Why Men Marry Bitches: Summary & Review

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Why Men Marry Bitches is a dating book for women, the sequel to Why Men Love Bitches, It shares Sherry Argov’s opinions on how women should be to get the wedding they (supposedly) want.

Bullet Insights

  • A bitch is independent, knows what she wants and what she will not tolerate
  • Don’t always be available, and don’t give him the feeling that he has you. Let him chase
  • Don’t ask for commitment, focus on being a great woman, and you’ll have leverage

1. Change The Rules

Sherry Argov takes aim at the widespread women’s dating advice to be found in magazines.

The most common attitude is that of clamoring to be picked, she says, and that turns men off.
The bitch instead turns that attitude on its head and asks “what’s the advantage of having this guy around”?

2. Make Him Chase You…

Sherry says that “being upfront” about your commitment makes him run away.

So you better behave, as you like him, but don’t want to lock him down.

And, Sherry says, avoid mentioning any biological clock ticking like Sara Tomei did (albeit, I have to say she’s quite sexy there):

Her: my biological clock is ticking like this (stomps her foot on the ground)

3. Hit The Brakes With Sex

In regards to sex and physical contact, Sherry seems to espouse the view of sex as a bit of an arm’s race.

That means that his goal is to make it happen quickly, and yours is to preserve the possibility of a long-term commitment by delaying sex.

This is common advice in the dating literature for women. Kara King of “The Power of the Pussy” for example, recommends “waiting as long as possible” and Steve Harvey in “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” recommends “at least 90 days”.
Some other authors only advise having sex after the official relationship

My Note:
I partially agree with this advice, but it’s highly contextual. It depends a lot on the environment, the type of man she is dealing with, the type of dating they are having, and the sexual chemistry between the two.
For exceptions also read:

How To Slow Down Sex & Get A Relationship

4. Don’t Let Him Get To You

Sherry Argov says that men consciously provoke women to get a rise out of them.

They do so to test their women and see where they stand or to seek validation.

And when you let that get to you, he feels validated and in control.

I found this concept deeply insightful, and I invite you to check out the book for the details.

My Note:
Testing goes both ways, with women probably testing men more than the other way around.
The male dating literature refers to women’s testing as “shit testing“.

5. Stay Independent 

Sherry speaks many men’s minds when she says:

some men are afraid of losing big with a divorce.

And that’s why, if you’re financially independent, you will feel more secure.
And will respect you more.

Sherry has a few more gems regarding financial independence; read them in the book.

6. Getting The Ring

Sherry Argov says that staying for a year without mentioning your “commitment needs” will give you leverage.

After one year, he knows you’re not easily replaceable.

But if after a year there’s still no ring, you can’t give an ultimatum. The author suggests you have two conversations.

In the first one, you say you’re not happy. If he doesn’t give you what you want, cut back on the time you spend with him. The Second one, you say, forces his hand a bit more.

My Note:
With this one, I fully disagree.

7. And Don’t Be a Doormat

And in the relationship, avoid being a doormat.

Argov uses the example of Rose in “The Joy Luck Club”:

Him: I wanna hear what you want
Her: (keeps proposing more and more options for him to decide)

I dated several women like this.
And yes, sometimes you want them to tell you more and more clearly about what they want. Sometimes, I even got a bit angry and assertively instructed them to think about it and tell me what they preferred.

However, I must say that this more submissive female approach has never been a deal breaker for me or many other guys I know -I’ve met some guys who really dislike it, and they tend to be more Western men who grew up with equality in mind. But it’s generally not a deal breaker for most men, and most high-power men are definitely OK with it-.

What is much more often a deal breaker instead is too much female power and dominance.
Also, read:

Why Submissive Women Beat Strong Women In Dating

Real-Life Applications

Focus On Yourself…
.. And your life and becoming independent. Think about your values, what you accept and don’t accept.

Don’t Ask For Commitment 
Focus on being a great girlfriend instead and he’ll be the one to offer commitment. If not, you will have great leverage when you will tell him the relationship is not progressing.

When Men Provoke You… 
.. You must keep it cool and either dish it back equally, address it rationally (say the word) or take distance. Above all, do not get emotional.

When You Move in.. 
.. Move to a new house together and not “his” apartment.

CONS

  • Some Men Actively Avoid Bitches

Sherry’s bitch is fiercely independent.

Some men prefer a woman they can take care of and provide for though. Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey is such an example.

Also read: why submissive women have more dating options.

  • 1 year without asking for commitment wastes a lot of time and is a high-risk

The concept of not asking for commitment is great… On paper.

But it’s also risky. What if your man is happy without a wedding or stronger commitment?
Because… Many men are.

Then the 1 year conversation can become a bit of a win / lose argument and you should be careful not to make it seem like you’re holding the relationship hostage. As Dale Carnegie explains, there are no winners when arguments arise.

PROS

Perfect for Too Nice Girls
I don’t think it’s the majority of women, but there certainly are many women who are way too nice. Why Men Marry Bitches is perfect for them.

Great For Social Skills
Why Men Marry Bitches is a very good book to help people understand social dynamics and improve their social skills.

Great For Power Dynamics
I could see quite a few parallels in the book with this website as many tips and suggestions leverage important psychological triggers. And some which you could classify as “social power moves”. And at the very least, they’re great to know.

High-quality men marry high-quality women. As simple as that.

Review

Why Men Marry Bitches shares the same DNA as Why Men Love Bitches.

And it’s the high-power, slightly more competitive and, shall we say, feminist way of dating.

Whether that’s good or bad, is up to you.

The question I’m even more interested in though: is it effective?

And I think that it’s not the most effective approach to dating -at least for women who prefer getting the highest quality men they can-.
So the correct title would actually be “why some losers marry bitches, and why high-value men prefer feminine women“.

On the other hand, albeit I don’t necessarily agree with everything, Sherry Argov shares many gems in this book.
Especially useful and recommended to women “hunting for the one”, women who get clingy too soon, and women who are a bit too nice.

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