is that in “difficult markets” women who date proactively win.

Date-onomics is eye opening, fun and highly applicable.
And it might have the best dating advice you could ever receive:

• The best way to (easily) find a man is being in an environment with lots of high quality men

Take care of that, and you might not need any further advice.

Quote: “It’s not that he’s not that into you, it’s that there aren’t enough of him”

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6. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

by Steve Harvey
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Two caveats: while Harvey proposes a 90 days no sex rule, I believe long waiting times are unhelpful.
Steve also caters to more traditional men who want to be providers. He’s right, but it doesn’t apply to everyone.

That being said, Harvey has boatloads of dating wisdom and introduces one groundbreaking concept:

The Minimum Achievement Bar. It says that men need to reach their minimum life goals of income/career before they can fully focus on a woman.

Overall, in his huge bestseller, Harvey provides an effective crossover between actual dating and successful relationships.

Quote: “Women who let him lead win at dating”

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5. The Art of Seduction

by Robert Greene
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Robert Greene, one of the deepest connoisseur of human nature, world history and psychology.

Different realms that he wisely mixes and combine to back his theories with examples and famous case studies.

Greene (48 Laws of Power; Mastery) is one of my absolute favorite authors, and his foray into seduction might as well be his crowning jewel.

I put it “only” as fourth in the best dating books for women list because it’s heavy in theory. And the actual seduction stage is more geared towards men.
But don’t get me wrong: The Art of Seduction will deepen your psychological knowledge of dating like few other books -if any- ever could.

Quote: “Sirens offer the promise of endless pleasure… And a little bit of danger”

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4. Attraction Explained

by Viren Swami
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Just when I thought “Date-Onomics” was the only source to provide some data and science on female dating, I stumbled onto Viren Swami’s work.

And what a gem it is.

This book will help women cut through the BS of “Cosmopolitan” style advice by sharing what’s been proven to work and what’s most likely to backfire.

Here is one quick tip: “playing hard to get” is more likely to backfire because like begets like and dislike begets dislike.

Quote: “When we play hard-to-get, we give the impression that we dislike the person – and that just isn’t conducive to sparking attraction“

3. Never Chase Men Again

by Bruce Bryans
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Bruce Bryan focuses on high quality men, and he does a great job at that. He really gets how high quality men think.

A couple takeaways from this great book:

1. Escalate Emotional Investment: when he’s proven his worth, show vulnerability and escalate emotional investment. If he reciprocates, he’s a keeper;
2. Don’t move in if you want marriage: men consider moving in a way to test ride or forestall marriage.

And many more great pearls of wisdom await you in “Never Chase Men Again”.

Quote: “Men with a backbone don’t take demands as a sign of quality but as self entitlement“

2. The Tao of Dating

by Ali Binazir
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Binazir takes the top spot of our women’s dating reading list for women-focused dating.

I think this is one of the most underrated books in the whole dating literature.

The author has a deep grasp of human nature and understands dating and high quality men’s mindsets.
He shares lots of deep wisdom, some of which includes:

1. Fulfillment is a feeling NOT a person (so don’t get hang up on any specific man)
2. Don’t play unavailable games: it will mistakenly make you like him less (back justification)

He’s also the only author of all the best dating books for women who says that early sex can gain you leverage if it’s a great, guilt-free experience. And I couldn’t agree more.

Quote: “Respect for female strength does not translate into male attraction“

1. Dating Power Dynamics

By Lucio Buffalmano
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The obvious disclaimer here is that I am the author of Dating Power Dynamics and, thus, heavily biased.

But I wouldn’t have written a book if I didn’t believe I had unique.
That uniqueness is an overview of dating both from a male and female point of view (the cover focuses on the male audience simply because sex sells :).
The analysis and advice in Dating Power Dating are equally grounded in science, with hundreds of papers references, and personal experience, with real-life examples sprinkled all over it.
That way, you learn what truly works.

Dating Power Dynamics does not sugar coat things, and provides you with real tools and strategies to become a more effective dater.
Whether you want more sex or a relationship, you will learn the best ways out to get them.

Quote: “you would rather play a card game when you got your strongest hand, right?
It’s the same for negotiating a mate. Learn the rules of the games, learn how to leverage what you’ve got, play often… And you will win.

Good Dating Books for Women

Outside the “best of” list, but still books with some wonderful information and advice:

• The Power of The Pussy: a bit more focused on the friction and sexual conflict between men and women. But good on tackling the basics and exhorting women to date more and give more men a chance.
• Why Men Love Bitches: this one is the equivalent of “No More Mr Nice Guy“, and it’s a good read for women who are too nice. Just don’t make the mistake of going to the opposite end and becoming too abrasive
• Fuck Him: takes some leaves out of the above books, but with a more collaborative frame which I think is far more helpful to date well and start good relationships.

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