My dating advice for women is often different from your typical advice for a simple reason: most dating advice is poor quality, generic and, oftentimes, wrong.
Below I list some of the most dangerous myths and then explain why they’re wrong and what’s a better approach instead.
Contrary to most “dating tips for women” you find online I ground my approach in psychology, data, researches and lots of personal experience.
This page gives you an overview of proper dating backed by psychology, science & researches and quite a bit of attentive personal experience.
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#1. Make Him Chase
But who chases… ?
This is the N.1 dating advice for women: you should make him chase.
The idea is that the more he chases, the more he will commit to you.
And there is some truth in that, you can read here how to make him chase.
However, it’s generic advice and it’s poor for high-quality women because it mostly works with lower quality men and in very specific situations.
The rule of thumb is this: lower quality men will chase and appreciate you more. Higher quality men will not chase and move on.
#2. Make Him Invest in You
But who invests without getting anything in return?
The second most popular advice is to make him invest as much as possible.
Things such as: pick you up, pay for dinner, do you favors etc.
The idea is that the more he invests, the more he will like you and the more he will commit.
And there is much truth in that.
However, same as for chasing, it’s mostly men who feel they’re not good enough who will try to “buy” their difference away..
#3 Feign Disinterest
…OK, but be ready to see him with your more available girlfriend
Faking disinterest is nothing but a form of making him chase more and invest more.
Yes: they are all connected.
Faking disinterest makes him chase your harder and gives you more power. In theory, if he shows more interest, it’s not a bad thing and, depending on what you want and on the relationship, it might be a great thing.
It’s risky though because men tend to end up with women who make it easier for them.
Many a woman ended up frustrated with men whom they liked, then fakely spurned, then got their heart broken seeing those men with some of
There is much we could say here, but as a rule of thumb, here is when faking disinterest works best:
- He doesn’t have too many options
- There aren’t too many available women
- He is traditional (ie.: believe a woman’s heart must be won)
- He is not too emotionally thin skinned (these guys don’t take rejections well)
- There are a lot of available men
In modern society, faking disinterest doesn’t work too well because there are more high-quality women than men, most men have a fragile ego and most men are not ready for a long and drawn fight to her heart (and vagina).
#4 Wait… As Long As Possible
#5. Men Want Independent Bitches
… Except it’s not true…
This is a popular advice coming from many female dating coaches (read “Men Like Bithces”).
And it’s very popular in the feminist age we live in becuase it seems to seamlessly marry the feminist ideal of the independet woman with the dating success that most women still crave.
So some women might think: great, I can be a successful career woman, get rich, be independent, and still have men lust after me?
Unluckily, it’s not as straightforward.
And like Aziz says in The Tao of Dating:
Respect for female strength does not translate into male attraction
Don’t blame the messenger: I’m only a sociologist demystifying dating for you.
And whether we like it or not, more feminine and more submissive women have more dating options.
On the plus side, the strong woman though is better suited at finding a more submissive man and controlling the relationship. These relationships tend to be more stable and last longer.
Getting Your Facts Straight
Alright, we debunked some dating myths.
Now let’s build on it with some good dating theory instead.
Here are a few key articles to get you started:
- Learn games men play
- Biggest dating mistakes
- Make him value you more
- 2 poisonous games weak men play in relationships
- Best dating books for women
- Psychology of players
- Types of alpha females
- Traits of high-quality women
This article shows a lot of research and dating theory that back my work, but it’s long and pedantic… You have been warned:
Proper Dating “How Tos “
Questions?
Head over to the forums, where you can find more dating wisdom and where you can ask questions.
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About the Author: Lucio Buffalmano
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