One Date by Chase Amante is a course for men on dating and attracting women.
- Focus on fundamentals: they are your 80%
- You need to balance value and attainability to make her feel she can get you
- Test what kind of girls and date she needs -arousal or connection-. Then provide it
One Date Summary
Notice that this review of One Date is for One Date System and Module One only. I canceled the successive charges
Focus on Fundamentals
Chase says that the two most important fundamentals are:
- Leading (asking her on a date, to come home with you and making your move)
- Personal Fundamentals (voice, body language, posture, fashion)
If you don’t do anything else but focus on doing those two, you’ll be successful.
VAC stand for:
- Value (your value)
- Attainability (how attainable your value feels to her, if she can get you)
- Compliance (have her follow your lead, start building it soon and escalate it)
VAC is foundational to Chase’s model, but to sleep with you, Chase says you should focus more on SAC:
SAC stands for:
- Similarity (she should feel you two are connected and somewhat similar)
- Arousal (if she’s not aroused at all she won’t be able to reach that point when she’s ready to have sex)
- Compliance (if she’s not compliant then she doesn’t follow your lead until the bedroom)
These are the three key core principles you should hit with a woman. Each woman will need more of one or the other, and you should structure your date and present yourself based on what she prefers.
You want to start with connection, then some arousal, then compliance.
Thrill seekers, novelty seekers and high energy girl might want more arousal, and they build that connection through the arousing activities.
To find out who she is:
- Ask her to do something small for you. If she does it, she’s a compliance girl, if not:
- Do arousing stuff (flirting, teasing, banter or break small rules)
- If the first two don’t work you need to build a connection
You could see the SAC mode as going from most sexually switched off to readier for sex.
If she’s not very compliant and does not respond well to arousal she needs more similarity and connection.
Chase says that the same girl might seek different values from different guys, but most girls usually need an emotional connection.
Breaking Rules & Arousal
There is a connection between how much a woman is sexually open and how impulsive and thrill seeker she is. The more she is into arousing activities, the bigger the rules you have to break.
If she’s not very sexually open, tone it down or you risk to scare her off.
The triggers for arousal in the brain are the same for risky and high-adrenaline behavior.
Risk and excitement are on the same wavelength, meaning that if you do something crazy together she can mis-attribute her excitement as sexual excitement for you -which is true and something Boothman and Vanessa also mentioned-.
Chase also mentions some rules you can break, check the course for more details.
Signs She’s Ready
At a certain point dates shift mood and it means she’s ready for the next step (going home, possibly).
Some signs are: smiling at you, getting closer, stops talking for a while, looks at you lustfully, touches you more.
Chase says that the old PUA advice of not leaning is not good.
If she likes you and you like her, you want to lean in, especially if she’s sharing about herself and your connection is increasing.
In a way, it’s about vulnerability: you put yourself out there and you give her the chance of doing the same.
Real Life Applications
There are many gold nuggets I took away form this course. Some of them:
Don’t Go Back to Previous Phases
If you go back to a previous phase of the courtship -ie: from intimate spot back to the dance floor- it will feel like you two are moving backwards.
Build Romance Back After Pauses
When you go back after for example the bathroom and she cooled off you want to cool off a bit too until you warm up again
As you know if you have been following my reviews, the higher the quality of the product, the more I nitpick.
Since Chase is one of the best in the industry, One Date was definitely going to be a tough review.
- One-date ideal: can be unhelpful to some guys & environments
I am not convinced on pushing this concept of “one-date” as the best possible ideal.
Dating strategies, like most life strategies, depend on context.
The environment, the strategies of what other players are pursuing, the culture and, of course, the personal characteristics of the man and woman who are dating, all contribute to make make the either the quick-moving lover or the slower provider more efficient.
This is why I believe that taking one strategy and saying “this is what always works best” is not an ideal approach.
It will work well in many situations and with some guys… But less well for others. Especially for those who are not experienced enoguh.
- Presenting yourself to her taste… Or screening based on who you are?
“One Date” is based idea of presenting yourself to the girl as she likes. That’s fine, but the other philosophy of being who you are and screening for those who are like you is also valid.
- Dripped Content
You only get access to the first module with the first payment.
Then you have to wait a month for the new module (and play extra for it).
That’s quite unwieldy and I like freedom. what if I want to skip some parts or finish everything in a couple of sitting?
Albeit I’m thinking of doing the same for my own course, I thought that timeline was too slow.
- Default Purchase Locks In Monthly Charges
It was my bad that I didn’t realize that 67 USD was only for the first module, but I was very surprised when I found out that I was going to be billed on a monthly basis.
At an additional 99 USD/month I felt it was too pricey and since my credit card was on file I had to contact the support to cancel the charges for the subsequent modules.
- Can’t Speed Up Videos
Life is too short to watch videos at natural speed.
I’m used to watch video at 2x, but you cannot change playing speed in One Date and Chase is definitely not a fast talker.
In the end I had to record the videos while away from the computer and then play it back at the speed I wanted once back.
That took me quite some time.
- Podcast “Two Guys Chatting” Style
I didn’t particularly like the interview and, sometimes, chatting format. It feels to me like it’s not super efficient.
- Uneeded Random Model
There is some random paid model the One Date videos like some older PUA products used to have.
Chase sometimes ask her what she thinks, but she goes unscripted and either added no value or even contradicted what was being said.
For example, talking about fashion as a fundamental, her comment was “who cares” :).
Not the smartest comment to make when the producers are trying to make the point that a sense of fashion is important.
But it can be good for a laugh.
- Sometimes It Devolves Into Random Chat
At times One Date becomes a bit of a chat between the two of them and sharing stories.
I don’t think that adds a lot of value: you can get personal stories in any bar, with any friend or in any free podcast.
- Protective Touch
I didn’t agree much with the protective touch, at least as shown in the video.
There was a pedestrian crossing in the video and it would have been better to forge ahead and expect the car to stop since it was their right of way.
I say this because that happened to me that while I stopped the car also stopped and then you look like overly cautions. It’s usually best to claim your right way when it’s your turn to walk rather than to stop.
- Discouraing Direct Approaches?
Chase seems not to like direct sexual openers much.
For example he says that if you are sitting next to a girl and tell her she has amazing sexy legs “that’s going to be a long bus ride” :).
LOL that was funny and indeed if it falls flat it’s going to be a hell of a long-ass drive :D.
I see where he’s coming from, yet I’ve had some great success with direct sexual compliments.
Again, what he says is true for most situations, but direct sexual can work wonders to snap girls out of random pilot. Sometimes it’s even better than simple direct such as “you looked cute”. That can be weak and make you come across just as another guy chasing her.
But direct sexual puts you in another category.
The information is great, so the whole course is a big pro.
- Great Nuggets of Wisdom
I loved a few nuggets of wisdom. For example if she ends the date that’s not good for you. What you can do then is to make light of it or you can ask her one more question and then tell her to head out. Smart move.
Another one was about compliance. If you grab and move her, it’s not bad, but she hasn’t complied on her own volition, it’s still better if you also ask her to do things and she does it.
- Very Good Psychology
Breadcrumb effect, asking investment and increasing it, Benjamin Franklin Effect… A lot of psychology is about social influencing and goes well beyond dating as well.
- Honest and Sincere
Sometimes you read some guys writing on dating -and I felt the same with Chase sometimes too- and it feels like they have this attitude of “fuck her or you suck”.
One Date is not like that.
It’s very open about all times it doesn’t work out and all the times it didn’t work out for the producers. That’s something most people will better be able to relate to and I liked it.
Chase Amante Development
Sometimes I felt that Chase was rather black and white in the sense of “never do this” or “that will never work”.
It was the case with paying for dates for example, or with not using FB.
And I saw where he was coming from and agreed with some of the social reasoning behind it… Yet the generalization is just that: a generalization (plenty of women I slept with through Facebook for example, once even fixing a first bad date which is rare).
And paying for dates can work wonders if you can make it look like you have so much that you don’t need to care for money (also read the article on successful providers).
But in “One Date”, he seemed much more on the “it depends” spectrum here.
For example, in spite it’s marketed as “one date” he says that you can do in more dates.
Or he says that if you get early or strong to rejections on LMR you can also discuss it rationally -instead of just emotionally and getting sexier-.
Those are exceptions, yes, but to understand the general dynamics it’s important to also understand exceptions.
One Date Review
First of all: You saw a lot of entries in the “cons” section there, and that begs me repeating:
I run this website as the place where you can come to find top notch reviews on anything related to people and life-strategies.
To provide with top notch reviews, I always dig deeper on high-quality content.
And One Date has a lot of high-quality content.
Getting to One Date
To get to that content though… It took some time.
I still don’t understand the marketing of One Date, which maybe says a lot about my still heavily underdeveloped marketing skills.
But I found the video that you are forced to watch highly obnoxious.
You are forced to go rought a super long pre-sales video that I had no intention nor willingness to sit through. But… You have to.
And again, not possiblity of letting it go faster.
That used to be case for old PUA products and it always felt snake-oily to me.
The format of “two men interviewing each other in front of a camera” wasn’t my cup of tea.
I think you can deliver information in a course in a more effective way these days (video examples, role plays etc.).
But it wasn’t too bad either: at least it was information-focused and not much time wasted on chit chat.
Of all the male dating material I have gone through, Chase Amante is one of the guys who gets the psychological nuances best.
As of now his former ebook How to Make Girls Chase is one one of the highest rated dating books for men I’ve ever reviewed. So expectation for One Date was higher.
I haven’t gone through the whole course, but for the first part of it, I can say that I liked it.
Also see: best dating resources for men.